Catching up with TTC after MC thread January 2020

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, hoping you all can join soon. The TTC (trying to conceive) after MC (miscarriage) January group have been so supportive I hope we can keep it up for those who have BFP (big fat positive).

Thanks @AlviesMam!! So glad to see things are going well for you. It's so lush to see some familiar names on this thread ♥️ hopefully we'll have some more join us soon!!

@shhhhs it's a scary time waiting for a scan but we're all in this together! Xx

@AlviesMam I'm going to try so hard to enjoy and be grateful for every minute. (even if I have symptoms!) I feel so lucky to be pregnant again and will try not to let fear ruin that for me. It's so nice seeing you guys all having or approaching your first scans following a MC, reminds me that it is possible to happen!

Congratulations and welcome, @shhhhs.

I'm 6+6, and still check every time I go to the loo, even though mine have been mmc, so no symptoms. I have a scan on Saturday at 7+2, and if there's a heartbeat my risk of MC declines dramatically.

At the moment, I've accepted being pregnant, but not that there's going to be a baby.

@FireflyGirl I bet you can't wait for your scan, how are you feeling in general? Many symptoms?

What you said about accepting the pregnancy but not the baby is such a perfect way to sum up how a person feels after miscarriage 💔 I'm sure after your scan you will start feeling more reassured about the baby part too!! 😘

@FireflyGirl that's great you've got another scan on Saturday. Fingers crossed for a nice strong heartbeat.

My dating scan is on Monday when I'll be 13 weeks so hoping scans etc still continue with all this stuff that's going on. I've read some hospitals neared aren't letting partners in. Really hope that's not the case on Monday. My husband will be gutted if he can't come in.

@BecsterG my local trust (Somerset) have said it's really important to keep all anti and post natal appointments so they wouldn't be cancelling. My local place also said 1 person per women would be allowed so hopefully that's the case for you too. Would be horrible if partners weren't allowed in!

@shhhhs mostly all f*ing day morning sickness and sore boobs.

@BecsterG I think they're trying to keep maternity appointments where possible, because a lot of them are time sensitive. It's difficult to know whether they will allow partners to attend, though. They may limit the number of people to reduce contamination risk/infecting the staff.

Given that out of about previous 8 scans at the epau I've only had good news once, I really hope DH can come in with me!

@FireflyGirl @shhhhs I agree so fingers crossed.

@FireflyGirl that's really horrible out of all your scans. Fingers crossed this one turns things around for you. Certainly sounds like it will with all your sickness! Let us know when you've had it.

Is anyone else struggling with knowing how to explain to people why they're socially isolating ( if you are)? I had to tell my manager I was pregnant, earlier than I would have liked, but in terms of friends etc, I'm not sure what to say!! I'm glad I've only got 2 weeks till my scan so I'll soon be able explain, but I feel sorry for people who are really early on in their pregnancies 😕

@raspberrypickle I hadn't planned to tell work at all but I'm a nurse and we have confirmed cases so I had to. I was taken straight off of patient contact and after today's shift I'm off on isolation indefinitely!! Which is insane and I know it's for the right reasons but my poor team are already so short staffed, I feel so guilty about it. So many articles have said pregnant women aren't actually any more at risk than non pregnants so I hope a new policy comes out soon to say safe to work, with the right precautions in place. It isn't realistic for all pregnant women to not work for so long.

@shhhhs I think the plan will be that nobody works, other than key workers.

I had to tell work, and told colleagues because otherwise they might worry I had symptoms and feel they may be at risk. It's just completely unprecedented.

From a selfish point of view, I really hope they don't cancel my scan on Saturday...

@fireflygirl they won't cancel I'm sure. Scans are so important and not something that can be put off

Morning ladies,

@FireflyGirl I don't think they'll cancel scans and antenatal appointments as they're vital for the health of the baby. Our maternity hospitals here are running normally at the moment but they're limiting the number of people that go in with you.

Fingers crossed for your scan on Saturday and mine on Monday!

I told my boss at work after my second scan but I've not told anyone else. I'm lucky really as I work from home so no one really asks questions. Also I think most people will be social distancing now so you may not have to tell as many people as you think. Always useful to have a few that know to help.

My son is the chicken pox so is already off nursery! It's going to be a long few months.

Sorry forgot to tag you in the second part of my post @shhhhs

@FireflyGirl good luck today. Let us know how you get on.

I found out yesterday that my husband won't be allowed into the hospital for my dating scan on Monday. Sad times but I get it. Going to try and record a bit if they'll let me.

Happy Saturday ladies

Morning.

Thanks for thinking of me @BecsterG

Scan went well, measuring 6+5 when I'm 7+2 by lmp calculations, but I'm not overly concerned because we saw a heartbeat which is always a good sign! Discharged from epau now, so just awaiting my booking appointment a week on Thursday.

It's a bit rubbish that your husband can't be with you, but understandable in the circumstances. The fewer people the nurses are exposed to, the less risk of them catching it and being unable to work. We had to wash/gel our hands every time we went through a door today, and the nurses commented on how worried they were that people weren't keeping basic hygiene.

Fingers crossed for you 🤞

@FireflyGirl That's great news you saw a strong heartbeat too. I guess you could have conceived later than you thought? We only DTD once in the month we conceived this time (amazingly lucky I know) so for me I could only be 1 or 2 days out but could it be possible for you? Do you feel a little less anxious now?

I do completely understand them limiting it but still sad. I thought weeks ago about trying to bring my appointment forward and if I had he would have been able to go. Oh well. If all goes well on Monday we'll book a private scan to find out the gender so we can find out together. I'll be nervous on Monday morning.

Could be I conceived/implanted later, could be their measurements are slightly out. It's only millimetres at the moment, so I'm not worried. Feel less anxious now we've seen a heartbeat because that drastically reduces the chance of miscarriage.

I bet Monday will be hard! At least the appointment is in the morning, I suppose, so you're not having to wait all day. Fingers crossed everything goes well.

I agree, I often wondered how accurate it is early on. Will be interesting to see what they say on Monday.

So pleased it's first thing so I don't have to hang around all day. I have quite an obvious bump which has to mean good things but I will wait and see. X

Each day is getting hard as I'm constantly feeling sick (only been sick 4-5times) but the feeling is worse. I've been temporarily layed off as I work in hospitality so I'm wanting to get things done around the house but this feeling is stopping me from doing everyday stuff. I wish I would just throw up and feel better for an hour. And also I am now so fussy with food, never know what I want to eat and thinking about eating is making me feel sick! Even my boobs being sore and knocking me sick! Any tips or anyone in the same boat?!

PS- are you all self isolating?? I have no choice since not working now xxx

Morning @AlviesMam.

I've started taking the tablets I was prescribed last year, to see if they help. Mostly, I just want to stay in bed all day.

I am also fussy with food, which is awful timing as loads of the stuff I fancy is basic carbs, which are out of stock everywhere!

We are social distancing to the extreme - we only leave the house to go in the garden/to the allotment. DH had to go into work on Thursday, but he only stayed a couple of hours and avoided contact with everyone.

So sorry you feel so rough ladies. I'm coming out the other end but still don't feel normal. Feel slight nausea every few hours so I eat and that helps. Today I feel dizzy which is a new one for me. Anyone had that before? I found lying down when you can helps and eating little and often if you can. Toast and butter was the only thing I could really eat.

We've been in lockdown for 5 days as my DS has chicken pox, so just the house and garden and we'll be doing that pretty much for he next bit until told otherwise. We'll go for a few walks to some hopefully deserted places when he's better. My husband has to work too as he's in the military but we're doing everything we can really.

I've felt dizzy a few times it can be hormones and low blood pressure.
Honestly girls I don't know how am I getting through each day. I am constantly feeling sick all day long it's so unsettling and headaches have started now. Thinking of food is knocking me even more sick. I'm so so grateful I'm pregnant and so grateful I'm having the right signs but I can't deal with this :( anyone else struggling this bad?

@Alviesmam I was so so sick with my DS, from 5 weeks until 22 weeks, it was horrific. I went to the GP at 12 weeks and they tried me on a few different medications until one finally made a massive difference. If you're feeling that bad, maybe speak to the doctor.