Would you?

[csmw]

So after much deliberation we have decided the name of our little girl who is due in March, as it was more my choice for our 1st daughter I've let DH pick and he's chosen Aubrey Jane..I really like the name so win win.

Well we have told our family and literally everyone hates it, apparently its horrible and whe wont like it when shes older blah blah! Not one person so far has said it's nice which to be fair is a little disappointing as it's taken us ages because quite frankly we exhausted all ideas with our 1st daughter who's only 14 months.

What would you do?, should we stick to our guns or look for a different name? DH think our baby our choice, but I really dont want to constantly be hearing oh your DD has a horrible name 🙁

I think it's lovely. This is why I'm probably not going to tell anyone our babies name until they're born. People can be so rude.

Stick with the name you want!
My son's name I was told by MIL and BIL because of the name we had chosen he will be gay and it's a girls name, that when he brings men home I'm to blame and this went on for months.
My daughter then was named just before she was born and MIL rang and was on loud speaker and said to pass a message on to me that the name I had picked was a slags name.

They're really lovely people as you can tell 😐😑😶🙄

Since both of my kids have been born noones mentioned their names since!!!! So I'm glad I stood my ground as no-one gave a crap once my babies were here.
I'm now pregnant with my 3rd and they've not given an opinion of his name as... it would not go down well this time around. (After the shite with my daughter mil was banned from my home for a while)

Defo stick with the name you both love.

Thank you all, I think if anyone else asks we will just say we haven't decided, then no one can comment.

I just can't believe people can be so judgemental, the one think is my MIL said it's a horrible name and the middle name is hers as we wanted to honor her 🤷🏽‍♀️🙁

@Roozy123 wow that is awful, I thought people saying our choice was horrible was bad but I think I may not hold my tounge if anyone called it a slags name.

I think it's really nice.

@csmw even more bizarre the name I had chosen was my mil sisters name!?? So I was very confused but tbh I think it was just jealousy and lack of control on her part

I has a few choice words and then banned her from my home.
The apology etc came a few weeks later but too little too late. This time around she didn't even flinch let alone make a comment so I think her lesson was learnt that day lol.

I don't understand how people can be so judgemental either, especially about your child's name!? I understand not everyone can like the same name but there is 0 reason to give a negative opinion... it's not their child.
I really like the name, I hope you don't change it because of others.

@Roozy123 it very much sounds like lack of control I think that's the issue we are having everyone seems to think they should ha w some input to our child's name.

We really like the name originally we had chosen Darcey Jane, but then fell in love with Aubrey as we thought is was less common... we had the same issues with people not liking Darcey.

All we get from people is why can't we choose a nice pretty name like Poppy or Molly etc etc. Evn though I think those names are sweet and I have nothing against them i just can't vision a 40 year old Poppy they sound so young to me.

Ignore them, as I was once told, even if they don't like the name, they'll love the child (but I thought Aubrey was a boys name).

Keep the name! It's up to you what you call her and if you change it to something else you both aren't quite so in love with then you may regret that in the future. If you go with your heart then you can't go far wrong

Also, I do actually know a little girl called Aubrey so don't worry about it being traditionally a 'Male' name xx

I think it's cute.

And according to the darkgreener website it's more commonly used for girls than boys in the UK right now (44 boys vs 170 girls in 2018).

We have a baby Aubrey in our family and when I was told I really didn't like it (although was never rude enough to say that to them) but now she's here she couldn't possibly be anything else 🥰 stick to your guns it's nobody else's baby but yours x

I think it's lovely. I had a great uncle Aubrey and have very fond memories of going to his house near the cost with my grandparents. It was one of those magical seeming houses to a child with lots of rooms, old things and big gardens

@FernBritanica

To me it sounds like a much more feminine name so that has made me feel a bit better thank you x

Stick with it! She's your daughter, no one else's. There opinion is totally mute.
Personally I like it.

I had a great uncle Aubrey & the others ive known have been makes too, so it seems a bit odd to me, but it does seem to have gained popularity as a girls name.

Any chance she’ll have Auburn hair?

It’s definitely growing on me!

Your friends & family have been rude, but did they think you were asking what they thought? Or was it very much ‘this will be her name’?

Don’t let it put you off that they don’t like it because after 5 minutes they just ‘are’ the name & you can’t imagine them being anything else, so they’ll soon forget they didn’t like it!! I disliked all the names my SIL chose for their kids (brother didn’t get much of a say - as usual!) but after a little while you don’t even think about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

OTOH poppy, molly, etc will be perfectly normal adult names by the time your DD is an adult, so I wouldn’t worry about that either.

Jane is pretty dated IMO, but it’s a middle name, they’re supposed to embarrass you!

Good luck with her safe arrival 🌷

Makes me think of Aubrey Plaza and she is super cool. I think it’s going to get increasingly popular as a girl’s name so get in there before it takes off 🙂

We haven’t told family our shortlist but during a conversation over Christmas (not instigated by us!) my family managed to be rude about every single name on the list (not on purpose, they were just all suggesting names and then someone else would go “ergh no Charlotte is an awful name” 🙄)

I think it’s harder (though sadly not impossible) for people to be so brazenly rude once baby is here. And even if they don’t like the name it doesn’t really matter - the baby isn’t theirs to name!

@AmelieTaylor

Thank you only 9 weeks to go.

Not sure about the hair Haha, baby will be mixed race so anything is a possibility. I'm mixed and me and my sisters all have different skin tones and hair types 🤷🏽‍♀️ Our 1st Daughter is so fair people have asked my DH if I'm her biological mother 🤣

We actually sat down and said we had decided on a name and the 1st comment from MIL was "oh not the horrid one" 🙁 weird especially since Jane is her name and we picked it because we appreciate all she's done for us.

@csmw

Only 9 weeks, that’s very exciting!

I hope you said ‘No, it’s the lovely one Aubrey’ 😊

Oh her colouring will be a big surprise then! 😊 Maybe she will look like you & you’ll get asked if they’re ‘full’ sisters. 🙄🤣.

Tell your MIL that on reflection you’ve decided to drop the horrible name 😊. You’re going to name her Aubrey ‘your name’.

I think it’s a beautiful name. A little girl in my sons reception class is called Aubree (different spelling) but I always think how pretty it is when I hear someone call her. Go for it. Besides, it’s your choice, no one else’s xxx

@AmelieTaylor

Oh I'm waiting for that one, I think it will be funny to see peoples reaction if this one come out darker skinned.

@LouH1981 I was actually thinking if using that spelling to differentiate it from the Male version but I'm unsure x

I agree you shouldn't care what others think BUT are your family members fans of Call the Midwife by any chance? The older policeman on the show is called Aubrey so they may just be confused as to why you're set on that name specifically (was watching last night and recognised the name from this thread!)

The name you choose is lovely. Jane, as far as I researched, has a really lovely meaning. We were thinking at that name for a girl. I'm expecting a boy.

I'm not telling the name until baby if born, and this is one reason why. I don't want people say their opinion, once baby is born they'll know the name and that's it.

@anotherypasswordtoremember
Haha I'm not sure its not a TV show I've every heard them mention.

@R2D2abc Thankyou we think its lovely and a bit different

Aubree
Aubrie
Aunty
Aubrey

I like Aubrey best 😊

Families will be families, we had drama with our little ones name, my DH made the mistake of telling his parents before she was born. We stuck with it and it's all fine now. But for a while we were accused of breaking the family apart. Some people just like to be overdramatic, especially when they can't control you're actions.

Aubrey is lovely, and I love the initials AJ 😊

I think it sound like a lovely name for a parent to call a child, it does sound romantic.
On the other hand it sounds like not a great name as a child to grow up with, I’d rather spare her teasing as kids can be cruel. Regardless of pc try telling an 8 year old that