Nervous to find out the gender

[Charis1503]

Have a little boy who I adore, and if this baby is another healthy boy I will absolutly love and cherish him.

I am super excited to meet this baby and feel very blessed and grateful that I have been fortunate enough to carry two lovely babies.

I find out tomorrow or wednesday the sex of this baby but im terrified how i will feel if im told im never having a daughter. We r only planning 2 kids so whilst i will love and adore this baby if its a boy, it would mean never having a daughter.

This is absolutly NOT the same as wishing this baby away/not being grateful/rejecting this baby for being a boy ect ect. This baby will be loved and wanted regardless of its sex.

Its more the confirmation that i would never be having a daughter...

We lost a baby a few years back in a really traumatic miscarriage, which I ended up needing emergency surgery for. It was a little girl. I supose i got through it because i truly believed you are gifted the children you are meant to have... i guess i always believed she would come back to us one day. If she doesnt, im not sure how i close that chapter or if il spend the next 50 years feeling something is missing....

Wow OP. I wasn't here when this thread started in 2020 but I have read it all with tears in my eyes and no judgement.
What a journey you have been on.
I am sorry for the two losses you experienced, happy that you have 2 wonderful sons and pleased you finally got some answers! Heartbreaking but better to know so you can explore other avenues.
Wishing you lots of luck as you continue this journey

I’m so sorry to hear this OP. You’ve had such a difficult journey. I can’t believe how
much you’ve had to go through. Praying you get your little girl via adoption. Please keep us updated. Wishing you all the best! X

@Charis1503 I wondered if you'd like to talk further outside of this forum. I lost my daughter in 2022 and have had a son since. I'm pregnant again and really struggling. Would be good to chat. Let me know if you'd like to speak as I can see lots of similarities between us.

How are you OP? I often think about you xx

UPDATE - 5.5 years later.

Well what a journey ive been on.

Having well and truly, really drawn a line under the possibility of having my little Sasha, I threw myself in to life, in to the boys, in to a lovely new relationship. with the knowledge that I have a genetic condition making a healthy little girl virtually impossible, I went on the pill and began to enjoy life and plan holidays.

Only to be very surprised with two pink lines.

I am nearing my third trimester with my longed for Daughter. She has smashed all of her genetic testing, looks perfect on the scans and has two VERY excited big brothers desperate to meet her.

@Mummyspider27 you are kind to have kept me in your thoughts x
@peetieswie I am very happy to chat privately, I had actually come to terms with my boy mum status and life experience largely shaped this.

Oh my goodness! Best news I have heard in a very, very long time. I was on your original threads and have never stopped thinking about you or awaiting this update. Enjoy every moment with your longer for daughter. Am so happy for you.

@Charis1503 I am so pleased to hear your baby is growing perfectly healthy. I’m keeping everything crossed for you.

I hope your heart is starting to heal after a truly horrendous ride for you.

Wow!! Such amazing news. They do always say it always works out in the end, she was obviously waiting until you had settled into a new relationship!! Such wonderful news, so so happy for you xxx

Wow I have just read all of your thread and so happy for you! X

Incredible news, congrats OP.

Hi Charis

I just saw this today, which is honestly so strange because I never check the app but I happened to be posting about something else (I probably write one post about every four years or so!)

I haven't forgotten you and your original thread and the absolute desperation for your girl, and also to have another girl to raise and I felt exactly the same. I found out a few days after I commented that the baby I was having was a girl. She's 11 months old now, which is the age my first daughter was diagnosed with leukaemia so I'm holding my breath, but she is absolutely wonderful and looks so much like her sister.

I'm not sure how to privately message to exchange any contact details but happy to chat privately. I am so glad for you. I know that you love your boys but I relate to that yearning to raise a girl after experiencing such profound loss.

Sending love. Pregnancy after loss is immensely hard.