Would you?

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So after much deliberation we have decided the name of our little girl who is due in March, as it was more my choice for our 1st daughter I've let DH pick and he's chosen Aubrey Jane..I really like the name so win win.

Well we have told our family and literally everyone hates it, apparently its horrible and whe wont like it when shes older blah blah! Not one person so far has said it's nice which to be fair is a little disappointing as it's taken us ages because quite frankly we exhausted all ideas with our 1st daughter who's only 14 months.

What would you do?, should we stick to our guns or look for a different name? DH think our baby our choice, but I really dont want to constantly be hearing oh your DD has a horrible name 🙁

How rude of everyone. It’s your decision. Personally think it’s a lovely name. Xx

There is nothing wrong with the name. Although, I personally wouldn’t choose it, I don’t think it’s offensive in any way and once I’ve said it a few times it’s actually quite pretty. I commented on a post over on the baby names section just yesterday saying I think people should choose the names they like/want and not let family members sway them.
My son has an unusual name that most my family didn’t like and agree with, my in-laws Even refused to use it and referred to him by his middle name. When he was 7 he asked them to call him by his actual name, which they now do.
I think they’ll come around when she is here. Keep her name :)

I think it's a lovely name OP

This is exactly why I'm not going to tell family or friends any of our name choices!

Stick to your guns. It's lovely.

Your child, your choice. Everyone will get used to it, so if you like it that's all that matters. If you hadn't told anyone & just announced it when she arrived nobody would have said a thing.

Privately I'd wonder why you gave your daughter a boy's name (because Aubrey is traditionally male) but I wouldn't say anything.

If you like it, that is all that matters.

Thank you, it's really been playing on my mind as it has taken so long to find a name we both like. Jane would just be a middle name rather than hyphenated.

@DramaAlpaca you're not the 1st person to mention it being Male, my younger sister actually said do you know that's Drake's (rapper/singer whatever he is) real name..... I'm not sure I think it's most feminine in America as is in their top 100 girls. We found it on a website and liked it.

I think of Aubrey as a boy's name though I know it is used for girls in America - but they have all sorts of weird names there.

It's OK, I certainly wouldn't choose it. Jane is lovely, timeless and classic. I much prefer more 'ordinary' traditional names to faddy ones.

I love it :)

I think it's a lovely name, your child -your choice 😊

@Bluerussian

I wouldn't say it's a Faddy name. I like quite old names. When choosing me an DH try to think it what it would sound like when you're 40, which is why we have stayed away from a lot of the popular names at the moment as even though they are pretty a lot to me sound young. x

Call your child what you want.

I haven't told anyone what my baby's name will be - I maintain the theory that before the actual child is born, people feel very free to give their opinion (and not necessarily in a sensitive way), whereas once it's arrived and you announce the birth of baby Whatever, they'll be much more likely to bite their tongue even if they don't personally love it.

They'll love the baby whatever she's called - so go forth and name her whatever you like.

Call your child whatever you want to. We did, and like you, had loads of negative responses from friends and family. We didn't take any notice. Now our son is two and I get many positive comments about his name, not that i would be bothered if we didn't as we love it and it really suits him. I think Aubrey Jane is a great name, and I would personally say it's more of a girls name, but I don't know any different as I dont know anyone called Aubrey 😀

I think the people you told were extremely rude. Call your baby girl whatever you want especially if you love the name. Who cares what anyone else thinks.

I think it's a beautiful name and your family are being incredibly rude

OK I am not keen but then at the same time it,s not the worst. I would stick with it, it,s not offensive just not their cup of tea.

In my sons nursery there are three boys called Aubrey so wouldn't say daddy.

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I would tell them all they're out of order. She's your baby, not theirs.

I actually didn't discuss baby names with anyone other than my partner in my first pregnancy, and I'll be doing the same in this one. It's nobody else's business and they're less likely to criticise if you've already named the baby.

I love the name Aubrey! I think people just say that because they maybe haven't heard it before. But when she is here they will change their minds I'm sure.

It's you and your OH choice and everyone else can learn to like it!

I think it’s a beautiful name and would 100% stick to your guns! I can’t stand how people other people think it’s ok to express opinion over name possibilities- unless explicitly asked for their opinion! We learnt this early on with our first and as a result kept his name between the 2 of us until he was born- people won’t comment when it’s actually someone’s name. We’re doing t he sane this time despite some family begging to know and we’ve told them as much why we won’t tell!!

Stick with it OP, it's a lovely name & once your DD's here I'm sure nobody will be able to imagine her having any other name.

I like it,stick with it if u love it,dont care what others think.

If you guys love it that's great. I am considering putting Aubrey on my list as I'm a fan of audrey hepburn and Aubrey feels more modern.

If it helps my mum was put off my sons name cos it turned out just before we confirmed the name her sister got a dog and used the same name! However now it's very much my sons, and she's his best bud so lol x