Would you?

[csmw]

So after much deliberation we have decided the name of our little girl who is due in March, as it was more my choice for our 1st daughter I've let DH pick and he's chosen Aubrey Jane..I really like the name so win win.

Well we have told our family and literally everyone hates it, apparently its horrible and whe wont like it when shes older blah blah! Not one person so far has said it's nice which to be fair is a little disappointing as it's taken us ages because quite frankly we exhausted all ideas with our 1st daughter who's only 14 months.

What would you do?, should we stick to our guns or look for a different name? DH think our baby our choice, but I really dont want to constantly be hearing oh your DD has a horrible name 🙁

I really like it.
I like Darcey too.
Stick to your choices!

All names come with a history of usage and cultural bagagge or references of some kind, as well as a perceived social standing, whether you agree with that perception or not. Aubrey has been used only as a boy's name until recently and also was part of a group of male names like Horace and Clarence that haven't yet come back in. Also its recent popularity as a girl's name is mostly in USA, though now speading elsewhere (and American feel names are not generally positively received in UK). Also you'll find in the stats that it's more used by younger parents. Also names of this style such as Kelly, Ashley, Courtney that transferred from male to female, and mostly at first in the US, all have had big peaks of popularity then fell right out of fashion and feel dated, in the way that a more traditional name like Audrey doesn't. And it's still new enough in general usage in UK that the family might never come across one, so think you're doing something really different when in fact you're right on trend. All of these reasons might explain why your family have received it negatively.

I love Audrey and Briar and so do love the sounds in Aubrey, and so was thinking why do I have a negative perception of Aubrey. Unpicking it I think I'm influenced by all the above reasons to a certain extent. That said, I do think it has lovely sounds and is definitely growing on me. And it sounds good with Jane. Sorry for your family's reaction and I do think you should stick with the name. Very rude of your family I think. If someone says a name I don't like I'll at least try to find something positive to say about it (sounds good with the surname, nice sounds etc). Different if I am being directly asked what I think in which case I will say what I think.

My husband is still adamant on the name but I'm wavering , hes much more strong minded than I am and has said people will just have to suck it up as it's our daughter not theirs x

He's right of course, but if you do want to change it them that's OK too. Whatever you do, just don't tell anyone the name this time!

Hi @csmw

My Aunty's friend Aubrey phoned her today & it made me think of you!

How did everything go?Very excited to hear all your news!

It's been a very odd time to have a baby - but perfect to keep yourself to yourself if you wanted to.

🌷

@AmelieTaylor

We actually went with Darcey in the end although we still love Aubrey. She was born on the 4/4 unfortunately it was 3 days after my dad passed away from Covid 19 so it was a very surreal experience as I was grieving but happy.

Labour was quick but had a little issue as her shoulder got stuck but they dealt with it swiftly.

I'd been quite weird hasn't it with all that's going on x

The only thing that would put me off is it's Boycie's name in Only Fools and Horses and so for me, a very much male name

It's not my style but wanted to say they is a little girl called Aubrey in my dds preschool class and it suits her fine. I think it sounds more girly, even though I know it's traditionally male

I LOVE the name Aubrey! For the same reasons we aren't telling anyone our name as I find it so rude when people think they can comment negatively on it.. I'd just see how you feel when you give birth and if baby looks like an Aubrey, then go for it 😊

@csmw so sorry about the news of your Dad, must have been such a testing time for you all with such mixed emotions. Darcey is a lovely name

People wont be so free with their opinions when your baby actually has that name. Dont change your mind because people are rude!!

@csmw

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad 😢🌷 I can't imagine having given birth a few days after my Dad died & the conflicting emotions, plus obviously the difficulties due to Covid xx

I have an Aunt & a friend who have their birthdays on the 4/4 - good date! 😊

For such small squishy things, they do seem to manage to stick things out when being evicted!! Ouch.

I love the name Darcey! 💕

Hard to believe she's almost 4 months already!!

What's her colouring like? How has your eldest taken to her?

You do realise you'll have to have another girl now, you can't leave Aubrey/Aubree hanging!!! 😊

It astounds me, that even despite the new facility to only read the OP's posts,people still don't bother reading them before posting 🤣

@WTS2020

Thank you, it really was. Darcey has been a blessing at such a hard time

We have a Aubree :) we love her name and it really suits her, when asked her name we always get comments on what a lovely name it is

Your mistake was in telling the name before the baby was born. If you’d waited till you’d registered the birth no one would have commented. In any case, they will all love the baby whatever she is called. My GD is nearly 9 and I adore her, but I still don’t like her name! In the end, it doesn’t matter.

@AmelieTaylor Thank you my dad passed away just after midnight the day after my due date. He was in hospital for 10 days and we was not allowed to see him and he was unable to use a phone due to the oxygen and his confusion. He died alone we were so angry on top of grieving.

The maternity hospital were fabulous with me as I had a growth scan the day after and I sobbed the whole way through and was begging to be induced, they said I could have whatever I wanted. Luckily my midwife gave me a sweep and that got things going so no extra intervention was needed.

Haha not so small and squishy in my case as she was 9lbs 2oz 🙈 nearly 4 months and starting to really show her personality, shes a lot more chilled out then her older sister.

Emilia gives he hugs and kisses every day and tries to help feed and change her which is just adorable. When we first bought her home she was ever so confused we have a hilarious picture of her "what the hell is going on face".

Their colouring is totally different Darcey has taken after me darker skin, hair and eyes. She is also very long so she's going to be tall. I attached a pic although not the best 🤦🏽‍♀️

Haha Darcey is definitely my last , although my husband keeps joking about getting a triple pushchair xx