Catching up with TTC after MC thread January 2020

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, hoping you all can join soon. The TTC (trying to conceive) after MC (miscarriage) January group have been so supportive I hope we can keep it up for those who have BFP (big fat positive).

Also meant to say I’ve been on the TTC after miscarriage threads since that first January one! So it’s lovely to see the familiar names here ❤️

@BecsterG Yep! The first full day of feeling sick I was like YASSSSS!! 😂 Told my DP and he was also strangely happy for me feeling sick 🤣

He’s even more cautious than me at the moment, bless him. He really didn’t ever think MC would happen to us, so it properly shook him up when it did happen. I obviously didn’t want it to happen, but I knew just how common it is so I was prepared for the worst. I hate to tempt fate, but I’ve got a good feeling about this one though ❤️

@TerribleImagination my husband was the same. Even on our way to the scan last year he didn't believe it would happen to us. It shocked him!

It's so lovely to see so many people coming over from the TTC boards. I have checked back from time to time as I was keen to see how everyone was getting on.

@BecsterG my scan and nipt test is Thursday as well and I'll be 11 weeks, absolutely bricking it. I am however really looking for to the solo train journey to Exeter to the scan place. I haven't obviously been anywhere for so long.

It's only 35 minutes and then a short stole from the station but it is going to be one of the most intense journeys of my life.

I can also garentee it'll be raining. Every time I have a scan it's raining, but I see the rain as a good omen, there's something about it that doesn't make the day seem absurdly bright and happy like a sunny one can do. That always gives me a bad feeling, like surly it can't be a really nice day as well as a really nice scan 🤷

*short stroll

Oh good luck @ChampooPapi

I too am looking forward to a trip out by myself. It's only 20 minutes drive to the hospital here so I won't be out for long but I'll draw it out a bit to get a few hours to myself! I'm nervous but too bad just now.

The only time I have been in a car, and anywhere other than a wall since lockdown started was my scan! It was utter bliss to get a bit of variety in the day and see something different! 😂 a train ride sounds magical, even more so for you @ChampooPapi if you already have kids stuck in the house!
Great to see you here @TerribleImagination hope you are feeling ok!
My nausea is a hit better but I have never ever been this exhausted in my life. Yesterday I was entirely useless! A bit better today, which is lucky as I'm working, but still shattered. Feel so pathetic!! DH is great but I'm sick of moaning so I'm sure he is sick of listening!!

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My typing is terrible...

Morning!

I used up the last of my tests this morning, as AF is officially later than any other cycle I’ve ever had, and was super pleased they’re loads darker! 🥰

I had a mild panic last night, because I had a tiny bit of CM that was a weird colour (I know, I’m ridiculous)... it was ever so slightly brown I think, but definitely not enough or dark enough to say for sure. Either way I half convinced myself something bad was going to happen 🙈 But the tests this morning have made me feel better!

Argh I wish I could go to sleep and wake up at 12 weeks! 🙈

How are you all doing? xx

Morning all!

Eeeeeek @BecsterG and @ChampooPapi I'm so excited for you both for your scans on Thursday. I will be thinking of you both and keeping everything crossed that you have perfect scans and can finally start to relax!! That journey will feel like it takes forever Champoo - make sure you've got a good book or podcast to try and distract you on the way!

@TerribleImagination oh god I would have been scared too but that's great about your lines!! I wish I could go to sleep and wake up at 12 weeks too haha... it's already dragging!

@Whiffle77 glad your nausea is easing... I totally get the exhaustion - that's been my main symptom ever since I found out. I'm having to have an afternoon nap (I realise how lucky I am that I am able to do that at the mo not being at work or having older kids!) every day around 3pm.

Other than the extreme tiredness I have been feeling okay although think the nausea is beginning as I have felt sick on and off all morning and struggled to finish my bowl of cereal. 5 weeks tomorrow (this last week has been sooooo long!) and one more week until I allow myself to book a scan (if all goes well between now and next weds) xxx

Same @MilsCookie! It feels like that first 6 week milestone is ages away and every trip to the loo is nerve wracking! I’ll be 5 weeks on Friday if I go by LMP, although based on ovulation I think I’m around 3 days less than that... Might just go by LMP though so it feels like it’s going faster 🙈😆

Yep the loo trips will always be nerve-wracking! I'm taking advice from @ChampooPapi on that though... to only allow yourself to worry/feel anxious when you go to the loo, then leave all your worries behind in there and shut the door! I'm the same as you... I'm taking it as 3 days less than what I would be based on LMP just to be on the safe side. But it would make it sound quicker haha!! xx

@MilsCookie @TerribleImagination One thing that worked for me in the early weeks was to just remain positive until you had confirmation something has happened. Focus on the positive as no need to worry unnecessarily. I kept reminding myself of that and it did work.

Also man I remember feeling all the time like my period had started and dashing to the loo but fortunately that doesn't last forever.

It's such a snooze fest pregnancy isn't it! Ha ha

That’s such a good idea @MilsCookie and @ChampooPapi - I like that! Leave all your troubles in the loo 🤣

@BecsterG Same! That feeling that your period has started is the WORST! I can’t wait for that to stop.

I love the positive thinking, I’m deffo trying to do that. So many people get pregnant and don’t even consider anything could go wrong eh? Just I’m pregnant therefore I’m having a baby! I wish all our minds could do that. I’ll definitely focus on the positive - thanks lovey! A friend of mine who’s been through a molar pregnancy before having her little boy in January said an ace thing to me... that I’ve been the 1 in 4 and statistically this pregnancy will be successful. So I’m holding on to that too!

Oh my goodness me.... I just got my first scan appointment letter... Friday 19th June... it makes me want to cry because I am struggling to believe I will get that far. If I go by LMP dates I'll be 11+5 on that day... which is exactly the same as last time and that time I was told there wasn't a heartbeat.

I definitely needed to log on and see your positivity because for some reason that scan letter has just brought out all my anxiety like a rash!!

Welcome at last, @TerribleImagination! Congratulations 🎉🎉

I really envy people who just (rightly) assume, they're pregnant so therefore they're having a baby. Once you know what can happen, you can never un-know, so you can never relax and enjoy pregnancy.

Deep breaths @MilsCookie, just remember you're far more likely to have a good outcome than a bad one.

Wow that was quick @MilsCookie! Did you register with the midwife already?

Try not to worry! Like @FireflyGirl says, you’re far more likely to have a positive scan this time ❤️

I’m trying to keep my positivity up as I’ve had a tiny bit more light brown CM 😐 Has anyone else here had this? I know it can be totally normal, and there’s barely any of it, but god it’s hard not to freak out. I’ve showed pics to my friend who’s a midwife, and she’s told me it’s nothing to worry about at that amount... I didn’t have this last time, which I guess is a good thing really! Hopefully the little bean is just burrowing nice and deep in there! 🤞🏻

Thank you @FireflyGirl - you're so right that once you know what can go wrong you can't 'unknow'. I did a meditation this afternoon which helped calm me down. She's called Bettina Rae on YouTube and does fertility yoga and meditations for right through pregnancy. Someone recommended her on the TTC boards - she's really good.

@TerribleImagination I called my GP the same day I got my positive just to see what to do next and he gave me the midwife's number to register with them. He said he would organise the scan and I can't believe I've already got the appointment through! I haven't had any brown spotting but I know girls who've had it and gone on to have successful pregnancies. It's probably just a little bit from implantation!! How are you feeling otherwise?

@MilsCookie Yeah I know a couple of friends had dark brown spotting and all was ok... Mine is soooo light coloured and only such a tiny amount, so trying to not worry about it. My midwife friend said don’t look at it 😆 Just wipe and don’t look. If I’m gonna bleed badly I’d know about it without having to check on a tissue - which is a good point, so trying that tactic!

I’m feel good otherwise. Still a little bit crampy on and off (which worries me with the spotting, but I know cramps are normal) and nauseous on and off too. Hoping the early nausea is a good sign!

Also still got watery CM and that’s clear, no colour, so hoping that’s good too 🤞🏻

@TerribleImagination haha I like her tactic - I can't help myself look every time though! They sound like positive signs... I had cramping on and off since around 8dpo... it's beginning to go away now but every now and again I'll notice it but it doesn't seem as intense. I'm beginning to get a weird taste in my mouth which I had last time... I've tried chewing gum, eating satsumas and other things and nothing gets rid of it!

@TerribleImagination I had a little bit of this right at the start. Dark brown is old blood so should be fine. It's the red stuff that you should call the EPU about. It's early days so what you're feeling is completely normal.

As others have said the odds are with you so just take each day as it comes.

Thanks so much @BecsterG 😘 That’s encouraging you had it and all was ok! Mine wasn’t even dark brown either (which is good), more very light brown and the tiniest amount, so I’m sure I panicked over nothing! Positive thoughts from now on!

Haha I know @MilsCookie! Great tactic 😆 I’m trying my best to keep to it... Doesn’t help that I’m peeing sooooo often 😆🙈

Interesting that the taste in your mouth is coming on now! I had it last time and it was the first thing I noticed before AF was anywhere near due!

Also good to hear your cramps are easing off!