Mums who went through mc and now happily pregnant

[Bee1710]

Hi! I'm sorry if it's not the place to post this as i know this is a happy place of pregnant mommies.
If that is the case comment on thread and I'll delete it but this will help other women who are ttc in lifting their mood up.

Im going through a mc and so devastated. I've been called on Monday (after a 12 week scan which showed heartbeat uncertain and growth of 6 weeks) for a follow up scan to check and then to choose which option to go forward with.

I've a daughter and this is my first mc. I'm thinking to for d&c but then confused of any risks.
Any mommies or expectant mommies who can share their experiences and success stories please. Itll help all those who are going through this terrible time.

Thank you 💗

It's really up to you and depends what you want. If it was me I would give it some time to happen naturally and then go from there. It'll take at least a week from the start of bleeding. Some people would rather not see anything and go for a d and c, but as I said it is a blind procedure and so it does have risks...although minimal. If you've started the process, medical miscarriage seems pointless unless your body doesn't expel everything

@rubyroost sorry but why does medical management seem pointless..wont it speed things up?

I passed a clot too rn.. but still no pains. Thank God.. or I dont know if there must be pains..

It's completely up to you, if you're desperate to have things sped up then go for it. It does sound like your body is about to start the process fully though. Contractions will follow your clots

@rubyroost thank you. I completely understand your point.. I'll see what happens until the appointment. I'm thinking to let nature take its course. Just scared. I appreciate your honest opinion. How painful was it for you?

So. If I've interpreted your post correctly, you had a missed miscarriage which looked like it stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had similar but I started bleeding at 9 weeks. I had some contractions which didn't last long just before the sac passed, but that was it. It wasn't massively painful. It is scary, but I took comfort in the fact that as everything had stopped about 6 weeks at least there wasn't a lot to see. At 13.5 weeks, I felt the actual fetus come out and it was attached to the placenta. By that stage it's the size of an iPhone.

Yes i got to know at 12 weeks that it hasn't grown past 6 weeks but they have called me for a follow up scan tomorrow which should have been 13 weeks.
Oh im so sorry that must be terrible 💗
What I wonder is does the sac and everything grow according to 12 weeks or that also stopped at 6 weeks as my body thought it is still pregnant.

I couldn't tell you spefically about your pregnancy, but my sac had stopped growing at 6.5 weeks even though my body was still producing hormones etc afterwards. The day before I started to spot my boobs deflated very fast and my constipation stopped. Your scan report should say how big everythingvwas. But I think if they're saying growth of six weeks then that will likely include sac.

I'll check my report. I got to know at 12 week scan and then my body started bleeding a little knowing sth was wrong.. else i still thought I was pregnant
Hopefully if its 6 week it shouldn't hurt much. I'll wait and see.

@Bee1710 I think it took 6 weeks for my cycle to return back to normal and it was normal length straight away. I was taking pregnacare vitamins and doing ovulation tests like an obsessed madwoman! I also ate Brazil nuts everyday because I heard it can help lengthen your luteal phase as one was quite short - this is purely anecdotal though, not sure if there’s any science behind it!
Fingers crossed you get happy news very soon

I've had 3 miscarriages at 12, 11 and 6 weeks but have just had my 3rd baby. For me they all happened naturally

The 12 and 11 week ones were painful (contractions) and there was more to see when baby passed. The 6 week one started with some light bleeding and then eventually became heavier and after a few days the pregnancy passed. I don't remember it being painful at all at that stage just like a heavy period.

I'm sorry for your loss

@monstermunchforlunch thank you for sharing. So happy you conceived soon 💗

@mintypea5 thank you for sharing. I'm hoping mine has passed too.. waiting rn at the hospital. Let's see what they say .

OP,
One word of caution: a rainbow pregnancy is nerve wracking, at least mine was.
I just planned to survive it day by day and hoped for the best.

I had a mc between my DC. I went for the 12 week scan and they seemed confused and said maybe the dates weren't right as I only looked about 6 weeks. Looking back I think they knew what was going to happen and didn't tell me. I miscarried at home a few days later.
It took a while to get over it, at least until the original due date, and by that time I was pg again with DD.

@mangostone yes its the same with me. How long did it take you to miscarry also was it very painful? Did you experience proper contractions?
So happy you got pregnant again. Many congrats 😃

@hithere2 I can understand. Atleast you had a positive outcome so its worth it :)

one word of caution a rainbow pregnancy is nerve wracking

Yes it certainly can be esp in the early stages, but can also be enjoyable. And they're worth it in the long run if all goes to plan. Miscarriages are bloody shit and for me getting pregnant and having a child (and hopefully a second) has made up for the pain I've gone through. I loved being pregnant first time round, like it this time round too, but feel less glowing and more tired second time. Both have been 'rainbow pregnancies' and women who don't lose babies may also be anxious too esp if they know of others that have lost babies.

@rubyroost 100% agreed. You try to rest as much as possible. Itll be great. All my best wishes for you

Aww thanks @Bee1710. I really hope its over soon for you, I understand the psychological need for it to just be over. X It will happen for you, I'm sure.

@Bee1710
It was a few days before anything happened (at that point I still thought there was a mix up with the dates so wasn't expecting anything) and then it started with some spotting.
It wasn't that painful, just a bit of cramping. Nowhere near as bad as contractions for me.

It happened over an evening so probably 3-4 hours once it got going with some bleeding before and after.
I went to hospital that night to make sure I wasn't losing too much blood and didn't need a D+C but it was all fine, I didn't need any intervention and went home the next day.

It was not a nice experience and very upsetting but I tried to think about how my body knew best and the pregnancy must have not been viable. I was lucky I already had DS so didn't have the worry about maybe not having any DC. My niece was born about a month later and I found that really hard.

I was lucky to have DD afterwards and once she was born everything felt ok again. I don't think about it much at all now.

One of the worst things about it was a nurse on the ward telling me it was probably for the best because with two children that close together I might not have been able to look after them properly

Also - hang on in there. I hope it's all ok for you

@mangostone that's very insensitive for the nurse to say like that. I'm glad you had a baby afterwards 💗
It has been 8 days since I know via my first scan. Bleeding thats increasing and decreasing but on my scan yday they said its still the same and no changes.
So have asked me to consider choosing natural, medical or surgical. I'm so confused between natural or surgical.

Im getting a slot for Thursday or coming Monday for surgical and so am thinking to book either and if happens before that naturally so it'll be done.
Very tough decision for me.

@rubyroost I miscarried naturally last night. I felt some period pains and then they turned to contractions that were 2 mins apart and after about 40 mins or so I felt a gush down there and ran to the bathroom to see just blood on my pad that too not soaking wet. After that my contractions stopped and I've just been having period cramps or heaviness you could say. Also after the gush I experienced I passed quite a huge clot as it was painful passing that. I was sitting to pee so couldn't see it.
The bleeding was quite heavy after the contractions for maybe 3 4 hours now that has slowed down too though it's still quite a bit.
I Was scheduled for surgery on Monday, don't know if I still need it now. What does your experience say? Also i called my EPU they are closed on Saturdays and Sundays I believe. Have to call early Monday morning before surgery.

@Bee1710 awful I know, but also a relief. Your epu should scan you rather than taking you to surgery to see if everything is passed. I think that would also make sense for them too as would be a lot cheaper to have a scan than go into surgery. Good luck, can you ring epu toda? There should be someone there to advise and perhaps they can organise scan for you. Good luck, let me know how it goes

@rubyroost yes i rang them. I think it's closed. Will try again tomorrow. Yes i hope it's all out and i dont need a surgery now.. I'll keep u updated :)

@Bee1710 that's strange, there's normally somewhere you can ring. There's a woman's ward at my hospital (it's the gynae ward) that you can ring any time.