20 week scan partner not allowed

[Firsttimemummywilson]

I have my 20 week scan next week and rang to check it was going ahead today in light of the Coronavirus advice but I was told I have to go on my own without my husband. Has anyone else been told this? I know they usually do not allow you to film the scan but do you think it's reasonable to make an exception. Just really sad he will miss this as he wasn't able to attend my 12 week one :(

It's reasonable that your husband is not allowed to be there. It's for his protection as much as yours, sorry.

And for the protection of the HCP who will be performing the scan too, of course

I'm due my scan next week at 13 weeks and was also told my partner isnt allowed in with me either. I've to be prepared in case it gets cancelled also 😔

Mine is next week too and have been wondering if this will be the case. I completely understand why they will do it but still feel very sad and anxious if my husband can't be there.

When I had my children 25 years ago it was very unusual for partners to accompany women for scans. I was on my own for both and it was such a lovely surprise to get the blurry photo to show him!

It's not essential he is there. It's essential you are.

That’s shocking but understandable. 20 week scans are ones you may need support for though. I’m so sorry that you have to go through it alone OP. I went for a growth scan only last week and none of the staff were washing their hands, handling everyone’s maternity records, urine pots etc. They’re not doing as much as they could IMO

It's entirely reasonable I'm afraid - hospitals must do all they can to limit footfall and the spread of the virus. We are all having to make sacrifices of one sort of another. It's disappointing of course but given that hospitals are having to cancel non-emergency treatments across the board, then I'm afraid this kind of thing is something we are all going to have to learn to live with the in short term.

I had to cancel my scan this week as I have a cough, so it could be worse? Don't know when I'll be able to reschedule.

It’s a shame but necessary in hospitals really- make sure you ask for a good selection of photos to take home with you instead!

I have my 20 week scan on 6 May and when I booked it last Friday I was told that my husband wouldn’t be able to attend. Very sad and scary time but will follow the hospital guidance to try and keep everyone safe.

Went for a growth scan today and partner wasn’t allowed at scan or in the waiting room

I can imagine that's really disappointing, but it's also understandable. I'd get some photos printed, so you can share these with your partner when you get home. And if you're hoping to find out the gender, you could always ask the sonographer not to tell you in the room but to write it down on a piece of paper and pop in an envelope (that you take with you), and you and your partner could then do a mini private gender reveal at home together?

It's sad but small fry in the context of what is happening. No, they should not be making an exception.

I am due to give birth any day now. If they say my DH can't be there for the birth it will be difficult but we will manage.

I’m really worried about this as I’ve got terrible anxiety and my fiancé is my comfort blanket, scans make me super anxious.

Is it worth me ringing to check or will they contact me if he isn’t allowed to come?

Is it worth me ringing to check or will they contact me if he isn’t allowed to come?

Please dont just take him along. Hospitals have made it very clear that no one will be allowed in unless they are receiving treatment. The only exceptions are parents of children, and close relatives of people who are about to pass away.
He could drive you there but would need to wait the car.

@soontobe60 I’ve just spoken to him there and I think that is what we’re going to do, he’s going to just wait in the car park for me. I’m gonna have to put my big girl pants on and go in on my own

Our local hospital is doing the same. There are strict visiting rules on the Maternity Unit as well with only partners allowed - no other relatives including siblings.

Wow, had mine yesterday & it sounds like we got in just in time for husband to be there too. As others have said, it's a real shame for partners to miss out on the experience and potentially a very difficult thing to be alone for, but I can also totally understand why hospitals are doing it.

I know it's no real consolation as you'd want him there, but maybe ask if he can be on FaceTime/video call? It's live, not recorded? I guess that's what I'd do in that case.

I’m very concerned that birth partners/fathers won’t be allowed at the birth soon!

This is my worry too! Our hospital saying at the moment that one named birthing partner will be allowed but putting husband on strict lockdown for next fortnight so he doesn’t get any sniffles or anything to make sure there’s def nothing stopping him being there. They are also stopping post natal checks in person where we are!

They can make an exception if you are under a CMHT for your mental health otherwise I think you have to go it alone.

I understand why they are doing it but idk how I would have coped without my husband at mine, as the scan came back with serious defects and we then had to discuss things like termination in that scan. I couldn't have done it alone.

I'm keeping an eye on this too. My dating scan is in just under 2 weeks and I'm expecting the same.
After previous bad news I'm nervous but I understand why they need to do it.
I just hope by the time October comes he is still allowed to come for the birth.

@Emberfoot I'm very sorry you had bad news at your scan.

It's not very helpful to tell the op and others that you couldn't have done it alone; you could if you had needed to.

My grandmother had her first child when my grandpa was overseas in ww2 and he couldn't come back until the baby was 2.5 years old.

In extraordinary circumstances people do manage.