Private gender scan? Yes or no?

[ALittleBitWorried1983]

I'm 16 weeks today and thinking of getting an early gender scan in the next week simply because I'm impatient and also the place I'd like to does a really nice gender package. I'm also moving in two weeks so would like to be able to make a start on the nursery.

However I know there's not a 100% guarantee even though the place says they're 99.8% accurate. So I'm a bit worried I'd go and they'd say it's one sex and then it end up being the other!

Anyone got any advice on whether it's worth it or if I should just wait? Or have any experience positive negative?

The gender package includes: gender confirmation, digial photos, physical photos, a 4d peek, a teddy bear with the heartbeat in it and a gender reveal box - think it sounds really nice!

This gender sex debate does my head in... if it's got a vagina it's a girl if it's got a penis it's a boy.. untill old enough to decide them selves what they want to be, if they want to be a duck or a broccoli or anything else stupid that's coming around in this day and age!! OP was only asking about wanting an early scan!!

Well said @bubblesqueek it's so frustrating. The sex of a baby is being treated like it's dangerous information.

@codenameduchess ok so start a thread/debate elsewhere and leave OP's thread alone. OP just wants to know their baby's sex as do I and many other pregnant women. It doesn't mean we will oppress our children in any way. Some posters are massively jumping to conclusions about our intentions. Mumsnet should be a safe space to ask questions and seek support, not for judgement and belittlement. That's the last I will say on the matter. Just fed up of seeing well meaning people getting bullied on here.

Thanks to all who have given their experiences about what’s happened if there has been an issue at the private scan - it’s reassuring to know that they have the ability to refer you (and, in some ways, give you an extra couple of weeks’ notice rather than waiting for the 20 week scan!)

I think I’m too pessimistic for my own good; the vast majority of pregnancies by that stage are absolutely fine!

Catconfusion is under the impress that they can dictate how threads run. Not how internet communities work alas!

Impress = impression

Jesus christ this thread got out of hand. I was only after experiences and there have been so many accusations. I called it a gender scan because that is what it is called at the place I am going to, when I referenced finding out I said 'sex'. Also assuming that I am going to buy everything gendered, the nursery is grey and I am between rabbits and elephants. Hardly gendered is it. I'm also aware the 20 week scan isn't a sexing scan hence I didn't mention it. Thanks for the helpful comments.

@ALittleBitWorried1983 if you want to go to a gender scan find out your baby's a girl and paint it pink or find out it's a boy and paint it blue so be it like every other normal person!! Honest to god they way some people throw down your throat about gender and sex and how ever bloody genders they want to pretend there is is bloody sickening. A girl is a girl and a boy is a boy for god sake!! Hope you enjoy your scan @ALittleBitWorried1983 and the nursery sounds lovely with rabbits.. let's just hope your child doesn't want to identify as a bloody rabbit or elephant because heaven for it you've shoved it upon then by decorating their nursery haha xx

@codenameduchess I'm quite happy with my life that I am a girl and was born with a vagina. Funnily enough. I'm not the one shoving down people's throats when they are asking questions about something completely different

@Boobiliboobiliboo no not at All I'm happy that I can cook clean look after kids but I also work in an all male environment and I am one of the highest paid here.. isn't that to do with being sexist not gender? It's okay with me to the point that as long as I know what I can and can't do why be bothered about other people's opinions? I'd be more then happy to stay at home, cook clean and lunch with my friends why my man brought a wage in, however I love my job and enjoy coming to it x

Hi, we've received a few reports about derailing so please can posters keep in mind that this is on the Pregnancy board, not the Feminism section.

You know you can still go to the NHS gender scan right? the NHS doesn't do a gender scan, or a sex scan. Yes I know it's been said already but it bares repeating. It's an anomoly scan or further on a growth scan. It isn't a hunt for willy scan

@ALittleBitWorried1983 enjoy your gender scan, check out what happens if they can't tell (do you get a repeat for example) but I prob wouldn't go for an elaborate gender reveal party

Why don't you just wait until it's born. No scans in my day, far more exciting in my mind.

I do wonder if the companies call it a 'gender scan' as they don't want to talk about sex in front of pregnant women for some reason! All the companies I have seen do call it a gender and not a sex scan, so maybe people should take it up with them not the OP.

I didn't have a private 'gender scan' to find out the sex, so can't comment on how good they are. I did have the 20 week anomaly scan and was asked if we wanted to know the sex. We said that we didn't want to know and the sonographer said that was good as we were not going to find out!

Our little one kept her knees curled up the whole way through the scan so we would never have seen anyway! If you do go for the private scan, you may want to check what their policy is on re-scans just in case as you don't want to pay the money for your baby to do what mine did (to be fair mine was a monkey and would not get into the position they wanted for the 12 week scan either).

For those on gender stereotypes, we are convinced we are having a girl. The nursery is blue.

Sex scan just doesn’t sound as soft /cuddly , it’s been used for ages. People are now talking about the terms more and they are more loaded.

I really disagree with it for NHS one it has that is an anomaly scan.

I know the op didn’t, but just in general