Did anyone tell parents before their 12 week scan?

[JeniRog]

Hi all

I've found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant (yippee!!!)

I'm really close with my mum and there's no way I'll be able to keep the news from her for 8 weeks.

My question is, did any of you tell any close family before your 12 week scan?

Thanks for your time xx

I told my pare ts before I think I was only about 6 weeks when I told them and I told my best friends when I was about 10 weeks xx

Yes - I told my parents.

Yes and our friends too.
Pile of nonsense waiting. If things are to go wrong they’ll go wrong no matter if you wait or not. Also the more people who know, the more people can help & support you if the worst does happen.

I told my parents around 6 weeks! Couldn't help myself!

Yes, I told them as soon as I found out

I told my parents and in-laws at 8 weeks. Would have told my parents earlier but it was only at 8 weeks I got the opportunity to see them in person.

12 weeks was the advice when miscarriage was taboo. Tell anyone you would want to support you through miscarriage including friends.

Yes we told our parents. I would have liked to wait until we had a scan pic but we had a wedding to go to and they would have guessed as I was not drinking or smoking. I wanted to tell them the news rather than them asking or guessing.

Yes, all close family was told. I had HG so I wouldn't have been able to keep it from them even if I wanted to.

Yes, told mine as soon as I found out.

I would have told my mum straight away but it took us 4 years to conceive and by then I couldn't bear bringing her the heartache of good news with the risk of miscarriage so I waited til 7 weeks, paid for a private scan and told her then (risk is massively reduced after a heartbeat at 7 weeks)

If we hadn't struggled though I would have told her straight away

I told parents, close family & close friends. I hated feeling like I was keeping a secret for some arbitrary reason as a 12 week scan. Past 8 weeks theres only a 4% chance of miscarraige and I wouldnt want to keep a miscarraige a secret anyway.

I had three IVF miscarriages before this pregnancy.

Pretty hard to keep IVF pregnancies a secret, and I think the idea that you should keep miscarriages a secret is perverse too - though that's how the 12-week "rule" makes me feel.

I told my mum the day I took the pregnancy test and my dad the day after. It was a week before my period I got my bfp

I told my mum with all seven of my pregnancies. I needed her for the the three miscarriages I had and also it was nice to have someone to talk to about being pregnant would been through it.

I did because my parents are at my house quite a lot and they pick up on changes in me, especially as I struggle with my mental health they like to check in on me. I would need their support no matter the outcome so I told them at 5 weeks and they came to our 8 week private scan x

I did as I would have needed their support had it not been successful anyway.

Thanks for this thread. I always thought I'd have to wait to tell anyone until 12 weeks but what you've all said makes sense and I'd rather have the support if things went wrong.

We told our parents at about 7 weeks and I wish we hadn't. My in laws couldn't understand what morning sickness was, why I wasn't "glowing", had anxiety about the baby's outcome and wasn't out buying a pram before I was 12 weeks, and they told wider family even when we had told them not to which I will never forgive. My family asked me every question under the sun that we hadn't even discussed as a couple yet - childcare for when I went back to work, my future career prospects, finances, moving up our wedding date etc. Both sets on paper just "very excited" of course. Drove me into deep anxiety and I wish we had waited until after 12 weeks when we had processed things ourselves a bit more tbh.

Thank you so much for all of your responses, I don't know how to tag you all individually or reply individually.

Thank you xx

Told parents and MIL as soon as we found out. Had to tell someone I was too excited!

Oh and CONGRATULATIONS!

Also told parents as soon as we found out, TTCing again, not sure to tell them early this time, only as we want to avoid worries

I told all my friends and family at about 3 weeks! The way I saw it was that if I ended up losing the baby I would tell them anyway so there was no point of keeping it secret.

With the second pregnancy I didn’t tell anybody until 6 months in - I was waiting to see how long it would take them to notice!

Thank you I'm over the moon