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When did you tell your DH/partner you were pregnant?

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ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 03/01/2020 11:51

Hi all,
I am 99% sure I am pregnant, I got a faint pink line on an FRER yesterday so hoping for my BFP today or tomorrow.
My question is, when did you all tell your other halves?
I am in 2 minds... I want to tell him as soon as I get a positive digi, but another part of me wants to wait until I am well past 14dpo and chances of a chemical are smaller as won’t want to get his hopes up if something were to happen. We have been trying for a year and have never had a wiff of a BFP.
If it’s any relevance I am about 9dpo today...
Thanks x

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brightbird · 03/01/2020 11:59

Almost immediately. But I waited to do a test until after my missed period would have finished. Still, if I had done one earlier and got a faint positive I would definitely have told him and felt weird and guilty about any delay. He would have wanted to share in the emotions including any uncertainty

LazyDogFox · 03/01/2020 12:00

As soon as I got the positive! If anything does go wrong then you’ll want his support and he will want to be involved. I was worried about getting his hopes up so I know what you mean, but you’re in it together and he will want to know.

Doublemum2020 · 03/01/2020 12:02

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sugarisbitter · 03/01/2020 12:03

Wow pp

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ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 03/01/2020 12:05

@Doublemum2020 what purpose did being rude serve exactly?

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Tableclothing · 03/01/2020 12:06

About 30s after getting a positive. Could not have kept it a secret from him.

Perid0t · 03/01/2020 12:07

As soon as I saw a vvvfl.

LividLaughLove · 03/01/2020 12:09

A faint line IS a positive. Today you are pregnant.

Dollywilde · 03/01/2020 12:10

I POAS by myself in the bathroom and grabbed him the second I thought I could see a line appearing. He’d have been sad if he hadn’t been there with me I think, and we’d always discussed doing it as a couple.

latheritup · 03/01/2020 12:11

Immediately. Ran to him waving the test with no knickers on out of sheer excitement Grin

coconutcurls · 03/01/2020 12:12

As soon as I saw that little line start to appear on the stick!

blackcat86 · 03/01/2020 12:14

As soon as I got a positive test. I can remember shouting from the bathroom 'oh DH, where are you?' And almost running at him, digital test in hand.

OccasionalNachos · 03/01/2020 12:14

He was waiting outside the bathroom after we’d dashed to the supermarket to buy a test, so I found out about 3 seconds before he did...

NameChange30 · 03/01/2020 12:15

I told mine straight away. Wouldn't occur to me to wait.

A digital test is no more accurate than any other test; in fact they are less sensitive than FRERs.

Why not test tomorrow morning (with FMU) and if it's positive just tell him then?

daydreambeleiver · 03/01/2020 12:15

I sent him to buy the test, but I waited until 3-4 days after my period was due to test

Justasconfusedwithnumber2 · 03/01/2020 12:31

Immediately. Both times he was making toast in the kitchen. He must make toast when he's nervous 🤣

Boymummy3 · 03/01/2020 12:33

As soon as I did the test.. It wouldn't cross my mind to even wait to till dh. This time around was on his birthday he didn't know I was doing a test but I did it and came downstairs and said happy birthday and gave it him 🙈

MirriMazDuur · 03/01/2020 12:35

Straight away as soon as I did the test too. He was in the bathroom with me.

kevintheorangecarrot · 03/01/2020 12:46

I told him about a week after I got a positive. I suffered a chemical pregnancy before, so I didn't want to say anything and something went wrong as it would really upset him. All he's ever wanted was to be a Dad.. and now, he is!

DerbyshireGirly · 03/01/2020 12:49

@latheritup I love that! Grin

My husband was at work when I got my faint line on a FRER. I text him straight away but just couldn't take a convincing photo of the line so I met him at lunch to show him the test. He didn't say much until we were queuing up to pay for our meal deals in Sainsburys, when he piped up with "March will be a nice month for a birthday". He's a man of few words is my husband! I carried the test around with me for a few days and it felt like I was hiding some long lost hidden treasure Smile

Bol87 · 03/01/2020 12:49

Immediately. My OH & I are a team. If anything had gone wrong, even very early, I’d have one, relied on him for comfort and two, he’d hate to think I kept anything like that from him. Again, so he could support me through the sadness & its his baby too after all Smile

Congrats on your positive!

shutupsteph · 03/01/2020 13:04

literally the second my brain processed that positive! i couldn't have dreamt of keeping it inside, we're a team and i've never needed him next to me more

SallyLovesCheese · 03/01/2020 13:10

Both times as soon as I saw the line. The second time was bittersweet because I'd had a mc a few months before.

NeverHadANickname · 03/01/2020 13:11

I peed in a pot in private then DH came into the bathroom while I dipped then laid the test upside down on the sink. I then made him look at the test before I did so he actually found out first.

Annafs · 03/01/2020 13:18

Mine was out all day the day I did the test so couldn’t tell him immediately. I’d popped to the shops to get a few bits anyway and picked up a gratitude journal (which he’d mentioned in passing a few weeks back that he’d like). When he got back home after what felt like forever, I said oh I’ve got something for you. The positive test was next to the gratitude journal on our bed Grin

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