Anyone elses pregnancy being ruined?

[reginaphalange101]

Just found out that my partner is banned from our 20 week scan because of the bloody virus i feel so lucky to be carrying our little bundle and am so grateful to be healthy, but on a selfish note - this is not how I pictured it at all

The year started out amazing, we found our dream house and had our little baby on route. Now the house sale is likely to fall through and I can't even enjoy the precious moments of pregnancy with OH and have to do it alone. You don't get these moments back and it's all just shit. I try to focus on positives but keep getting knocked back down, as if pregnancy isn't hard enough with the hormones there's just so much added stress. I should be enjoying scans with my partner, picking out baby clothes and decorating her nursery. Instead I'm stuck inside completely alone and have to experience magical lifelong memories by myself.

Anyone else feeling overwhelmed by this?

@reginaphalange101
Thanks. I don't mean to come across as uncaring.

I never got the full pregnancy experience because my daughter arrived before the antenatal classes started. I didn't get the birth I wanted as she arrived early and was in the SCBU. I never really got to wear most of the maternity gear etc. No stretch marks is the only positive!

It does make me feel sad at times but at the end of it all I got my baby. I think about my friends, who despite many rounds of expensive IVF, were unsuccessful. My relative who hasn't been able to adopt (it's the right call but hard on her) and the other mums in the SCBU whose babies didn't survive or were left with serious health conditions. For me, thinking about all that I was grateful for helps me deal with the disappointment from not getting the perfect pregnancy experiences.

I think there will be a lot of solidarity in that every new mother will have gone through the same situation and I think the new 'mum friends' will come - just at a slightly later point in the journey.