Due October 2019 - 14 weeks to go 💙💖

[HJWT]

If anyone knows of a thread already up and being used please link it below 😁

Wanted to start a thread for all the October mums to be if not as no one to talk to in the real world 🤞🏻

I am due 19th with a little boy and already have a DD(3)

Cant believe its only 12 weeks until October 😬

Really sorry if this is tmi but I have now for two days had upset stomach, don't feel ill at all but it's awful, I'm
35+2 and have no other signs of any thing else happing, few cramps but I have had them for weeks. Is this normal?

@2018isanewyear can be totally normal, I've had on and off loose stools, and I wondered if it was part of the "clear out" but I don't think it is. I think it's just all the hormones in my body. Just make sure that you keep your fluids up as you don't want to get dehydrated at all.

I've just finished my tasks for the morning. School drop off, made 3 cottage pies and 1 for tea later, cleaned the next section of the kitchen (doing a bit every day).
Sitting down for a rest before I go to the shop for bread, have lunch, wash up the cottage pie stuff and then i think I'll sit down again. I'll clean more of the kitchen tomorrow and wash the floor as I don't want to overdo it today.
Think I've done more on my maternity leave than I would usually do in work as it was in an office so fairly monotonous.

Hi all, we had an October group going here but it largely moved over to facebook so got very quiet on MN. I'm 34 weeks, but having an EMCS at 39 so definitely counting down now.

@Frizzy1986 I know what you mean about loving another. It's so hard to imagine!

I also have low iron and have been trying to manage on Spatone as the tablets made me feel so ill. I'm seeing the MW tomorrow and had a blood test last week so should get a sense of whether it's working. I'm still exhausted but I'm not sleeping well so that's not really a surprise.

@AngeloMysterioso I have something similar with the acid, plus very burpy. I hate peppermint tea, but wonder if it's worth a try to help with sleep...

Thanks @Frizzy1986 I think your right. This is my first and I think all the anticipation/excitement/unknown is probably not helping either. I have weekly blood pressure checks so will mention Friday but if nothing else happens I will take it as wishful thinking : )

Appointments all done... been prescribed ranitidine for the acid, senna for the 💩 but she said other than that to persevere with the lactulose and peppermint tea...

Also thanks to the GD I can labour in water for a while but will probably have to deliver on a bed

@AngeloMysterioso well at least you have something for the rest of you ailments!
Try not to dwell on the bed delivery. You can spend most of the time in the water hopefully and then just because you are on a bed doesn't mean on you back. You can do all fours or on your knees holding onto the bed head. Hopefully they'll be really supportive of keeping the upright position and the water will help you to relax at the start.

I'm an idiot and set an alarm to have a nap before collecting dd, but instead finished cleaning the kitchen, put the dishwasher on, swept and hand washed the floor with cleaner and bleech. What is wrong with me?! I'm now sweating loads and shattered right before I have to pick up dd.

@2018isanewyear wishful think away. I know I am. I kind of hope I hold out until mid next week (38 weeks) as I think I need to have a rest and also want the cleaners to have done the house. But part of me remembers that at exactly 37 weeks last time I had started to get pains and then 4 days later I had a baby so it's a bit weird as I'm excited, yet don't like the unknown (not the unknown of labour as done it already but more when it's going to kick off as I like to plan 😂)

Sorry iv been MIA! Had a rough few days, think iv cried it all out now 😂

Thought I was in early labour today, thank god it has all gone away now though.

@Frizzy1986 Eeh hope you have a baby soon to give us all hope 🤭 You sound worse than me for not having a rest! I cant wait for next week of on a shopping spree for house bits then going to deep clean the house at the weekend 😂 honestly when your a mum its sad what gets you going 🤦🏻‍♀️ xx

@GinMama1 ahh thats probably why then as I am not on FB! X

@AngeIoMysterioso Hope you start to feel a bit better now!

@Sw2102 @Chista @cattaxi I used to like sucking on a sponge when I was a kid 🥴 thankfully hasn't become a craving though x

Hello! I've not been around for a while but just popping in to say I have had my home birth assessment today. All went well.
Currently on the sofa feeling sorry for myself full of a virus of some kind.
Collecting birth pool tomorrow but I need to get square tap adapters from somewhere.

@Ju5tAgirlstandinginfrontofaboy have a look on local Facebook pages. Someone might have some they no longer need? I've found a few local home birth groups on there and people are very upfront offering unused kits. I fancied a home birth but decided against it in the end.

I've let dd watch a film after school, means I can just lie on the sofa and rest while we cuddle which is quality time.
Keep thinking of more things I could do tomorrow like clean the front door, but I really need to stop myself!

Omg I remember when this was me last year. My son is now nearly 11 months old! He was born 15 October 2018. So excited for everyone! 😃

@Frizzy1986 Haha! I need to clean my front door and window etc 😁 keep meaning to do it and forget!

Really bad night for me, the hip was agony.
Then every time I’ve fallen asleep today the phone has rung. I think the world is against me sleeping.
I had braxton hicks all the way through my Nct class last night.
Would love to clean the house, but with all the decorating etc, really not sure it’s worth it.

@Frizzy1986 thank you for the tip!
I too have had my DD on the sofa with me watching movies while I feel sorry for myself

@newbabyyy2019 I had an appointment with the consultant today & it's quite upset me...She said if by next week she hasnt gained anything.Or very little they would look to deliver!..If shes gained a little and is still under the lines...They will monitor but most likely want her out by 36 weeks...I asked if the miraculous happens and she gains and gets onto the lines where she needs to be then what?And she said monitoring every 2 weeks and bring her at 38 (mostly due to my previous c sections) She measured my bump and I'm measuring 28 weeks!!She said obviously scans are more accurate but its really sent me in a spin...I feel like somethings really wrong and when I go to this scan next week il be told bad news & il be having a very small.Very premature baby delivered...My scan at 31+5 weeks was 3lb 4oz...Placenta was all fine and blood flow going through well...I'm just so scared now for next week.Realistically how much could she have grown in 2 weeks...I dont feel any bigger...If shes still under weight and literally gained nothing...Il be devastated.How are you coping with all this?...Why are they happy to let you go on if your not gaining much each week?She said to me in such terms...If they arent gaining anything or enough inside it's best to help them on the outside...I've cried all the way home & I'm feeling so sick.7 days until I'm scanned again...It seems like forever...Everyone says oh at least your be 34 weeks by then...that's a very nearly term baby...But really its not...Because she isnt gaining the weight a 34 week baby would be...so how many weeks in weight am I really giving birth too...Its so upsetting.I felt each week of pregnancy was a mile stone and a sense of security that she was bigger & more developed and ready for the world...and now I just feel like all these weeks may of been for nothing.And I could potentially have a really small under developed baby coming soon :(

@Cantthinkofanameeee Oh sweet! You really are giving your self a hard time!! 9 times out of 10 the scans are wrong and of by at least a pound, all that matters is that baby is out when she needs to be,safe and healthy! Most TWINS are born at 34-35 weeks and some even go home next day so try not to worry until you really need to!

Some consultants are absolute idiots, mine made me feel like shit and said because of my BMI I would end up with diabetes and pre-eclampsia and my baby would HAVE to be born at 38 weeks because of it! When in reality I have none of that and baby is doing fine!

They told my sister her baby wasn't growing enough and was going to be very small and to prepare herself for the WORST! She also told her she wouldn't make it to 30 weeks! And she was born past due date, she spent weeks crying and panicking!

Try not to get to upset and just take every day as it comes 💗 xxx

@Cantthinkofanameeee I'm really sorry that it's been an awful appointment. They are doing what they can and monitoring and will make the best decision moving forward. I know you are worried, but premature babies still do amazingly well. Development might be good and it's just size that is an issue so there might not be massive concerns with what they tend to worry about for prem babies.
A friend of mine had a prem baby at 31 weeks and that was 20 years ago and her baby thrived. There's been a lot of advances since then so try to focus on the positive outcomes which are by far the most likely.

Sending lots of love and hugs

Thankyou @HJWT the reassuring words really do help calm me down.I do feel like today was a big jump & change from the initial scan.The sonographer last week didnt seem worried and just said shes below average.I want to check in 2 weeks that shes grown on the same line.No panick...Its more hard not knowing for longer what I was measuring in recent weeks...Because I'm wondering if shes developed at all from being measured at 28 weeks...That's the hardest part.I wouldn't be so scared of delivering early if i knew all these weeks were beneficial to the baby...

@Cantthinkofanameeee
They've been saying to me since I had my 20 week scan that I'll be having this baby really early. They said to me at 21 weeks they wouldn't induce me till I'm at least 24 weeks which terrified me because I was thinking I could potentially have this baby so prematurely. Then at 24 weeks they said their aim is to get me to 30 weeks. At 30 weeks they said their aim is now 34 weeks! Then they said at 33 weeks they would induce me by 37 weeks and I'm 36 weeks now and my next growth scan I'll be 37 weeks. Plus my scans and monitoring in-between to check blood flow and heart beat (I have one tomorrow) ..My baby is measuring wayyyy behind, by about 4-5 weeks but so far they've been wrong and she's been okay to stay in so I take everything they say with a pinch of salt now. It's been stressful, I completely know what you're going through, it's scary and each appointment you come away thinking omg I could be having this baby in like a week.. My baby is little but is doing well enough for them to keep her in so far! They made me believe that if she hadn't grown enough then they would have to get her out straight away but then they haven't induced me still even though my last two growth scans showed that she hasn't grown much at all! So I suppose they say all of this because they have to prepare you for worse case scenario and they've been preparing me for that at every appointment so far. You just have to try and not worry yourself and I know first hand that it's so hard to take your mind off it! When all this was first happening with me and I didn't know what was going on with my baby I was having panic attacks and emotional breakdowns. I stopped myself from googling everything because that doesn't help. You've just got to remember that your baby will be in the best hands and the midwives and consultants know what's best for our babies and that although they're measuring behind they could be bigger than we realise because the scan is only an estimate!! At least we only have a week left until our next growth scans and hopefully we'll know more (mines on Monday) I'm going to take my hospital bag just in case! I suppose as well because our babies are measuring small it doesn't mean they're underdeveloped it could just be that they're just smaller than other babies. Everyone grows at different paces. No two people are the same and that's the same for babies growing in the womb, they're just growing at their own little pace. Try not to worry! Have a cuppa, watch a film and try and take your mind off it

Had my midwife appointment yesterday at 35+2 but I am measuring as 38 weeks! So I have a growth scan on Friday. Bit worried I'm going to give birth to a giant baby.
Baby is now cephalic instead of breech though so that's something I guess.

for everyone having to have extra scans. I do not think they would let babies stay in unless it was better that they were out but I know this is a really tough time.

I registered at my parent's GP practice yesterday in order to move my antenatal care - so that is today's plan ring the new midwives to get on their list. Also need to ring the solicitors to see if we can exchange on Friday

@YorkshireIndie fx that you get good news for Friday and that's good that you have started the switch over for your care. Must feel like a relief.

@faelavie measurements might not mean much at all. I was measuring 28 at my 32 week appointment, but a scan then put me right on track. Try and stay relaxed until they scan you and even then it doesn't necessarily mean they are accurate.

I've actually gone and had a bloody nap today! I had an OK sleep overnight and think I only woke up 2-3 times with my hips.
Took dd to school, came home and made some sausage stews for the freezer and one for tea. Then I nipped out and got a curtain pole for the dining room, washed up and sat down for lunch. I've done nothing since and had a lie down at about 2pm just as countdown started and I remember none of it so I must've dozed off.

Feel a lot better now so it's definitely done me some good. I have woken with a weird taste in my mouth though. Its not a metallic taste but it is quite tangy and a strange sensation. Not sure what that is at all.

@Frizzy1986 buyer's solicitor has asked someone questions so do not think we will be exchanging although the estate agents are pushing for us to exchange this week. Managed to speak with the new midwives and got an appointment for next week. I have gone home early because I felt too stressed out with the constant emails from the estate agents. You would think that we are dragging our heels but we are not

@YorkshireIndie sorry its been so stressful for you. Glad that you have the midwife next week. Make sure they know about the stress.
I remember buying our house, it was a really standard sale with a very short chain and I found that stressful enough plus I wasn't pregnant so just take it easy.