Did anyone tell parents before their 12 week scan?

[JeniRog]

Hi all

I've found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant (yippee!!!)

I'm really close with my mum and there's no way I'll be able to keep the news from her for 8 weeks.

My question is, did any of you tell any close family before your 12 week scan?

Thanks for your time xx

We told both sets of parents and siblings within a couple of days of the positive tests.

We told family and close friends long before the 12w scan! We both told our parents the day we got a positive test. In fact with both pregnancies my mum was anticipating it anyway as she knew we were trying- I tell her everything!

Yup. Having been through a MC I knew I'd need my mum if anything happened again so I told her pretty much straight away.

I called my mum as soon as the PLUS came up. This was our 3rd PLUS after 2 previous mmc so they kind of needed to because of the risks. I must of only been 2/3 weeks gone. Very early but needed to tell them.

You've all firmly made my decision to tell mum and dad early 😊😊

I told mine and close friends. Lots of prior miscarriages and would have wanted their support should it not go well. I don’t believe in 12 week thing as a rule. Do what feels right for you.

Congratulations OP x

I Told all close family, my closest friend and my manager before my 12 week scan. I wanted to share my happy news with those closest to me and I knew I'd need a bit of understanding from my manager in terms of dealing with the sickness and tiredness. You cant jink a pregnancy by telling people too soon so if you want to tell your mum tell her

Yeah, go for it. We told parents, siblings and best friends basically straight away. The thinking process being that if anything bad happened we would want their support.

And congratulations!! What an exciting time for you.

Thank you! So excited!

Congratulations 💖💙

We have told our families, both parents have previously dealt with MC so are aware it's early but I feel their support would be invaluable

Think it was about 10/12 weeks when I got my scan date.

I told mum and dad and swore them to secrecy. My mum told my nana (who told everyone she met), my sister and brother so they wouldn’t feel left out. So effectively all my family.

My ILs to their credit told no one and were most out when my mum told she’s blabbed to everyone.

@JeniRog I love how excited you are, have a lovely pregnancy!

We had a scan at 9 weeks and told them on Xmas eve.

You're welcome.

Hope all goes well and totally forgot to congratulate you!

I congratulated a work colleague on her pregnancy only for her to tell me she had lost the baby. The news of her pregnancy had reached me through the grapevine, but not the news of her miscarriage. Dreadful. I felt dreadful, and it must have been so painful for her.

Congrats! I rang my mum and dad as soon as I got my BFP at 5 weeks. I am very close to my parents so couldn’t have imagined keeping the news from them for weeks.

I didn’t but I’m not particularly close to my mum and although she’d mean well she wouldn’t necessarily respond helpfully if I needed support for a miscarriage. I have told a few close friends though at 9 weeks because I would be happy for them to know if something went wrong and value their support through the first few months. It’s crazy to me that the months when you are keeping quiet are the months when you feel the most awful and need the support and sympathy of people around you

I told anybody I was comfortable with telling any good and bad news too so those I'm very close too. More distant people i told after the scan. Congratulations!!

I haven't told my parents yet. I'm 12 weeks today. I have my scan on Friday so I'm hoping to give them the news then. I've had 3 MC's, two they're aware of. I've told a couple of close friends and that's it till my scan.

I honestly wouldn't want anyone except DH to know if I miscarry. Going to wait as long as physically possible to tell people, as I am enjoying the feeling of just us two knowing (and my friend who is a midwife).

My Mum knew before DH did both times.

He was at work and I felt like it wasn't acceptable to tell him over the phone but I couldn't keep my mouth shut so I phoned her instead 😂

My mum knew straight away

Yes, no 12 week scan then (just 18 weeks )

I am very close and open with my mum and we happened to be staying with her when I found out I was pregnant for the 1st time- by then it was 6yrs TTC. No, I didn't tell her. I thought it would be a surprise after the NIPT. Sadly things didn't work out, but I'm still glad we didn't tell. It as bad enough us grieving without also having to explain to her and other family members! We were able to grieve in our own way without the sadness and 'thoughts' from others. With our 2nd pregnancy when we were back in our own home, I also told no one. Also, glad we never said anything because at I MC at 7 weeks.
Its a personal choice, but for me, I didnt want constant questions about the pregnancy to re-hash wounds and didnt need wider family knowing what had happened.

I should add that I was absolutely excited, and wanted to tell, but also well aware of the statistics and have a level head!