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When did you tell your DH/partner you were pregnant?

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ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 03/01/2020 11:51

Hi all,
I am 99% sure I am pregnant, I got a faint pink line on an FRER yesterday so hoping for my BFP today or tomorrow.
My question is, when did you all tell your other halves?
I am in 2 minds... I want to tell him as soon as I get a positive digi, but another part of me wants to wait until I am well past 14dpo and chances of a chemical are smaller as won’t want to get his hopes up if something were to happen. We have been trying for a year and have never had a wiff of a BFP.
If it’s any relevance I am about 9dpo today...
Thanks x

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FairyDogMother11 · 03/01/2020 18:57

Pretty much straight away; he was then coming off a night shift and I was about to start my day shift so knew I wouldn't see him until I finished, so I messaged him and was like "there's something on the side for you". Much though he was very excited, he later confessed he thought I'd got him some sweets or something

EstebanTheMagnificent · 03/01/2020 19:34

Straight away, first thing in the morning, both times.

'We're not getting excited yet, but I've just got a positive test.'

We are a team and we would have faced anything that followed together. I couldn't have countenanced keeping it from him.

R2D2abc · 03/01/2020 19:39

Always did the test with him aware I was doing so. Didn't want him in the bathroom with me but he will often wait outside. It's both our children so I wouldn't find it fair for him.

Dyra · 03/01/2020 19:55

About 10 seconds after I showed him the positive test. He was visibly so confused. He didn't quite get what I was showing him. Bless him. 🥰

BertieBotts · 03/01/2020 20:22

Always straight away. The only time I waited was when it was about three days before Christmas and I couldn't resist wrapping the test up in a box and giving it to him. I didn't wait until Christmas day though. Just that evening! When I said I had a private present not to be opened in front of DS1 I think he thought it was something saucy :o We'd had recurrent miscarriages before that one so I included a note saying I know it's only stage 1 and we have many more hurdles to go... also that I was worried it was faint (it wasn't, but I thought he'd think it was after his experience with my previous squinters) and he was totally overjoyed and like "That's not faint AT ALL!!" so it was worth the (few hours) wait. :)

Anyway it did get past stage one that one and he's currently 16 months old and exhaustingly cute :)

userabcname · 03/01/2020 20:29

Before I even tested. I always told him before I was going to take one. With dc1 we caught first cycle and he waited with me to see the second line appear. With dc2 we had had a few bfns as it took 8 months to conceive that time. I told him I was testing but didn't feel pregnant and he went to work before I did it so I whatsapped a picture of the positive when it appeared!

Bluebutterfly90 · 03/01/2020 20:34

Straight away.
We'd had a lot of disappointment so me waving pregnancy tests at him was nothing new for him.
I got up early to do the test while he was still in bed. I went and showed him the test. He said "Oh" and then laid back down to go to sleep. About five seconds passed and then he sort of sat up and said "Wait was that one positive?".

It did make me laugh.

Booksandwine80 · 03/01/2020 20:39

I tested (I think) 2 days passed missed period. Had to wait an excruciating 48 hours as DH was away and wanted to wait to tell him in person. Presented him with positive test and teeny tiny baby vest on his return

DD is now almost 3

DappledThings · 03/01/2020 22:56

As soon as I knew. Wouldn't occur to me not to.

ChickenNugget86 · 05/01/2020 12:57

I was abroad with DH and had only been off the pill for 2 months or so. Was expecting a period to start on holiday, remember being paranoid about starting in the pool so brought loads of tampons and sanitry towels... We were in a party location and my birthday was on the Friday and the big night out was Saturday. I did take a pregnancy test with me just incase but we were not expecting it to be positive.
Had no signs of a period coming so decided to take the test the day before my birthday, the plan was to go on the booze cruise the next 2 nights....
Had a lovely day by the pool, took the test not thinking I was going to be pregnant and to my shock it came back positive. DH was with me as we waited and it was such a surreal moment.

AlbusSeverusMalfoy · 05/01/2020 13:20

As soon as I finished peeing on the stick because those 2 lines came up straight away and we'd been waiting for a positive for years.

Seren1979 · 05/01/2020 17:16

I did mine at work, he was still in bed as he was off, sent him a text literally saying fuck my worst nightmare has just come true and sent it.
I never wanted kids, he already has a 12 yr old.
Im now 28weeks

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