Due October 2019 - 14 weeks to go 💙💖

[HJWT]

If anyone knows of a thread already up and being used please link it below 😁

Wanted to start a thread for all the October mums to be if not as no one to talk to in the real world 🤞🏻

I am due 19th with a little boy and already have a DD(3)

Cant believe its only 12 weeks until October 😬

*that should have said shouldn't wear, not should wear

My mum was a nanny the same as me, so when it comes to the baby she can sort anything I’m not up too and show DH.
Also we were still living there until January this year. Had to get DH ex out of the house last year, but she hadn’t clean or repaired anything in years. It’s taken us awhile to get how it should be. She had problems, main one being lazy, as wouldn’t get any help with her mental health.
I have a brother with the same thing, so I’m sympathetic to it. Unfortunately burying your head in the sand wasn’t helping her.
Just got the 2 bigger bedrooms and bathroom upstairs to decorate and the hallway going up the stairs and the whole house is done.

Impressed with your batch cooking & cleaning @Frizzy1986. I’ve been taking ds swimming quite a bit as the water is so comfortable. We just mess around in the pool, playing chase and crocodiles. He loves it - probably because I can’t really get down on the floor and play with him properly on dry land these days!

@secretlyhermione it’s great that you have a good relationship and that they will help when baby comes. Just be firm from the start I suppose & be clear on your own boundaries. My mil is a very difficult lady, so I may not be the best person to offer advice here!

@AngeloMysterioso pretty much exactly the same here. Spent ages making a lovely dinner & then could only stomach half a plate. I’ve got really bad trapped wind and I think it’s aggravating Braxton hicks. So uncomfortable!

@SRK16 my baby is still doing the odd transverse flip. It’s so painful! He doesn’t go to my bum though - just feels like he’s going to rip through the side of my stomach! I was hoping he’d settled into position by now.

I’m soaking in the bath again as it’s getting to be the only place I’m comfortable. Can’t believe I’m on my last week at work now. I’m so ready for all the naps & to have some time to prepare for this baby!

Evening all, I hate Sunday evenings, preparing for the week ahead, planning lessons, getting school uniform ready etc.Been a very busy weekend for us, we have a small holding with some pigs, chickens and huge polytunnel, so much to do there at the moment. Then I made a massive batch of apple and chilli jelly. We are hoping to do some Christmas markets this year so need lots of stock. I just feel overwhelmed with everything in my life that there is to do right now. I feel like I can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel and I just break down crying. Tried lists but that in itself is overwhelming.
Plus we have to change the car to a 7 seater before baby 4 arrives and I’m now 35 weeks! We are in Cornwall and we don’t have any of the big car supermarkets and dealers have nothing used in.
My plan tonight is to put some the sofa bed back as sofa in spare room, Work out what I’m teaching for the week and then have a nice bath, and probably cry some more lol.
Very jealous of those who have finished work already! I’ve got 3 weeks, might have to bring it forward a week for my sanity!!

God guys, my mood has been SO low the last couple of days 😞 hope I wake up tomorrow feeling better! DD has a horrible attitude atm and keeps shouting at me, DH has been a moody ass hole and my neighbours woke me up at 3 am arguing 🥴

@secretlyhermione my MIL is a dip shit! She hasn't bothered with DD for over a year, not even a text when she was in hospital, but made FIL put her name in the birthday card 🙄 SIL says its because baby is coming soon & DH thinks that to, she won't be coming anywhere near him though! If you don't care about my first baby you certainly don't need to meet my second 👋🏻

So I had my 36 week appt on Friday, told them the daily Fragmin injections were making me feel like crap, they said necessary evil. Also they have decided to induce me on Friday. I am in meltdown as I have nothing prepared.

@Chista ahh good luck! All baby needs is clothes nappy's, carseat, somewhere to sleep, and milk so as long as you have that sorted and you hospital bags/Pads for after you will be fine x

Thanks @HJWT all I have prepared so far is ordering the travel system which still needs to be put together. We have plenty of baby clothes which were all gifted. But seriousky thought I had at least 2 weeks to get this all done not 5 days

@Chista, hope you don’t have too stressful a time getting everything ready, but it’s true, so long as they have some clothes and are fed, it’s all they need.

@HJWT my children are having attitude problems too at the moment. I think it’s a mix of tiredness and getting back into routine after the summer. I’m hoping they will settle down soon! So much answering from middle daughter, and she’s only 5!! Drives me mad!!

@Chista Good luck for Friday! Howcome you're being induced early if you don't mind me asking?
It sounds like you have enough things sorted so don't worry yourself too much, everything will work out in the end! How exciting that you get to meet your little one so soon! Keep us updated on how you get on!

@MaryRobinson81 thanks, hopefully all should be ok.

@newbabyyy2019 I am what the NHS call a getiatric mother at 37. Also I have GD so they wont let me go past 37 weeks.

@Chista your not old I’m 40. NHS love to keep reminding me.
I’m not supposed to be going past 37 weeks either, just 3 weeks to go.

@HJWT she does not sounds like a nice lady at all! I guess I'm quite lucky then and should just appreciate the help!
@christa how exciting! First one of the group I think? Keep us posted!!
I'm going into my last week of work. My last day is technically next Monday (bit of a weird finishing date but they're quite exact here) so the countdown begins!!

@christa how exciting. Things will be fine I'm sure, my sister popped unexpectedly at 34 weeks and they managed to get things sorted fairly fast.

@HJWT2 my daughter is being a nuisance too. I'm putting it down to the return to school and back to a different routine. I'm hoping she sorts herself out soon as its frustrating.

Dh slept in the spare room last night. I'm keeping him up with my constant tossing and turning so he asked if id mind. I felt really bad. He then wasn't sure as the spare duvet was in the loft, so when he went to walk the dog I went up the ladder and used the loft door hook to hook the duvet so I could reach it and make the spare bed up for him.
He slept better, but I slept awfully again 😔

I'm really lucky that I get on well with my in laws. I live 200 miles from my family so they are our local support. I think I get on better with them than dh. They've said to ask for anything we need, but I don't like to ask (even though they offered) as it feels different to asking my own parents. I always try and get dh to ask them as they are his parents,but he can be a bit slack on doing things I ask.

After months of asking he finally sat down and watched 3 short hypnobirthing videos with me last night. Just to learn the breathing (so he can help me) and what his role is. I then went through my birth plan with him and told him what I need from him on D-day. Wish he'd actually listened earlier though and watched more as I'm not sure how much he's taken in.
36+6 today so almost fully cooked, which will be nice. Just means I can go to the birth centre.
I'd quite like it out next Monday 😂 as I'm not sure my skin can stretch anymore.

Hi guys...I'm due october 31st...(Having a csection at 39 weeks tho) Pregnancy has all been well so far other than HG from week 6 to 18!!...I had a scan at 32 weeks (last week) just to check on babies position ect before we book my section at 34 weeks.And they said babies on the lower end of average weight 3.5lb...So I'm re booked for a scan at 34 to see her growth.Then will see consulatant & book section...But I cant stop worrying these 2 weeks now until im scanned.The growth didnt seem a big panick.But I now feel at times like hmmm have I had any growth.I feel empty in my stomach when she turns to the back...Has my bump grown...I'm not tiny by far.I have a big round baby bump.But I just cant recollect the last time I felt like I've had a spurt.My bump sort of popped out properly at 24 weeks...And I don't really feel much has changed since then?Any stories to make me more secure?

Had a bit of a better night, which was nice.
Only then this morning lent out of bed to reach the iPad and fell out!!😂
Apparently my centre of balance has gone completely now.
DH found me one leg on the floor, one on the bed and kind of wedged.
It must of been a right sight 😂😂😂😂

@Cantthinkofanameeee
My baby is also on the lower scale. My little one is below the 5th centile so I've been having scans and monitoring twice a week since I was 20 weeks.. My baby is what they call an IUGR baby.
They've told me that I will probably have her by 37 weeks (I'm 36 weeks today) but at my last growth scan which was last Monday they said that although she's not really grown (measuring only 3lb 13oz At 35 weeks) they will try and keep her in for as long as they can providing her blood flow and other things are all okay. Our babies are just little and that's absolutely fine! I'm constantly told I have the tiniest baby bump, which is annoying.
I don't feel as if my bumps grown much either recently. Dunno if this message has helped you but just wanted you to know that you're not alone and that I'm going through similar to you in terms of growth.

@Newbabyyy2019 thanks for replying and sharing your story...You must be so stressed having had this since 20 weeks...How slowly is the baby growing?I was under the impression very slow or static growth was like an instant induction...And it has had me worrying il go in for the scan and if she hasnt grown il be told shes got to come out...I'm just hoping when I go back next week she has grown a lot (enough) in the 2 weeks and they are happy to leave me alone...Its horrible people commenting on your bump isnt it.I think people believe it's a compliment to be told your "tiny" prob not realising it will play on our minds in a negative way.Will you be induced then at 37 or are they just assuming baby will come early?...If all the placenta and blood flow is working fine and getting to the baby what are their reasons or understanding of why babys are smaller than expected?That scares me aswell that il be told it's some condition ect...I wont Google anything on the subject for this reason...has your consultant gave you any reasons?...Thanks again and sorry for so many questions X

@Cantthinkofanameeee
Yeah it's been rather stressful but I've had all tests including amniocentesis to rule out the growth being caused by anything other than a placenta insufficiency due to having short long bones. She also has a single umbilical artery so they have to check the blood flow through that twice a week just incase. My baby was doing really well and going up the chart so they weren't too concerned but my last two appointments her growth has started to tail off. She's only put on 1lb in a month. Every time I go for my growth scan I assume they're going to keep me in! They're scanning me at 37 weeks and then the consultant said she will let me know whether they're going to keep me in but also said if her blood flow is good then they may try keep her in longer so I literally have no idea how next weeks appointment is going to go..

@Cantthinkofanameeee really sorry that you are also going through issues with growth.
Just try and stay calm, if they were overly concerned they'd scan you within a week so if they are happy to wait 2 weeks, then they'll know that there won't be an impact in that time.
It's something that they will see regularly I'm sure and will be able to provide the best care so that baby is ok. They'll hold off as long as they can, but they won't take any risks so be confident that it will be OK and try and relax until the next scan, just in case they decide at that point that the best option is to deliver. Then life will get nice and manic for you.

I feel fortunate that I've not had any major issues (was measured small at 32 weeks, but a scan said all OK) and last time dd had measured on 50th all the way through, but ended up around 10th at birth (again nothing remotely like you but its the closest knowledge I have), but each and every small thing can be a concern at this stage. Even if there are no issues, you are constantly trying to recall movement, position etc etc as you are a mother wanting to protect and care for your baby and want to make sure you don't miss something important.
Know that now you are being monitored you are in the best position as you can be moving forward with experts making sure you are both OK.

Sending lots of positive thoughts to you and to everyone who has any issues, concerns or worries. It won't be long and then we can all have a list of brand new problems to deal with when we have to physically take care of them and do the right things.

@Cantthinkofanameeee
Sorry you are having a rough time at the moment.
I’m probably going to induce early for the opposite reason, I’m measuring off the scale.
I think sometimes that we now know too much and have more to worry about.

@Cantthinkofanameeee and @newbabyyy2019 sorry you’re both having worries about growth- so stressful. Like @Em39ma I’m the opposite and keep worrying I have undiagnosed gestational diabetes that they’re missing (two GTT say I don’t).

Noticing my anxiety is really creeping up now I’m getting close, less than 3 weeks until my section. Keep worrying there’s going to be something wrong. Have a consultant apt later so hope that helps reassure me, I haven’t seen a midwife/doctor for nearly 3 weeks & very conscious of my extremely swollen feet and hands. Hope it’s nothing.

Em39ma thank you, I know I am not old but the NHS staff make u feel like a relic.

Sorry to hear some of u have growth issues, I am the opposite in that my one is 7 pounds at 36 week scan - 99th percentile but then I also know not to pay too much attention to the projection as its can be waaaaaay off.

Thankyou all for sharing...it is so stressful...il pop bk on when I've had my scan next week to update...hope everyone keeps progressing nicely...x