I'll try and keep this as concise as possible, please bear with me!
Daughter is 27 weeks pregnant with second child. First pregnancy was textbook up until delivery (6 years ago). Ended up with an emergency cesarian section that went horribly wrong. I was with her in the operating theatre and still suffer from PTSD due to events. The bottom line is baby basically 'got stuck'. From the information we were told after, it transpired babies neck was stuck under the pelvic bone. To say all hell broke loose would be an understatement. I could see the fear on the Registrars face and everyone seemed to be panicking, unsure of what to do. Thankfully the main consultant just happened to be on call and was in the theatre within minutes. I know, had she not of been, I would have left that day without either my daughter or grandchild. To try and give some scale of the problems we were in the operating theatre for 5hrs and 40 mins, which by any stretch is a long time for a c section.
There were concerns of possible brain damage due to the length of time it took to deliver but thank God, it all turned out ok. My daughter had to have 5 blood transfusions and stay on the epidural for 4 days post delivery. The Consultant explained she had had to do a 'classic' incision which meant any future pregnancies would have to be delivered earlier by cesarian, there would be no possibility of allowing a natural birth due to the risk of rupture.
Fast forward to now. We have the consultants letter which she kindly wrote for my daughter explaining the previous problems and how future pregnancies will have to be carefully managed and delivered early so there is no chance of going into labour, but she has unfortunately retired. New consultant has said he will do a cesarian at 39 weeks. My daughter (and myself) are horrified at this. I am trying to reassure her that the consultant knows best but I genuinely think in this instance he has made a mistake.
How would you try and convey that you think he is wrong? I thought he would suggest delivery at 37 weeks, so when he said 39 my brain sort of shut down! We have another appointment with him next week and I'm wondering if I should stress the mental anxiety this is causing my daughter? I genuinely would welcome any thoughts or suggestions.