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Weird reactions after telling people you're pregnant

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Leleophants · 14/05/2019 17:52

A more light hearted thread.

Personally:

  • some hi fives from work colleagues I barely speak to
  • other work colleagues actually ignoring me
  • people suddenly overinvolved!
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Spam88 · 14/05/2019 19:49

I'm still quite early on so haven't told many people, but two of those have asked me if it was planned 🤔 I'm married, in my 30s and have a two year old. One also said well done 😂

ChrisPrattsFace · 14/05/2019 20:01

When I told my manager she just went ‘oh, ok’ and turned around and carried on working.
About two weeks later she said congratulations, but it took her a while 😂

stayhomeclub · 14/05/2019 20:04

Oh yes loads of people said well done!

EnjoyItAll · 14/05/2019 20:05

I got lots of "was it planned" and shocked looks because we had never discussed it with anyone else Hmm as if i would walk up to my parents or in laws and declare were going to have unprotected sex lol

EnjoyItAll · 14/05/2019 20:06

my dh got told well done a lot too Confused

ChrisPrattsFace · 14/05/2019 20:15

I also got a lot of ‘oh I bet DH is over the moon’ ... like I wouldn’t be?

jpclarke · 14/05/2019 20:30

One of my colleagues told our boss abc her reply was "you weren't on my list for this year".

Catmom2019 · 15/05/2019 20:11

I got truly fed up of people (including SIL) telling me they “knew” as soon as we told them. So rude! Even if you suspected you would surely never say...

Mammyofasuperbaby · 15/05/2019 20:20

One of my work colleagues asked me if the baby was my partners. Shocked was an under statement.
Turns out that she only asked this because she was sleeping around the office and was actually pregnant herself and didn't know who the dad was. That was hilarious when the men found out ( que lots of checking dates and asking how far along she was)

Newyearsameoldshit · 15/05/2019 20:48

I had several 'I already knew, I figured it out ages ago' from family - not the end of the world but they were so busy congratulating themselves on being so clever I hardly got a look in.

OnlyLittleMissOrganised · 16/05/2019 18:47

My MIL and SIL basically said oh that's nice. Everyone else was over the moon! Weirdo in laws!

paintwater · 16/05/2019 18:52

One close (male) friend literally never spoke to me again when I told him! It’s been 8 years now...

Beckyv88 · 17/05/2019 07:12

When I announced it to my parents I said “are you ready to be grandparents?” And my dad quickly replied “no!” 😂😂 think he’s come around to the idea now.

My MIL cried since she’s been desperate for me to get pregnant since she basically lives for grandchildren but has since been way too intense and told me all these crazy things also implying that I won’t be able to look after the baby and that she will do it. I’m 30, successful career and own hone.

Cupcake31 · 17/05/2019 07:18

My boss replied with oh sh*t, didn't even say congratulations lol

Weatherwax · 17/05/2019 07:21

My parents: well don't expect us to look after it all the time. Genuinely the first thing that they said. DM phoned me later to apologise. Said they were just shocked. I have no idea why, I was 29 and had been married for 3 years!

StopSpinning · 17/05/2019 07:49

My boss, "Bloody he'll, was that a happy accident?" He pretty quickly then realised that the traditional congratulations was better. I was 37, had a 1 year old with my husband already that he knew we had done ivf for. I quickly informed him that no, it was planned and ivf again! To be fair, I also expected it to take longer!

Lovelylugs · 17/05/2019 08:25

My friend said just said "my mother knew you were" very smugly. Cos ya know her mother is psychic! She had been saying this for years everytime we met.

FraterculaArctica · 17/05/2019 11:23

With DC1, my (otherwise lovely) dad deciding to speculate about the place of conception ... cringe!

Nolagerformethanks · 17/05/2019 14:16

My mother 'well don't expect me to look after it' - she absolutely loves looking after him now and thinks the world of him!

My Boss 'Are you supposed to be pregnant?' Eh not sure what to say to that one!

Then obviously there are the people that 'knew' I was pregnant. Alright then 🙄

jacquesjacques · 17/05/2019 14:19

Friends with babies who were nowhere to be seen during my three consecutive miscarriages now suddenly getting in contact on a daily basis with 'advice'. Oh and a largely absent father who is now some sort of women's health/child rearing guru!

jacquesjacques · 17/05/2019 14:19

OH and "I'll get excited for you after 20 weeks" - sure that's code for "I'm fairly sure you'll lose this one too" Hmm

TheVanguardSix · 17/05/2019 14:23

“How on earth will you afford it???”
Ex boyfriend of friend exclaimed while meeting up with me during a lunch break at my well-paid, full-time job. I was 29! I suddenly felt like I was 14 and living off the proceeds of selling Girl Scout cookies in a supermarket car park! Confused

NewAccount270219 · 17/05/2019 14:29

A friend (who is also my ex boyfriend, but is a genuine friend now) clearly wanted to show interest but didn't know how, because his questions were 'when did you find out?' and 'do you think you'll have a home birth?' which were both a bit left-field.

Mararunner · 17/05/2019 14:35

My mum said 1) don't tell your sister, in fact she said that for both the eldest two when I told her I was pregnant. How do you think I'm going to keep it a secret?? And 2) I didn't think you were the maternal type. Thanks mum. Not. Cow

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 17/05/2019 16:59

"It's not a baby until your 12 weeks pregnant"

"Years ago people didn't consider themselves pregnant until they'd missed at least 2 periods"

Went on to have miscarriage