Did anyone tell parents before their 12 week scan?

[JeniRog]

Hi all

I've found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant (yippee!!!)

I'm really close with my mum and there's no way I'll be able to keep the news from her for 8 weeks.

My question is, did any of you tell any close family before your 12 week scan?

Thanks for your time xx

We live in different countries and I told them via Skype when I was 5 weeks. They were thrilled!
Congrats :)

Congratulations! We told both our parents the day we found out, both our parents were such good support during a miscarriage, was happy to tell them early. My best friend knew before I'd even had a positive test, we were going for a night out and I thought I might be pregnant again so didn't want to drink, I couldn't of hidden it from her!

Yes, both sets as soon as we heard. They knew to keep it to themselves. We probably told siblings too.

As others have said, I felt that if I did miscarry, them knowing was going to be a support rather than a burden.

Son and DIL told both sets of parents at four weeks. We were super excited but respected their wish not to tell others until 12 weeks.

I told my parents the day i found out. In fact i was overseas at the time and i woke them up in the middle of the night screeching into the phone

I also told the entire rest of my family early, because i was supposed to be at a wedding overseas and i was told at 6 weeks that due to some complications its not recommended to fly at all during the pregnancy.
I told them right away, because i was part of the wedding and they needed to replace me.

Yes. Told both sets the weekend after we found out!

There's encouragement to share the news as when you feel ready these days.

If you want to tell them then do! It's a lovely exciting time. Congratulations

We didn't tell parents on either side before scans but that's just because I would t want to then have to tell them about another miscarriage (I've had lots) my mother isn't very supportive and although my MIL is I just didn't feel like I'd want to tell

Yes, we told immediate family by about six weeks with both of my pregnancies, plus a trusted colleague at work once my sickness kicked in. If you’d want their support if the worst happened then that’s a good rule of thumb to tell them, imho.

I told my parents about 2 minutes after I took the test, after a miscarriage and 12 months of TTC I couldn’t hold my excitement in.

I would, because I'd probably confide in them if something went wrong anyway so the reason for not saying anything would be moot.

we told our parents the day we found out - i sent my mum a pic of the positive test and she immediately rang me and asked "is that yours?!" i was like, no mum i've just sent you a photo of some rando's pee stick - obviously it's mine!

we're pretty close with our family but also don't live that close to them - so telling them early was right for us. my mother in law rings me constantly to check up which i sometimes find a bit exhausting but overall she means well and it's nice that she's cares... she signs off the phone calls now with 'love to all four of you' (we're having twins) which is so sweet lol. fortunately neither of our families have any of the boundary issues i seem to read about a lot on here or we may have been less happy to share

i also told my best friend about 3 minutes after i told my DH, and told my boss that same week too. then told a few more friends/colleagues after an early scan at 8 or 9 weeks.

we're 17 weeks now and i still find myself worrying occassionally
that we've told people too early - just because of how difficult it would be to 'untell' them if something went wrong. but equally - i would be telling most of the people i told early anyway if something happened, as they are the people who would be supporting me.

Our plan is to tell parents after my private 8 week scan (I'm currently 5+3) but I'm finding it so hard. I've had to tell some other people due to circumstances but would really like a picture to show when I tell my parents. Plus my OH doesn't want to tell his parents until that point and I don't want to rock an already rocky boat any further by my parents finding out a lot earlier than his!

I think with all of my grandchildren we were told bret soon after the pregnancy test. A day or so later probably. However, with one of my girls it was something I said to her that prompted her to do a pregnancy test and another time it was something me and her dad said to her when she opened the door to us one day.

I don’t understand keeping it a secret but then the world would be a boring place if we were all the same.

We had an 8 week scan then told family and friends.

I’ve also been at the birth of all 7 of my grandchildren and will be at the birth of our new arrival in a few months if my son in law is away with work.

Yes - my DM and she shared the news with my DF despite my explicit request to not tell him until I had a NIPT test done with good results back.

Consider the possibility that they might spread the news against your wishes.
(If I ever have a second baby my DM will hear the news after I have told everyone else, certainly not before 12 weeks!)

Yes - we were going away for the weekend with PIL and I was sick as a dog and struggled to stay awake past 9pm so couldn't really keep it secret We told my parents over Skype before we went and PIL when we saw them.

Parents, in laws and siblings were told at 7 weeks, but we had an IVF pregnancy so it would have been a nightmare to keep it quiet until 12 weeks. We waited until after our viability scan to make sure everything was okay and then wider family were told after the 12 week scan.

IVF pregnancies are hard to keep quiet unless you do not tell anyone you are going through treatment. MIL kept trying to ask so we ended up telling her that with hormone injections pregnancy tests don't work if you have IVF so you have to wait for the scan. At least that bought us a few weeks.

Yep I told parents and close friends, then after my 10 week scan I told everyone else

I used to but went on to lose 7 pregnancies up to and including 12 weeks. After my mother said she didn't consider it a baby until past 12 weeks pregnancy I decided I wouldn't be saying anything next time

Yes , if something were to happen then I would have rather they know and be there with support