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Weird reactions after telling people you're pregnant

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Leleophants · 14/05/2019 17:52

A more light hearted thread.

Personally:

  • some hi fives from work colleagues I barely speak to
  • other work colleagues actually ignoring me
  • people suddenly overinvolved!
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Chottie · 14/05/2019 17:53

I love hearing about new babies on the way, so I would be congratulating you :)

ryanreynolds · 14/05/2019 18:08

My boss asking how it happened...I think he was a bit stunned!! He was mortified when I offered to explain the bees and the birds to him!

Xyzzzzz · 14/05/2019 18:09

People stopping to give me advice - who I’ve hardly spoken to

fee1234 · 14/05/2019 18:10

A male colleague of mine shouted, loudly, in my open plan office "congratulations, you had sex!" A bit sarcastically 🤨

iklboo · 14/05/2019 18:14

FIL's wife - 'Oh. I thought you'd be barren at your age' (I was 35).

firstimemamma · 14/05/2019 18:15

I have a very career driven friend. When I told her, her first reaction was "congratulations, when are you going back to work once the baby has been born?" All in one sentence!

myhamster · 14/05/2019 18:15

XMIL saying "oh no, you're not are you, what are you going to do?"

We were married , in our 30's and both working and owned our own home.

I have no idea why she reacted like I was an abandoned 16yo............

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Leleophants · 14/05/2019 18:20

These are insane!

I also had a few people go "was it planned?" I felt like saying "would I tell you if it wasn't?"

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1990carey · 14/05/2019 18:25

I've just had a lot of people hugging me and crying hahaha, and that in turn made me cry (hormones!) Lol

Cannyhandleit · 14/05/2019 18:37

16 year old boy I worked with who I didn't really get on with (I was 32) found out I was pregnant at 16 weeks and exclaimed 'I can't believe you never told me sooner!' He seemed genuinely shocked that I hadn't confided in him.

Cosmogirl86 · 14/05/2019 18:48

Someone told me not to get too attached to my twins due to higher risk of miscarriage and vanishing twin syndrome. It was awful!

Healthy babies now at almost 25 weeks

Fuiseog · 14/05/2019 18:52

"That's a different type of leave from regular sick leave" - at work. Yes, I was aware!

Also, from my sister and three SIL/BILs: "Fuck off!" This was joy and shock though, just expressed in profanity!

"I've been waiting 15 years for this!" - FIL, an absolute darling who is so excited to meet his grandchild but surely over exaggerating here!

Wittsendargh · 14/05/2019 18:54

My dad said "what? Why?" and then when she arrived he said "you've called her what? An old woman I know from the WMC is called that...but she's dead now" 😕

userabcname · 14/05/2019 18:54

A close friend of mine (who knew I was ttc and was planning ttc the following month so we had discussed the subject extensively), replied: "HOW?!" in shocked tones when I told her. It was a rather baffling response and I sort of mumbled "er...in the usual way...?" Bizarre!

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 14/05/2019 18:58

“I’m surprised because you always said that you never wanted kids” - I never said that! If fact I never discussed children with them ever.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 14/05/2019 18:59

But then my boss cheered and gave me a big hug.

IceCreamSoda99 · 14/05/2019 19:07

"We'll talk about it after your 12 week scan", the indication being that I might miscarry before that, sure I might, but talking about it with this person won't make any difference to that Hmm

newbabyyy2019 · 14/05/2019 19:11

All family and close friends have been overjoyed with the news, some even cried out of excitement. But when I had a gender scan at 17 weeks and was next in work everyone was excited about the gender and I was saying how I'm just glad everything seems fine with the baby so far and this high up manager (who had a stillborn at 23 weeks a long time ago) was like well don't get too excited, anything can happen, look at me I had a still born at 23 weeks) ..made me feel really awkward..
I've also had a girl at work ask me every single day (sometimes more than once a day) how I'm feeling and then always goes "ah are you excited?" and I'm always just like yeahhhh.. like she's known for 7 weeks so I've had 7 weeks of the same question every day and although its nice that she's showing an interest i try to avoid her because I can't bare the "ah are you excited?" And then me saying yeah again

DulcieRay · 14/05/2019 19:11

No 1:
Congratulations
No 2:
So long as you're happy

No 3:
How?
Are you sure?
I thought you were stopping after 2?

Erm...
How? Same as the others!
Are you sure? The surest I've ever been! Not sure I could mistake it!
I thought you were stopping after 2? Yeah, me too actually Blush

Kathryn19 · 14/05/2019 19:21

FIL: "oh but what about your career?" Hmm

Sparkle2019 · 14/05/2019 19:23

I told my boss and she replied "I didn't know you were trying!" Not that I would share that information with her anyway! Haha

stayhomeclub · 14/05/2019 19:28

Almost everyone from my own mother to work colleagues asked whether it was planned. 30s, married, own home etc. Very odd.

Oilyskinproblems · 14/05/2019 19:33

Told PIL we were having baby number 2. It was only 19 months after dc 1 so relatively small age gap but first thing FIL said was what?? Are you having anymore after this?? You’ll be like the waltons and FIL and MIL both burst out laughing for a good 5 mins.

To this day I’m puzzled - especially as they have 2 dc

BlueJava · 14/05/2019 19:36

My parents were so weird! I was 36, my DP 26, we'd been together 7 years and had our own house and jobs. So nothing really for them to worry about. When we told them we didn't expect them to be over the top happy, but they just sat there, completely deadpan. My Dad said "Right, I see"... then the conversation came to a stop.... then they restarted with something else and changed the topic entirely! DP and I still laugh about it now. They are "good grandparents" but have never looked after our boys by themselves or been that helpful.

Oilyskinproblems · 14/05/2019 19:37

Oh and this isn’t one from announcing pregnancy but just before labour with dc1 I bumped into a neighbour who I barely knew. He asked me if I was having a section or natural. I said hopefully natural and he said ok. Then paused. Then said hope everything goes alright and everything’s ok down there. Then he looked in the direction of my vagina, and walked off to wherever he was going.