Babyziller

[broodygirl]

Hi lovely's,

So me and my OH have decided I'll stop my pill in December and then going in to the new year we will start trying for a baby yay! I'm so excited, I have to wait 5 months just to stop my pill and I need help on how I can cope with just waiting around. I've been broody for a long time and all I think about now, is what names are cute, what I need to buy, what colour room to decorate, basically I've turned in to a babyziller and I need help and advice on how to calm my self or if anyone else has been the same how did they cope?

Firstly, Assuming you’re aiming for the baby equivalent of Godzilla/bridezilla, it’s babyzilla (not ‘er’)

Secondly, assuming you’re an adult woman and have waited this long without having a baby there is absolutely no reason you need to turning into a squeeing teenager until you can have unprotected sex. Yes it’s exciting but no need to go “babyzilla”.

You will bore your friends and family very quickly of anything related to you and your baby if you decide to be a “babyzilla”. Just be a normal person with normal levels of excitement and conversation about a potential baby.

Oh OP, it is exciting but without trying to put a dampener on things you realise it can take a long time?! My 2 pregnancies took 5 months and 18 months of trying - that could be a long time to maintain this level of enthusiasm!

Remember it can easily take six months or more for a healthy couple to conceive so be prepared that even when you do start trying it might take a while.

You should start taking regular folic acid three months before ttc so you can get some of that. You could also use the time now to get as fit and healthy as possible ready for pregnancy, that would give you something to focus your energy on.

Hiya,

I say babyziller to make a light joke, Of the fact I am simply excited, when you are a big family person and the idea of starting my own family excites me a lot and not just being the fun auntie.

I do know it takes time and isn't going to be straight away, witch as much as you want it straight away. There can be some hurdles. My mum is informed that we are going to try but I keep my excitement to myself as I don't want to bore others.

I was just hoping to see if anyone else have been in the same boat as me and how they coped with it seeing as everyone is different to each other.

Darkstar,

Thank you, I have to take folic acid every day anyway, and to get my self ready, I have stopped smoking 3 weeks today, and lost 8lbs, witch not only am I feeling good, I smell better 😂😂

Well done on stopping smoking, that’s not an easy thing to do. Weight loss and fitness are good too. Cycling or swimming are good for building up your back/hips/legs for carrying the weight of a pregnancy around and you can continue with them once you are pregnant.

You might want to pop over to the conception board - lots of excited women about to or starting there TTC journey. Good luck for the future xx

I stopped my pill a good few months before we started trying- the guts of a year as DH was on tour for about seven of those. We used condoms in the meantime which was fine. It meant I could track my cycles which gave me a good idea of when I was ovulating etc. When we started trying we conceived the first month, had an early loss, and then conceived again straight after my first normal period.

Me logging my cycles might have had eff all to do with it and we might just be very lucky, but if you can use condoms for a while it wouldn't do any harm to track if you can. I was also broody and it felt like I was doing "something" rather than just waiting to start trying iyswim.

It is exciting when you start to try, but it took me and the hubby nearly 2 years. After awhile the excitement turns to being worried and stressed if you focus too much on it. Ironically its only after we gave up and focus on having fun together again it happened. Now nearly 31weeks :)

Yes. Kind of. I was excited sigh we had no big plans it was just something we kept talking about and when i forgot to take my pill with me on holiday so just thought meh... Let's try.

But then I got really anxious. So try to stem the excitement. Though it only took me until march. Are you waiting 5 months to save up money? Or just enjoy the last of your free time?

It’s tricky to think of advice in terms of how to calm yourself - but I think it’s important that you do, because if it takes a while for you to get pregnant or like me suffer with horrendous morning sickness at the start (worst three months ever!) you’ll quickly go from feeling super happy like you are now to feeling really low, and that won’t be good for you. That obviously doesn’t mean you can’t be excited - but there’s no need to be OTT about it all. Bare in mind that although having a baby is amazing it’s also hard work - so rather than feeling impatient for months use this time to really make time for yourself and appreciate things you can easily do that will be tricky once your baby eventually arrives.

Hi @broodygirl
I was borderline like that. Been ttc now for 16 months and still get excited but not as much now. My periods are all over the place so can't track. Just have to hope we'll be lucky one day. I also recommend stopping the pill now and using condoms if you don't want to get pregnant until new year. Your periods may take a long time to regulate after taking the pill.

Folic acid, fitness regime and getting finances in order :) get yourself as healthy as possible! Although maybe see if you partner is happy to start earlier as time goes on. We were in a similar situation and it got to the point where I couldn't wait anymore and so many people around us were having fertility problems.
Maybe get some good books as well about having a baby?