I can't decide if I am overly laid back or neurotic.....

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The movements have stopped. Nothing for over 24 hours. I had this before for 12 hours and called a midwife friend and the baby started moving again just before she arrived.

I can't keep calling her out everytime I worry - and I worry because I am not panicking, iyswim, and maybe I am fatalist or just have faith that it will all be ok.

The clinic and obs are miles away and is a huge hassle to go (always there for hours and hours andno one to pick up kids from sports activities if I go, everyone who could do it is out of town and dh is unavailable unless dire emergency). This being France I would probably be kept in even if nothing was really wrong and I just cannot drop everything if not absolutely vital. I don'twant to cry wolf.I have even considered going out and buying a doppler!
I think I have lost my perspective here.

I just need to tell someone and can't face discussing this in rl. Am off for girlie day out today - shit.

How many weeks are you GGG?

can you hire a doppler in france?

Baby could just be in a completely different position which will be why you cant feel it. I can understand you being a little neurotic, I was due to mc which is nothing like what you have been through. I had a doppler with both my girls and while it helped a little if I couldnt find heartbeat then would lead to me doing nothing else all day but trying to find it and panic. How far along are you now??

Coming up to 19 Lth.

and Nemo!

drink a sugary drink and lie down on your side, and if there are still no movements then contact your midwife.

good luck.

At 19weeks I wasn't feeling hardly anything at all with ds4.
I was obsessed with every single little blip on my "is the baby moving" radar.....I think its completely natural, even if it does make us neurotic!!

I know you know the baby will ahve probably turned to face inwards and is kicking in, rather than out so you can't feel him/her....I know you know this so I would tell you

I didn't realise you are 19 weeks - I think it's normal for baby movements to be very sporadic and irregular at this stage.

19wks dont overly worry, I think movements are more consistent from 22wks onwards.
With Ds I didnt feel him until 22wks, DD1 16wks and DD2 21wks. I felt the occasional movement sbut nothing consistent. Think that is why MWs tell you not to count them until 28wks onwards.
You can try the cold sugary drink trick

I thought what Nemo thought

but you know your body if you think you should call the midwife, call her .. who cares if you've done it before

19 weeks is still quite early to be expecting it too regularly. When is your next scheduled appt?

but yes, I agree with Twig too.

I;d call the MW anyway....thats her job afterall.

(sorry about typos in prev post)

Also agree with Twig, if you feel the need to call mw then do it, even if baby starts kicking while you are waiting it will be worth it to stop yourself stressing.

I've just been to the midwife in the past couple of days for this very reason - she found heartbeat and all was fine - but I know that is not always the case which is why I decided to go (I was loathe to bother her too).
She said at this stage (I am 20 + 2 so not too much different) there is still room for the baby to move around without you always feeling it, and it might just have been kicking "in the way".
But I would get it checked - I got some good advice on this thread -
www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=49&threadid=360742&stamp=070725094054

Thank you all. I think it is mainly to do with the fact that life is v hectic at the moment and I have very few "quiet moments" and the baby is probably thumping around and I am too busy to notice

Felt him/her last night. Have an obs appt next week.

Have decided to calm stuff down and take some time out....

theres you answer GGG, hectic life = not feeling the baby.

Glad he/shes been on the move again though...xxx

We are away the whole of August (back in Bordeaux for two days for a scan) so am v reassured that I can feel the baby now. Touch wood. Am going to spend much time in sun doing sfa.