I am writing on here looking for some advice - and hope!
So I am pregnant and after getting out of an abusive relationship, I have decided it is in the best interest to not include the father.
I am concerned he will order a paternity test through the courts and therefore be able to apply for parental rights/access/custody.
I have plans to move house (within the next month or so) so he won't know my new address and I am now thinking of changing my name too so I will be harder to track.
Originally people on here gave me advice to cease contact and move away! At first I thought this was pretty detrimental - but now as time has gone on a bit, it has only made it clear to me that I will do whatever I can and it doesn't seem that far fetched after all!
At the moment he has no rights, which leaves me feeling slightly contented - but not fully as I feel it is just round the corner until he will be fighting for them.
If I change my name and address and he applies to the courts, will they be able to essentially find me and order a case? I am worried they will be able to do this as they have far more power, but then as it is more of a civil matter, rather than an illegal one, will they bother to go down the route of "tracking me down" in order for him to get a paternity?
I am so confused with it all, and clearly giving me a lot of anxiety. I just want peace of mind that I can do something in my power to keep him away. And I thought name and address change could be the answer!
Has anybody else gone through something similar? Any suggestions on what to do?!
Feeling quite fragile so please keep it nice! Thank you x