Were you ok with visitors holding your baby?

[MrsSokhi]

I'm just curious to know how you felt when visitors held your baby for the first time?
Did you hate it because of your protective instinct or could you not wait to show them off?

I didn't like it, lasted around two weeks. I think it's normal. Came across a women with a 12week old still in the previous first born stage. Had waited 11 years to have them though

Nope happy to hand them over to friends and family.

Not actually had one yet so I can't say for sure, but my plan is they can hold bubba if they are sitting down. I am not happy with other people wandering around holding baby, would be so anxious lol

With my first, I hated it. Felt wrong wrong wrong but I let it happen. With my second, I was fine.

I was happy. Particularly enjoyed seeing my beloved grandma holding her first great grandchild whilst chatting utter shit.

Very happy.

I used to make a bolt for it. Either to the bathroom or the local shop

Wanted to show him off! Did want him back after a couple of hours ...

Totally happy to have visitors hold my babies.

I hated it. It was nice people meeting her especially older relatives but we had too many visitors and wished I'd have been more forward and told people to piss off... I certainly will be doing if we have any more.

I didn't like it personally, until the babies were a bit older. They're so vulnerable and were so recently part of your body when they're newborn!

It was actually worst with dc3 as people expected me to be totally casual and not give a shit about him because he was child number 3 - so many people thought I should be happy to hand him to their 3, 4 or 5 year olds and even handed him to their preschoolers themselves if I'd trusted the parent to hold him while I left the room!

Once they were a few months old and had secure head control it was less like torture. Being expected to hand a newborn - baby under 6-8 weeks old around is really very strange IMO.

I'd had this vision throughout my pregnancy of how wonderful it would be to introduce my DS to my dad, who I'm very close to, and seeing them cuddle. The reality was that, when they first met, I was desperately uncomfortable with my dad (or indeed anyone) holding him. I was convinced he was going to be dropped. I even struggled with my partner holding him. That was heartbreaking.
Turns out I had post-natal anxiety, obviously. I've done a lot of hard work and it's getting easier. But the whole visitors/other people holding DS was nothing at all as I expected, and I found that hard to come to terms with.

I used to open the door and hand ds to whoever was standing there. He was a velcro baby I loved the break.

Nope. Got a two week old, don't really want anyone touching her at the moment. Height of influenza season here.

Totally happy to hand them over. Didn't leave them to be babysat for at least 6 months though and 2 years before a sleepover at family's houses.

I was fine but refused to let anyone wake him up so they could hold him.

I was only unhappy about my MIL who is a smoker. I'd have her take her change her clothes and wash up before she came close!

Interesting that your question prompted an odd memory. I had no problem with anyone at all holding DS, in fact it was nice to see him from a different angle IYSWIM. But I felt unease, bordering on having to sit on my hands when my best friend held him. I cannot explain it at all. DS hates it too and would scream or throw up on her. I hadn’t thought about that for 12 years until this thread.

I was fine with it but it was only people who are really close to us and we trust that visited . Our parents, siblings and a few close friends and work colleagues.

I found that I wouldn’t exactly offer people to hold my DD but I didn’t hate it when they did; it didn’t feel natural to offer her to be held

I was fine with it. I wasnt fine when my mil took my week old baby and walked to the next room with him. Totally not meaning any harm on her part but it set off a maternal instinct I think. Luckily Dh saw my panic and asked her to come back so I didnt look ott.

I didn’t mind, just wanted to show her off. Only person I had a problem with was mil as she was a smoker. She understood though and would hold off smoking when she was due to see dd.

I hated it and couldn’t wait to get him back. He always smelt wrong when I got him back too.

I was fine with it apart from when ds might cry, and I wanted him back only to be told it's ok to let him cry for a bit. No it fucking isn't, give me my baby back .

Now ds is 4yo and I'll palm him off to the nearest unwitting volunteer.

Apart from my ndn who was a smoker, I was happy to pass them around to everyone.

I am not precious.

I didn't like it, I wanted my newborn all to myself and I kept him to myself, either by breast feeding or wearing him in a sling. I was regularly accused of hogging my own baby (and didn't give a toss about it).