Catching up with TTC after MC thread January 2020

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, hoping you all can join soon. The TTC (trying to conceive) after MC (miscarriage) January group have been so supportive I hope we can keep it up for those who have BFP (big fat positive).

I'll see what's happening in a few weeks then, see if I can find somewhere for an appointment. Good, that's good news!

@BS9790 that's great news about the scan. Hopefully it will help you stay calmer over the next two weeks.

@AlviesMam that's lovely that they're taking good of you and it's the same midwife.

I've seen that Window to the Womb are open across the country but as you say it's for health reasons and I'd want to know the gender as well so think I'll just have to wait until 7th May for my NHS scan.

I had my booking appointment yesterday, and my scan is booked for 30th. I have to go to my local GP on Monday, though, because the midwife used the wrong tubes to collect my blood . They're just being over cautious, but the lady who called sounded very harassed, probably because she's going to have more work as a result.

I'm tempted to go for a private scan before my NHS one, though, because time is dragging so much at the moment. And also, 5yo DS launched himself at me this afternoon and landed hard, knee first in my stomach, so now I'm imagining cramps. I know it's unlikely to have done anything, especially as I am short and 2 stone overweight, so well padded. Doesn't stop me worrying, though...

@FireflyGirl that's great you've had your booking appointment although very annoying about the bloods.

I've heard that Window to the Womb are open for private scans if it's to check the health of the baby. A lot have closed but defo worth looking as they all seem to have offers on and so good to reassure you in the wait. I completely understand as the wait is crazy long isn't it!

I'm now on the wait for my 20 week scan which is 5 weeks away. Nervous and excited for it.

How are you all coping with lockdown? It's my DS 3rd birthday tomorrow so we're having a party just the 3 of us. My husband is coming home tomorrow morning from work dressed as batman. He's going to be so excited!!

@FireflyGirl try not to worry, I don't know if you remember but I took a running jump down some stairs, landed on my stomach from a height. It was a pretty nasty fall which resulted in A&E and crutches... And baby bean was just fine. X

@BecsterG not struggling too much with lockdown, my main struggle is not working. My life literally revolves around my job and I'm struggling not having work commitments. I'm also usually so busy and running on empty, that now I'm not doing anything I cant sleep at night!!

I bet your little one will love that!

I'm a bit nervous that my next midwife appointments will be over the phone. I would really prefer a face to face appointment. I know it's with good reason, so obviously I'm not complaining but it's not helping my anxiety!

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I'm losing the plot a bit on lockdown! Wfh but its insanely busy so I'm working really long hours, and just feel like I am stuck in groundhog day, sat at my desk all day every day. I think its sunk in how long it's likely to be as well which makes it harder. There are benefits, I'm not having to go into work anxious about being pregnant again etc but I'm worried about the future of it too. But everyone is, I keep telling myself that!
Hope you enjoy your party @BecsterG that sounds great!

Thanks ladies! I've spent today making him a cake. I tell you a lot more stressful with a toddler around asking 1000 times when he can eat it and is it ready yet! 😂

@Whiffle77 I get that. I normally work from home so it's not an adjustment for me but you really need to watch the long hours. When I first started doing it last year I really struggled to log off at 5 on the days I worked and as my husband was at sea (he's in the navy) for 6 months after my son was in bed I often logged back in. I had to stop though as it was killing me. Try and set yourself an end time like you were in the office.

@FireflyGirl I'm sure the baby will be fine as it's still small and quite well padded in there.

@BS9790 I'm due my next appointment in a few weeks and normally they'd maybe try and hear the heartbeat for the first time but I guess it's likely to be over the phone unless the consultant wants to see me which I doubt at this early stage.

Is anyone breastfeeding or has done through a previous pregnancy? My daughter only asks for it when she first wakes but it hurts! It's not horrendous. The thought of it is worse so I'm making use of my husband being home and he takes her downstairs rather than into our bed and that usually is enough to make her forget.
I know my milk will probably dry up or at least massively reduce in supply so she might wean anyway but I don't know whether to persevere a bit if the pain typically goes away after a certain point? ai love feeding her but I won't be devastated if this is the end although I'm always a bit teary on days she I don't feed her - I'm assuming hormones?!

How old is she, @Zoey36?

I've heard stories of toddlers self-weaning when mum gets pregnant as the milk tastes different, but you also see women tandem feeding babies of two different ages.

DS went on nursing strike at 10 weeks, so I never had to deal with weaning him, but if the problem is just the pain, could you look at nipple shields? Although they might put her off on their own, if she's not used to a bottle/dummy

@Zoey36 I did breastfeed but like @FireflyGirl my DS refused to feed after 12 weeks during the day for some reason. Tried to persevere for weeks but in the end he took a bottle so I didn't have to wean him off either so no advice I'm afraid.

She's 19 months. I fed her this morning because I wanted an extra 15 minutes in bed but it was so uncomfortable and not worth the extra time! Yes that's true about weaning/tandem feeding....I guess it really depends on the child! If I could see the future see that she wouldn't ask from a certain point, I'd be tempted to continue until she decided. But not knowing is urghhhh.

Nipple shields...not a bad idea!! I can't imagine her tolerating them but I think I have some somewhere!

I'm going to be strict next week @BecsterG and like you say, finish at a set time rather than drifting back and forth all evening! It feels all consuming at the minute, and my brain is busy worrying about other things!
Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine today, I'm either going to do some jet washing or just lounge with a book!

I hope you chose the book, @Whiffle77! Down time has never been so important!

DH and I are both getting jobs done today, but we're just taking it easy and combining them with playing with DS, so it's a lazy-ish day in the sunshine here.

DS is 5, but he's naturally very laid back, and he is quite happy pottering at home all day. We'll plan to do an activity, then he'll get distracted playing, so we won't get round to it until an hour or so later, and that's how our days pass. My heart goes out to those kids who are naturally more active, or need more routine, this must be so hard for them!

I hope you choose to chill with a book too! Very jealous of that. It's my DS third birthday today. He's had a great day but he's on the edge as tired from all the excitement.

Roll on bedtime ladies! 😂

I did choose the book dont worry 😂 we have a pile of jobs to do around the house/garden but I keep thinking...well I dont want to do them yet as we will be on lockdown for ages, I might get bored!! Haha. So I've achieved very little today but it was needed!

Hope your son enjoyed his birthday and cake @BecsterG and hope you enjoyed your milling in the garden @FireflyGirl i feel very grateful to have a garden at the minute.

Me too, @Whiffle77.

I was being a bit dense earlier, thinking why are people being stupid and going to the park, why don't they just stay in their gardens? Then my brain caught up

Hope your DS has had a lovely day, @BecsterG. April is the best month to have a birthday

@FireflyGirl do you have a birthday this month too?

DS has a great day thanks. He's been asking me today when he's getting more presents! Ha ha I said stop Christmas!

@BecsterG However did you guess

DS's was last month, and I really enjoyed having a spring baby. If this works, it'll be interesting to see how having a winter baby is different.

Bless your DS asking about more presents. DS does the same and he's 5, I suppose it's hard to understand why you only get them sometimes.

You're right @FireflyGirl it will be strange having a baby in autumn. They'll be straight into snow suits whereas DS only wore his for the first few weeks as it was too warm. I'm due in September and we have only one birthday in September in our family so that's good. April we have 5 so it's a bit mad! Ha ha

My daughter was a September baby. I was a teacher and needed an early September baby to maximise maternity leave and pay. I'd never have planned for a September baby otherwise - always said I wanted Spring babies! That was before miscarriages and it all just worked out perfectly! My first miscarriage due date was end of this month and I was soooo looking forward to that nice weather with a new baby! Now due in the October and feel like the universe is laughing at my rediculous plans for a spring babY!!
There are perks of the Autumn baby I found though! The weather starts to get nice as they start moving around which is probably more convenient than nice weather when they lie flat on the floor haha! Christmas with a diddy one is easier than a moving one that needs attention if you're already busy busy!

Ah yes, Christmas...

Flashback to 9-month-old DS scaling a pack of nappies to get to the Christmas tree that had been purposely put on a table out of his reach

I never really planned for a specific month just always hoped it would happen. I found with my DS that summer was a bit hot for him and he was just sitting where as with this baby for me they'll be a better age for the park etc next summer. Unfortunately like you said though you just need to take what you get. I'm looking forward to an early autumn baby as different to last time.

I didnt plan either, in my head I didnt want a December baby but (hopefully) that's what I'm going to get...and I dont care, I will take any day and any month now!

My birthday is on 8th December and I've never hated it. It's all the baby will ever know.

Does anyone have a funny taste in there mouth all the time? It's not meteor it's like morning breath without the smell. It's really annoying me. Trying to hew gum to get rid of the taste but chewing gum for too long makes me feel sick! Ha ha

I have never experienced it, but I've read funny tastes are common. It could also be that you're just more aware of the taste of your mouth at the moment.