Weird reactions after telling people you're pregnant

[Leleophants]

A more light hearted thread.

Personally:

• some hi fives from work colleagues I barely speak to
• other work colleagues actually ignoring me
• people suddenly overinvolved!

When Oh told his mum she was going to be a grandparent again, she immediately asked if we were getting another puppy. When I told my mum she didn't know whether to laugh or cry and that she felt sick. Fortunately she is now overjoyed that she's becoming a nanny

I had an old man in the playground congratulate my husband on his amazing powers of impregnating me so fast with the kids

When I found out I was pregnant with dts the only person who was genuinely happy for me was my dsis. Everyone else's responses upset me really, yes I was already a single parent with dd who was 2 at the time. I understand to a point, however I'd had time to process it myself after the initial shock and was happy with my decision. My family and friends thought otherwise, I didn't expect much but was made to feel shitty and actually lost three friends who told me I was making a massive mistake.

I got a lot of congratulations and Wows but I've also gad sympathetic head tilts of "are you sure this is a good idea?" "How are you going to afford it?" Im due in November - week if my birthday and I genuinely have been told "thats a perfect birthday present - a ruined vagina!" Ive been asked when we're getting married and I get a lot of "I thoughy you couldn't have kids". Yeh me too. Im shocked, I'm terrified I could do with a hug, support and a cuppa ta.
And I'm beginning to get fed up of the judgy answers to the typical questions -

1. You going to find out what you're having? Not sure yet. Answered with - you'll soon change your tune when you realise how hard gender neutral clothes are to buy. (Oh bugger off)
2. Ooh gonna have to start stocking up on nappies! No actually, I was planning on using reusables. Answered with- you're disgusting. The poor child. Having a house full of dirty nappies. (They go in a washing machine - surely its better than having a wheely bin full of shit)
3. What bottles are you going to buy? (I dont bloody know, I'm 14 weeks gone Im not sure yet) Id love to try to breast feed. Answered with - thats disgusting. (Same person as question 2 who has 2 DC of their own).

And my personal favourite:

1. You're going to have to rehome your cats.

Am I hell. They're regular moggies, not baby eating lions. With training and supervision (what idiot leaves a baby alone with any animal never mind a cat amazes me mind) they'll be absolutely fine.

Seriousky considering getting a Tshirt printed for when I've got more of a bump answering the usual questions.

1. Don't touch my stomach Stranger - I will throat punch you.
2. Yes Im pregnant it wasn't just a big dinner.
3. Yes there's only one in there.
4. No I dont know what gender it is. Etc.

One close (male) friend literally never spoke to me again when I told him! It’s been 8 years now... paintwater. Maybe he was in love with you and upset now A's means he has lost his chance

My parents: "Oh ok" then in a 'by the way' tone "Did you just watch Coronation Street?" We had come to visit her especially to tell her - I wish I'd have rang her she was so unimpressed!

Colleague told me she “just KNEW all along” (I had no sickness or nausea and gave nothing away), then said my “bump” also gave it away (flat stomach and in my size 8 jeans you bitch) then patted my stomach. Raging...

When someone at work asked "How?" I said the normal way, we fancied a change from anal.

I thought it was funny but the rest of the office went a bit quiet.

Mostly'yeah we kinda had an idea', probably because I spent most of 6 to 12 weeks with my head down a toilet.

* When someone at work asked "How?" I said the normal way, we fancied a change from anal.*

Priceless!!! 😂

Polly that is perfect!

"Was it planned?"

At first I said "Yes" with a bit of a confused tone.

Then it was "I'm 41, married, a homeowner in a professional job and have successfully avoided pregnancy for 5/8 of my life. What makes you think this was accidental?"

Finally it was "Well, we tried training the cats to make a cuppa but the lack of opposable thumbs got in the way so we thought we'd try for a baby".

Ha - when we announced we were getting married the number of people who asked if I was pregnant was quite odd

My MIL burst into tears. Not tears of happiness. Apparently she was worried it was going to ruin our relationship.

Colleague asking if my other half was "surprised"! Cheeky cow 😂

I'm always baffled how many people think it's ok to ask how you are going to afford a baby.

Well, I'm not asking you for anything so mind your own damned business just like it's none of their business how I would fund a child free life, either

My headteacher - when I went to speak to her about my pregnancy for the first time - told me about four times how much a maternity leave costs the school and we'd had so many pregnancies it was getting expensive. Luckily, my other head said well we'd be out of jobs if people didn't have babies, wouldn't we?

I was then told they were surprised when I told them as I was the wildcard. I'm 34 and have have been with my partner for almost 5 years.

My pregnancy announcement at work was met with silence rather than the usual clapping and I left the staffroom with only a student teacher and the few people who'd known already congratulating me. Some people have gone out of their way to come and say congratulations. Most people have just ignored me. (They won't be touching my baby.)

The best reaction was telling my class: I told them I had a secret to share with them and revealed the scan photos and they were all screaming with joy. Some made me congratulations cards at home that night to give me the next day. It was really lovely.

@BeckyHS that is the lushest response! From your class lol. Definitely made up for the lack of respinse from colleagues xx

Just found our were pregnant, only around 6 weeks so have only let very close friends and family know.

DP dad asked me if and when I was going back to work.. before even saying congratulations.

My best friend told me I was barely pregnant.

Barely pregnant..

We told all of DH’s family at Christmas, when I was about 9 weeks. There was almost complete silence for a few moments, then SIL said “oh what a surprise” and there was a rather lacklustre round of applause, but no other coments or congratulations or anything.....none of them mentioned it again for months! It felt very odd.