buying baby things before the 12 weeks mark..............

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does anyone do it?

I'm 20weeks and Iv'e already got most things,My mum got my pram for me when I was about 14weeks.lol.
I think it's more superstisus(sp?) not to buy anything,besides if you buy odd bits during the pregnancy then you won't have to fork it all out as soon as it's born x

better to save the money during early pg then break open the piggybank (as it were) and have a mammoth spend all at once IMO...

plus then you can make lovely JL (or whoever) deliver it all and you get the fun of unwrapping it all over again

I have Spanish friends who got to 33 weeks and hadn't bought a single thing or decorated or anything. So of course baby came early luckily mom + baby in hospital for a week so dad had time to shop like mad and get their flat ready. They had a good friend who was already 32 weeks herself and thought, hmm... maybe I'd better go ahead and get shopping she was feeling well chuffed for being prepared when her baby came 6 weeks early, too.

Not superstitian I don't think, just culturally not into too much forward planning.

Hardly bought anything for DS except a few vests, moses basket and car seat. Bought a sling with vouchers from work. On the other hand, we do live 10 mins walk away from Gap, John Lewis, Mothercare, so have always bought stuff as needed and never had any probs. There is actually surprisingly little stuff that you really Neeeed except for the stuff you would pack in your hospital bag, whatever the shops try to tell you.

We were given so many clothes for ages 0-3 and 3-6 months with both children that we had to take some back and change for bigger sizes.

When we decide we're going to try for a baby, my DH went out and bought 3 bottles, dummies and a pack of nappies. (He hates shops so that was so WOW!)
When I was 12 weeks my mum bought a outfit and a teddybear.
At 4 months we bought the pram, changing bag, lots of clothes, playmat.
At 5 months we bought the cot.
When she was born (5weeks early) I had a wardrobe full of clothes, everything was washed.

I like to be organised

just goes to show how we all shop in different ways
nappies are the very last thing I'd buy as they're so bulky to store, and you may never need bottles or dummies at all, so I hang fire and dash to 24h Tesco if neccesary.

I think with ds we bought the changing unit and a few bits at around 28 weeks, then NOTHING. I stopped work at 37.5 weeks and we planned to get a few things then. ds turned up at 38+0. Was in hosp for 5 days so dh headed off and bought a few things plus the moses basket I'd declared to be a Waste of Money.

This time I bought an Ergo at around the 28-week mark (and still felt very uncomfortable about it) and a couple of clothes items at about 30 weeks.

After 3 mcs I'm a firm believer in leaving it as late as possible.

i brought my dd's first outfit and cot blankets after my 20week scan got her a pretty pink dress! the was 30 weeks plus before i brought pram moses basket etc she was 7weeks when we got her cot!

wow such a mixed lot of responses!

I am nearly 13 weeks pg with twins. I really really want to buy stuff but will wait until after 20 week scan and want to know the sexes of the babies before I buy..

Of course things can go wrong, but things can still go wrong at 40 weeks and it is a very rare person who buys nothing until healthy baby is born.

with DS things like cot/pram etc were brought and stored elsewhere until 38 weeks (brought at about 30 weeks) in the xmas sale. DS was born at 38+6. steraliser we got at about 4 months along wiht bottles - mainly cos they were on half price at tescos. nappies I was buying a packet every time I went shopping to stock up (I thought if we dind't have enough everything would end - silly ftm thing) erm clothes I think was baout erm well dark out- prob 5 months + maybe 6 - cos it was after the scan and I got boys. but tbh whilst DH and I were ttc I got a few outfits (well actually 3 draws full - little draws) of things - dummies, bath stuff baby gorws snow suit etc however in my defence I did have a few PG friends about a the same time so I was giving away things to them as pressies

this time round nothing and won't be getting anything till xmas at the earliest tbh. hoping for another boy so as to save on the clothes bill!

i think you shoulsd wait till at least 12 week as thats the safe time to buy. i had so many problems in the first few months and lost a twin so i only started buying when got to 20 weeks and knew what we were having

goingfor3 has just lost her baby at 16 weeks.

that is the reason i dont buy before at least 20 weeks.

It is so sad about goingfor3, and also my friend indignatio from the Feb thread .

So sorry for goingfor3....

I was very superstitious especially with my first, and didn't order anything till about 2 months before s/he was due - the baby was due at the end of May, and I didn't order anything till the end of March.

Also we didn't know whether the baby was going to be a boy or a girl, which made it hard knowing what to look for in the baby shops!

I have DS2 now, and we didn't buy our double buggy till a month before he was due....

I'd rather not tempt fate...

Why not-not wanting to rain on the parade but what does 12 weeks mean anyway? A baby can die at any point during pregnancy and after-if no-one bought anything on that basis we would all be very rich, and our babies have very litte!!!
Go out and buy stuff if you want to, doesnt matter at all does it,as if (worst case) you loose a baby after 12 weeks having bought an outfit or somthing you will come home and think if only I hadnt done that! I lost one of my babies at term and was thankful that we had bought some things for her, clothes to dress her in, teddies to bury with her. and with my sobsequent babies I still went out and bought stuff as soon as I found out-like a celebration of being preggers and unabashed hope.
Being realistic-buying stuff bears no impact on what will happen to your baby.

imum you are right buying stuff or not will make no difference to what happens to the baby, sorry to hear you lost a baby, and it's good you were pleased to have clothes etc.
However, I have also lost 2 babies, one at 7 wks, one at 21 wks. Because of the first one I didn't buy anything for the second one, and I was very glad of that, coming home from the hospital the last thing I wanted to see was little outfits I'd chosen etc, in fact wanted to avoid that stuff altogether for a few months. Everyone's reaction is different I guess.
I now have DS 10 wks, and because of previous experience, did not enjoy first 20 wks of pregnancy at all, which was a shame. It's about the odds really, you are more likely to miscarry before 12 weeks, so lots of people wait til then. But that doesn't mean nothing will happen later either, so some wait until 20wks after the anomaly scan.
My initial reaction to this thread was don't buy anything til after 20wks, but I changed my mind; I wouldn't want my experience or any similar to stop someone enjoying their pregnancy when they have no reason to think anything will go wrong.
ILTS is very excited about her pregnancy, as she should be, and part of it is buying lovely things for the baby, so I changed my mind and said go for it!

I lost last baby at 25 weeks. Im nearly 22 weeks now and bought a few things in NEXT sale then had major panic and thought I was tempting fate...

I am 29weeks now and have started to sort out dd old clothes and the cot is up. I wanted to be sorted this time as i was in hospital for last 7 weeks of my pregnancy and so dh had to do it all.
I have only brought 2 new things as had most of stuff from dd and am having another girl.
Lisa

in my minds eye and i really dont want to upset anyone, but i know someone who lost their son it 22 years of age (drug od) and she came home from hospital that night to photos of him on the wall an unmade bed a sloppy bedroom and even unwashed dinner dishes, but she says that it is a constant reminder and she feels he is in the house, she has kept his room exactly as he left it etc and feels at ease with that because as upsetting as it is she still has memories, now if i buy something for my unborn child and god forbid something happens and i mean god forbid with all of my life i actually feel so sick writting this, then i have memories of the time i was pregnant looking forward to having a new baby being happy my kids being happy etc.

I honestly believe there is no difference at all and i do not believe in superstition! I have broke umpteen mirrors, walked under i dont know how many ladders, passed god knows how many people on the stairs (see where im going with this lol) and i have had nothing bad happen to me, myself and my kids are all happy and healthy and i strongly believe that this new addition will be too. I think I am too confident and cocky sometimes but it seems to have gone in my favour! I give my sincere condolances to all who have lost their children before or after birth but this is new life!! new, shiny and brand new!!! even if its for weeks it still deserves some kind of celebration!

Ok now im starting to sound like a preacher so ill shut up and i've probably sent everyone to sleep but this is my opinion, not meant to hurt or upset anyone in any way takes deep breath i think i need a brew after that

wow its amazing where icing sugar can get trying my hand at b-day cake decorating and all ive achieved so far is a right bloody mess

I brought things like suddocrem nappies wipes etc until 20 weeks. Maiinly cos I want to see what sex DD was but she kept her legs crossed and was a suprise!!! I think people should do what they feel is right for them. DH was annoyed that his best mate poped round after my 20 week scan with her first toy (a lullaby one) before we'd had chance to go shopping!!

i didnt shop during first pregnancy as i think i wanted to just be me for as long as possible!!

i dont think there is any point rushing it - you will be spending all your money on your kids for the next twenty years!