March Babies

[MaryH90]

Tentatively starting a thread for those due in March 2020! I got my BFP yesterday and EDD is 3rd March next year. I got my BFP really early so nervously waiting for the days to go by until I feel a bit more ‘pregnant’. This is number 2 for me. Anyone else out there in the same boat?

@ttc19 snap same due date and second one for us too!!

@Dreams2020 so sorry you're having it rough - maybe he's just having a wobble as it's sunk in and he realizes it's real. Is anyone really ever ready for it? We have a house but we don't live in it, and the long term plan is to sell and buy somewhere where we're currently renting. DH has just started a new job. I am enjoying my career and taking maternity leave isn't going to help it at all. And we'd probably rather have another ten years of child free holidays etc. But no ones getting any younger so we thought we should probably get on with it as we've both always pictured having a family (we're 32/33) I really do hope he comes round at (or ideally before) the scan. Otherwise you are right - it's his loss 💐 How old is he?

I’m not bothered about him to be honest! Right now he’s being selfish whether he’s in shock or not!

I have my own house he doesn’t yet, but it’s not something we can not do together.

I’m 38 (and he should be happy I don’t look my bloody age! Hahaha been passed as 32) this year and he turns 31!

I need to think about me and the baby he defo is not my priority right now.

Hello, I'm due around 12 March - looking forward to baby number 3 but I'm also really really anxious.
Both my last pregnancies were really difficult for me and the last birth, though it went smoothly, ended up being quite traumatic for me. I had a water birth which was very unexpected- I was told I must be in the regular labor ward as I was sort-of high risk, but it was full when I came in so the consultant said it was okay to go to the birthing unit which is midwife led. There they offered me a water birth, I only agreed to try it right at the end and was literally in the water 5 min when DS was born.
I don't really know why but I found it really traumatic to see him born in the water like that, though it was a good experience. Then after that I left hospital within 8 hours (i pressured them to let me go) and came back straight to my parents house not knowing that they had a ton of guests round, it was crazy. 3 weeks after birth I moved house - we wanted to move before the birth but it hadn't worked out that way. After 1 month my dr told me I had to stop breastfeeding as I was too weak (after feeding him I was too weak to even hold him), and then later he thought I might be depressed, put me on medication, I reacted really badly so he changed it to another. At three months post birth I started hallucinating and was exhausted and very weak, my sister took both the children for 9 days because I couldn't care for them - I don't really remember this as I slept most of the time!
After that I started getting better and now that DS is almost 3 and my older son is 4 (they are 18 months apart), we felt ready for number 3... but now that I am pregnant I am so anxious and worried.
I really don't know what to do...

That's cool @Ibizababyy .. we'll have a 6 year age gap between ours!! I'm excited but also a bit apprehensive as I have so many friends recently who've had problems/miscarriages x

@ttc19 we’ll have 4 years and 8 months between ours. Have you already got a boy or girl? Ours is a boy- starting school in September! Only way we felt ready for another as I was so sick last time I couldn’t face having a baby whilst trying to look after a toddler too. I’m apprehensive too- we didn’t tell a soul until 11 weeks last time partly because I was paranoid about something going wrong and partly because we didn’t want to worry anyone as we went skiing at 10 weeks!! Decided we are telling parents/ sibilings and close friends this weekend this time mainly because it’s too hard to keep secret but also as they would probably know if anything went wrong anyway so we could have their support. But now we’ve decided that I’m terrified of something going wrong! I’m going to do another test on sat before we tell them just in case!

I’m terrified of being as sick as I was last time- it started around 6 weeks and lasted until 23 weeks so we are going for a nice meal tomorrow in case it’s the last time I can eat summat nice for a while. Also another reason we want close family/ friends to know this time in case im as sick so they can help with childcare if needed.

@AnxiousandExcited hello. I'm so sorry your experience was so terrible for you! And the aftermath of the birth and time at home. My sister had something very similar and she came to stay at my mother house with baby for a few weeks. 8 years on she's still on antidepressants. I'm terrified that will happen to me too. But we have to just take it day by day. We are pregnant now and we have to just go with the flow and not make unrealistic expectations of ourselves. how are you in yourself ? I'm very very very nauseous and iv gone from very healthy eater to mug shots and weatabix!!! ☹️😭🤢🤭🤢😤

@Dreams2020 oh my goodness he should be more conscious of your situation too. Your 38 so I guess this is the time now to do this. Even though you look fabulous and 32 ! 😊 it difficult for us ladies to reproduce after a certain age! You enjoy this! Don't let him take this moment from you x

@Ibizababyy A girl 😊 We told close family last night. We see them all a lot so it would've let slip, I know it would've ha ha. Fingers crossed everything stays as is x

@ttc19 aww amazing bet they were all over the moon for you weren’t they!

I’m sitting here at the bus station and your post has just made me laugh out loud @ 32 comment! 🤣🤣 love it! Made my day 😉😃

Nah I’m honestly not bothered about him right now, he has 7 and half months to sort himself out! For his sake I hope he does otherwise he will be losing out.

He’s being selfish just thinking the “shame it’s going to bring on him” out of wed lock etc if I can be strong as a woman then he needs to grow a pair! 🙄🙄 All I know is I need to keep my baby safe and Gods going to help me if he doesn’t want to be there 🙏🏼❤️

And yes defo difficult the older we get!

He had a tantrum this afternoon again at me on Whatsapp, telling me I’m not listening to him and doing what I want, I’ve given him free will already, he can either be on board or off board I’m not forcing him at all and definitely don’t want anything from him.

I even said I won’t say he’s the Father! He can carry on, il just deal with all the backlash il have to hear from my family, what more does he want?!!

Anyways I need to stay stress free for my growing baby, he’s in shock when he gets over it he knows where to find me!

Can anyone recommend pregnancy vitamins? Which do you use and why?

Were you trying for a baby @Dreams2020 what an odd way for him to behave.

Today I've existed on tortilla chips and ribena and the nausea is constant.

This is what iv been taking for the last two months xxx

@Frillyfarmer oh my goodness iv been so poorly this week with feeling so sick! It's really really debilitating! I can't eat anything ! i keep thinking oh yes I will have that! And then i feel so sick after and I can't bare to look at it again

Thanks @barnyb. I think
They're all much of a muchness right? Can't really see much difference between them all x

@mrslaurenbrown how is everything ???

@ttc19 yes basically ! Some people just take the folic acid but I thought best take the lot ! Makes your urine nice and green!! X

@mrslaurenbrown how are you today?

Love the strawberry laces I've attached a pic of mine 😁

@Frillyfarmer hope you're enjoying your holiday! With you on the bloating and excess saliva not dry heaved yet but I've been over the toilet a few times in anticipation. Almost feel like I'd feel better if I was actually sick!

@Dreams2020 wow there are no words! I'm so sorry he's behaving like that and you're right it's his loss if he doesn't come round. Make sure you look after yourself 💕

@AnxiousandExcited sorry to hear you had a rough time with your previous pregnancies and after, 🤞🏻 this one is easier.

@ttc19 Aw that's lovely! How did you tell them and how did they react? How far are you now? We're telling ours in the next few weeks
I've got boots own pregnancy ones (not the plus ones as apparently the omega 3 makes them awful to take as smell of fish 🤢) cheaper than branded and the same thing 😁

Definitely am! He’s not my concern right now, my baby is

@Abi58 thanks - holiday is lovely just wish I wasn't quite so queasy! I haven't actually been sick yet and I'm pleased I've got symptoms this strong as it is reassuring me somewhat!
Getting scan envy now people on the two march threads have started to post six week scans!

@barnyb we've been eating out all week and I keep trying to alter people's menus and asking them to take bits out of things - we haven't told our friends (who we're with) that I'm pregnant yet so they just think I'm batshit!

@AnxiousandExcited please share what you’ve said here with your midwife. Sounds like linking in with the perinatal mental health team would be really helpful.

@Frillyfarmer aw I know what you mean though about stronger symptoms but at the same time I'd happily not feel sick but then I'd worry 🙈
Have you decided to not have one? I've got one Wednesday so excited!
Haha just be on a fad diet or something 😉

Sorry to all those having a tough time. Pregnancy can bring up lots of unexpected feelings/issues for us and those around us. I’m a bit nervous about potentially having three! My two sleep through and the eldest is starting school this year so I feel like I’m slowly emerging from the fog of babies! After MC in April though I’m aware of how lucky I am to be pregnant, particularly as it happened at exactly this stage of gestation.
All you feeling sick have my sympathy. I feel nauseous most of the day and to combat it I’m constantly eating which either makes me so much better or tonnes worse! I eat healthily but all I want is salt and vinegar crisps 😂