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Loss of symptoms at 8 weeks pregnant

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 09:42

Hi, I think I'm just looking for some reassurance as my midwife has given me none.

I'm now 9 weeks pregnant but last week, literally overnight, I lost all of my pregnancy symptoms - sore breasts, frequent urination, feeling queasy, constipation, cervical fluid. I thought they would come back but they haven't and it's been almost a week. I'm worried sick. My midwife said unless there is bleeding, she won't refer me for a scan.

I'm 27, normal BMI, had an internal scan at 7+2 weeks and saw baby's heartbeat. Am I worrying for nothing? Has this happened to anyone before? What would you do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated xxx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 09:46

Hi @danielasummer

Yes i lost my symptoms completely for 4 whole days, felt so normal. Went for a scan and everything was ok, same happened again, another scan showed all ok.
Currently at 12 weeks and had no sore boobs for 2 weeks. I was told you can have surges and they can come and go. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do apart from book another private scan if you want to put your mind at ease.
Please try not to worry, although i know that's easier said than done x

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 09:58

Hi @ejmay90 thank you so much for your reply and for your reassurance. I think we were talking on the May 2020 group weren't we? I'm still no less anxious as you cans see!

I'm so glad that your scans went well xx I'm trying not to worry as my midwife didn't seem to be worrying, but I'm finding it really helpful when people share similar stories with positive outcomes. Our 12 week scan is the first week of November so seems ages away but I'm reluctant to go for private ones as knowing me I'll be there every week! xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 10:05

@danielasummer yes i think we were!

Honestly i felt exactly the same, but after going for scans and seeing it's all ok even with no symptoms i feel less anxious.

My midwife didn't worry either and told me about the surges. I think the only time to really start worrying is if you start bleeding, but then again loads of people bleed and it's all ok.
I felt the same because of the previous miscarriage but my private scan place said they would only scan me every 2 weeks, so i had one at 6, 8 and 10 but measured ahead so last one i was actually 11 weeks. Felt so much more relaxed having them. I have my NHS 12 week on 22nd but should be 13+2 by then.

November isn't long away, it will fly by. Just try to keep busy :) xx

NutterPotter · 14/10/2019 10:15

Hi I was the exact same from 7 weeks until 9weeks i had no symptoms but everyone I spoke to said it was perfectly normal. I am now 33 weeks pregnant and getting kicked in the ribs.

I hated those first 12 weeks. I was do anxious but like you I knew if I went for one private scan I would want one every day xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 10:18

@ejmay90 I just don't understand how I've gone from feeling really pregnant to nothing at all, and I've felt normal for nearly a week. Did your midwife say that it happens often? Mine hardly gave me any advice and told me to basically sit tight and hope for no bleeding. I came out of the phone call feeling not much better than before it!

I would love to have a scan every few weeks. Are they expensive where you are? They are about £125 (I live in the Cambridgeshire area) so couldn't afford to keep having them unfortunately. Good luck for the 22nd xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 10:20

Hi @NutterPotter we sound like we're in the exact same boat. I'm so glad your pregnancy is going really well and I'm so excited to be getting constantly kicked in the ribs! :) When are you due?

I really feel the same about private scans - I would become obsessed I think and I don't think that would help my anxiety. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. It makes me feel better reading about real people rather than statistics xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 10:40

@danielasummer i thought the same, how can you feel pregnant to completely normal. When i mentioned it to the midwife she said you can have weekly surges, your hormones level out and then will have a surge. Also your body gets used to it more. She wasn't worried and said it can happen.
Your midwifes response wasn't very positive, saying hope for no bleeding would make me panic. I'm not surprised you didn't feel good when you came out of the call.

My scans were £79 a time and they gave you a free scan picture every time, although not free really when you spend £79 lol.
I also got to see the baby in 4D last week. I'm in Reading, Berkshire.
Thank you.

As pp, no symptoms for 2 weeks doesn't mean the worst.
Try to relax and keep your mind off it :) xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 11:36

@ejmay90 I guess what she's saying does make sense and I'm glad I'm not the only one to panic about this. She just wasn't reassuring at all. I feel quite alone in this because everyone (husband, family, midwife) is just telling me not to worry and I can't seem to make people understand how I feel, however much they want to.

I think I need to try and relax and, as you say, keep busy. Hopefully symptoms come back but if not, I will keep referring back to this post whenever I have a wobble and re-read your responses! xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 11:46

@danielasummer Yea it took me a while to believe what she said is true and going through it and having good scans makes me more reassured about it.
She doesn't sound very reassuring, can you try and speak to another midwife to get a 2nd opinion?
Ohhh don't i know that feeling! Everyone just keeps saying 'it's ok don't worry' but when it's your body and your the one feeling it, i know how terrifying it can feel.

Easier said than done but try too, read a pregnancy book? go for a walk with friends, anything that will keep your mind off the topic. It's hard as we try and listen to our bodies too much which makes us go mad.
My last midwife had 3 girls and had no symptoms or sickness with any of them, and they are all ok. So it can be done, just think yourself as the lucky one with feeling ok. Enjoy the good days :) xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 12:41

@ejmay90 I guess the only way I will truly know everything is ok is to have another scan but since I don't trust myself to not have one every week, I think I will just have to wait until the 12 week scan and hope some symptoms come back.

I wouldn't know who to go to for a second opinion to be honest as I live in a really small town and the doctor's surgery has just assigned me to the local midwife. I would like to speak to someone else but like she said on the phone, bad things can happen and there's nothing we can do to stop them. I'm getting reassurance from this thread so hopefully that will tide me over until my scan/returning symptoms.

I'll definitely try and keep busy and think of other things. It's hard because I can't seem to get out of my own head! xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 12:50

@danielasummer will your private scan place allow a scan weekly? as mine was every 2 weeks as they wouldn't do it weekly, so worth an ask?

Can you speak to your dr? as you can still contact them even with being assigned to a midwife. My Dr is amazing even with having a midwife.
She is right, they can happen and there is nothing we can do to stop it but she should be reassuring you rather than making you worry.

Yea i felt the same, it's normal to feel like this xx

whatdayisit7 · 14/10/2019 12:52

@danielasummer can you afford a private scan if it's worrying you? I'm afraid this happened to me (I was very likely and it seemed to stop overnight) so I booked a private scan and I'd had a missed miscarriage. I didn't bleed either.

Aus84 · 14/10/2019 12:54

Same thing happened with all three of mine. I was worried with my first but was expecting it with the next two. About a week later morning sickness kicked until about 14 weeks.

RolytheRhino · 14/10/2019 13:00

Enjoy it while it lasts. Mine came back at around twelve weeks. Once you've been on MN for a while you'll realise that this question comes up at least every week or two! It's right up there with 'Am I pregnant?'. 'No heartbeat on early scan' and 'Bleeding in early pregnancy' in terms of frequency. It's very normal, not worth an extra scan.

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 13:14

@ejmay90 honestly I'm not sure as I haven't even contacted anyone about a private scan. From what I've heard though it is usually only every 2 weeks.

I've spoken to my dr about my anxiety around this pregnancy and she gave me a number to call for potential CBT. I find it more reassuring to talk to others that have been through this though as I keep being told by health-care professionals over and over to not worry. They make it seem like I love to worry! I really really don't - I hate feeling like this and know I should be enjoying it. I'm so reassured that you felt the same and you're having a safe pregnancy xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 13:16

@whatdayisit7 I'm so sorry to hear you had a missed miscarriage, that must have been awful x I can afford a private scan but worry that I will be there all the time. May I ask how far along you were? x

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 13:17

@Aus84 That's really reassuring to hear; thank you for sharing and I'm glad your pregnancies were safe. It's just so strange to feel so pregnant then to just... not. xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 13:18

@RolytheRhino Thank you. Did your symptoms disappear around the same time as mine? I'm comforted to know it's not just happening to me xx

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RolytheRhino · 14/10/2019 13:20

Yes, around then. It's very common. Have you got a good pregnancy book like 'What to expect when you're expecting?' They are very helpful for questions like this.

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 13:27

@RolytheRhino Yes I have that book - I didn't even think to look in it. I will do that now. Thank you; you've been really helpful xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 14:11

@danielasummer if you feel you want a private scan it may be worth contacting them to have a chat at least? the sonographer who i first saw said the same thing about symptoms so it's really not uncommon for them to disappear.
I agree, better to talk to people who have been through it but the CBT may help better in ways of coping with the anxiety.
I felt the same, i always thought god i don't love to be like this why is everyone thinking i do! People dont understand unless they have been through it i feel xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 14:31

@ejmay90 That's a really good idea and I think I might do that later this week if the symptoms aren't back yet.. my midwife seems to think it's totally fine so I'm trying to listen and be guided by her but I still feel so anxious about it. I guess I will only really know if I have a scan but I can't just have them whenever I get a 'bad feeling' or I'll be there all the time!

Yes I think that CBT might help so I will probably call them later this week.

People totally don't get it.. that's why Mumsnet is a Godsend at times like these. xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 14:37

@danielasummer thats a good idea.
Try and listen to your midwife and all of the stories on here. Yea i know what you mean but once you've had a few positive scans you'll feel better. I know i certainly do, but it's entirely down to you.

Worth a try!

I agree, a lot of us have been through it so know how your feeling. xx

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danielasummer · 14/10/2019 16:00

@ejmay90 Oh God, I've just been reading my pregnancy book and it's said its an indicator of a missed miscarriage so now I'm panicking again.. I feel like I do need to book a private scan now. First our bodies change (which I don't mind at all!) but then our brains do and that, I can't handle! Would really like a day without anxiety. xx

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ejmay90 · 14/10/2019 16:08

@danielasummer Honestly it's not always a symptom of missed miscarriage. There are lots of people who experience loss of symptoms or don't have any at all and go on to have healthy pregnancies.

If you feel an early scan will help, contact your local private unit. Yea i know, there is so much your not told when you get pregnant! xx

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