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Hyperemesis Support

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LucindaE · 17/04/2019 20:13

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
It has been suggested that I add some practical tooth cleaning advice: a lot of sufferers find using a child's small toothbrush and strawberry toothpaste far less nauseating.
On my image of a pink castle: that is an image I use because when I was little, my family had a Snakes and Ladders board with an image on the last square of a pink castle in the clouds. As Hyperemesis is so like a grotesque version of Snakes and Ladders - eat a meal, go up a ladder, first thing in the morning bile run, down a snake - I have used the image of that pink castle on the last square of that Snakes and Ladders board as a metaphor for the happy end of Hyperemesis.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

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HermioneKipper · 17/05/2019 01:22

I’m so pleased to see others have made it through and have their babies now xx

Pumpkinbee · 17/05/2019 07:09

Hi all. I'm 12 weeks and miserable. My nausea and sickness hit me very earl ly at end of week 4 and has gradually gotten worse and worse. I'm on my third combination now of anti emetics. Cyclizine and Stemitil. And been given antibiotics as its possible I've had an underlying UTI all along (not symptomatic) possibly making things worse. I've been signed off work as the only way I am keeping food down is by forcing myself to sleep soon after eating. I feel like all I do is sleep and vomit. My next door neighbour had HG too but luckily she only went to 18 weeks with it before it eased. I can't stand the idea I could go the whole pregnancy like this. It feels I'm living off of ice lollies and sucking on fruit pastels. It's unbelievably frustrating how many people think its 'just morning sickness' and don't seem to get how demoralising and debilitating this is. I'm glad to see this thread is here, I'll be reading through all the advice I can.

Reastie · 17/05/2019 10:46

Hi all,

Sorry for posting on wed evening saying I felt terrible and then go awol. Yesterday I went to mw and then had a long telephone call with someone about dd following an educational assessment and it took it out of me and I was just too exhausted to catch up.

Luckily yesterday was better than wed eve. All ok with mw although bp gets lower at every apt, yesterday it was 100/60 I think, and that’s with me fully hydrated, so I’m concerned about csection given it’s likely to be lower than that as I’ll have fasted which is likely to make it lower which can cause issues with the spinal or epidural. Will be discussing it with anaethetist when I see him.

Pumpkin I’ve known several ladies on here having a bad increase in symptoms when they have a UTI, so fingers crossed once the abs kick in you might feel a bit better. What drugs have you tried so far?

Hermione completely sympathise, I felt exactly the same at the same point. It’s the thought of so many weeks ahead and that it might get worse and feeling so terrible and people think it’s just normal. Even with my concoction of drugs I still felt incredibly nauseous and was bed or sofa bound for months. Please just take every minute at a time and have your aim as surviving the day. Getting through one day is something to celebrate and gets you a day closer to the end. Don’t even think about the weeks and months to go, just focus on today and thenext hour. I didn’t leave the house in the first trimester at all from before my period was due (when I was already feeling sick) apart from 2 scans. I had to have my mw booking apt at home as I couldn’t get to the hospital and couldn’t manage my nhs 12 week scan as it meant a trip out too far for what I could cope with so had to pay for a private one which was closer. Even now at 34 weeks I still have pretty much given up on attempting anything except hospital appointments, and even then I have to bring my Mum along for moral support! I know how you feel, please just focus on the day and they can add more medication into your prescription to take at the same time as metcoploride.

Forever that is fabulous news, huge congrats. I bet it feels amazing to not feel sick!

Good to see you back Lucinda. You had great weather for your trip!

Blii hope you feel better today and slept better last night?

Composed I’ve read a lot of ladies can’t manage to shower or bath. Try not to worry too much and just wash when you can. I had months where I would only manage to brush my hair once a week, and that was a good week!

Nouser I have no life either! I’ve actually written a list of ‘things I’m looking forward to doing when I don’t feel sick any more’ and they are often such simple random things like take dd to a playground, go for a walk, go to the shopping centre and have lunch out, have a fantastic festive Christmas (didn’t really get Christmas last year as felt so poorly and was on my own on the sofa feeling sorry for myself most of the day whilst dd and dh visited family). Having that list there and adding to it and knowing in a few months I’ll be able to work my way through it when I want to is such a positive thing for me to focus on (I mean, obv the fact I get a baby is too, but on a daily basis I miss just being me and doing normal stuff).

Dead are you going to put an offer in on the house do you think? One of my favourite time wasting things to do atm is go on right move and nose in people’s houses Blush

Sunshine same thing as what I’ve already said to you. You’re right in the thick of it right now. Even if you suffer till the end (which I’m likely to,I did last time too) it won’t be as bad as it is right now. Don’t let it scare you that I’m on here complaining with only a few weeks to go. I had literally months where I couldn’t watch tv, read, talk even. I couldn’t even have dd in the same room as me at times as just having her there somehow triggered my nausea. I still feel sick, a lot, and essentially can’t do anything as activity is a big trigger for me so I’m enforced rest, but doing things I know help me (like eating.,,,,constantly) and taking my medication means it’s manageable most of the time. So long as I don’t do anything and eat constantly and take the drugs and rest a lot I can have days where I barely feel sick. It’s such an improvement from where I was. I have random bad days or bad times which might be due to hormone surges or something I’ve done or just because it feels like it, but it’s not constant like it was. Atm most days now I can manage to do dinner for dh and dd (which I couldn’t even think about for months) and some simple chores. I can read books and watch tv most of the time (which I couldn’t before either). So, even if you suffer throughout it won’t be as intense as what you feel right now, there is hope.

Reastie · 17/05/2019 10:47

Good grief that was an essay!

composed · 17/05/2019 10:52

HermioneKipper I wouldn’t worry about work as rest during hg is just as important as good meds. I have been off work for over 6 weeks now and spent the majority of it in bed so totally understand how you feel. I always say take a minute at a time and concentrate on getting through each day at a time.

Pumpkinbee it will get better as I said above to hermione try to take each day at a time. Go to docs if you’re on meds and it isn’t working theres others which you can try. I have managed to get ondansetron on repeat from my go finally after him saying he doesnt want to give meds during pregnancy. I understand but at the same time would we be asking for stronger meds if something else had worked, jesus the ignorance around hg pisses me off more than anything and usually from the very people who are supposed to help us. I think I know more about the meds and research out there re hg than my bloody doctors!

I know its hard as I have been where you both and at 12 weeks still struggle but I have faith you both will be able to get through this xx

LucindaE · 17/05/2019 17:45

Foreverblues Thank you so much for your message of encouragement to current sufferers, and congratulations on your baby daughter. Flowers Star [smile). She'll bring you much joy to make up many times over for the bad times. I am so glad that the thread helped you when you were suffering.

Welcome to HermioneKipper and Pumpkinbee. Welcome.
HermioineKippper You have had great advice from Reastie and Composed. The first tri is the worst for almost everyone, don't despair. Things geta lot better for most between weeks 14 and 21 and even for those unlucky ones who suffer throughout, it is almost never as bad later on as in the first tri. Everyone tends to have dark thoughts. Your toddler will soon forget all about this period of comparative neglect. Are you on an anti acid, as that can help a lot?
It might be worth asking if they could add meds, as others say, as it might help reduce the nausea. I hope the advice on drinks such as coke, ice lollies and the juce of tinned fruit below for taraboomdeay might help you. Do invest in some kesostix from a chemists as while scanty, dark urine, dry skin and mouth, headache, blurred vision and feeling light headed etc are probably more reliable signs of dehydration, A and E departments do tend to take their measurements seriously.

Pumpkinbee As others say, a UTI can make things much worse. Hopefully as you get over that your symtoms will improve. As above, things will almost certainly get a lot better anyway. As above for HermioneKipper about anti acids, kesostix, and suggested drinks.
Don't despair; this bad time will pass.
Reastie Very sensible to enquire about your blood pressure being so low. Excellent advice. Yes, it was lovely weather for seeing Stonehenge and Salisbury Cathedral.
composed Great advice from you too.
Apologies to anyone rudely overlooked.

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DeadDoorpost · 17/05/2019 18:18

reastie it won't be an offer as it's a rented property but yeah hopefully. DH just doesn't like the price but I doubt we'll find anything for cheaper.

Sorry to see new faces but you'll get support here.

I've felt rough today. Managed some chilli and some Ritz crackers but the crackers were definitely my safe food.

beforeIhit30 · 17/05/2019 19:26

Hi Hermione and Pumpkin sorry it’s so rubbish, but even for those whose sickness and nausea continue in some form for the vast majority it still eases up. I’m still ill at nearly 25 weeks, but miles better than I was in the first trimester/weeks 5-18. It’s not crushing anymore and I do get to do some things, just not back to normal yet and still need a lot of rest but is seriously much better.

I understand what you both say, when it feels so difficult; there’s a BMJ podcast on HG which was shared in a previous thread which I listened to (whilst lying in a darkened room, head spinning!) during my toughest time. And it made a difference just to hear medical professionals talking about it with understanding. The best comparison they gave, and which gave me a way to articulate it, was that nausea is like pain. So if you’re experiencing pain you could be uncomfortable, or you could be in agony (along a sort of spectrum). Nausea operates in the same way, but a lot of people don’t realise it and if they experience nausea it tends to be of the uncomfortable (and short lived) variety, rather than the agonising (and much longer) experience of nausea that many HG sufferers have. So what we're experiencing is like a long term agony, no wonder we’re tired, suffering, struggling to see how we’ll continue. We wouldn’t expect someone in agonising pain to continue as normal with day to day life and to accept that it’s just how it is for a long period.

But, as I say, even for those unlucky ones who continue with sickness and nausea it is still usually much reduced and much more bearable from somewhere around week 20-ish onwards (for me, I think there was some improvement around 15-18 weeks, and this become more consistent around 22 weeks; I don’t vomit often now, and the nausea is much better than it was; and I have fewer aversions/triggers and can eat and drink a broader variety).

Pumpkin I’ve also had two UTIs so far this pregnancy, both without symptoms. The first time it was some weeks following a urine test before I found out and got ABs, so I spent quite a bit of time with the UTI in the midst of sickness which wouldn’t have helped! The second time I was on ABs much quicker. A typical AB for pregnancy UTIs is nitrofurantoin, this helped but mainly once the 7 day course had run; I found that it made me a bit groggy/headachey, and also it makes a big difference to take it with food as I found if I didn’t it provoked the nausea and made it worse. Doesn’t have to be lots of food, just try and take it with a snack or something if you can. As an aside it can make your pee bright yellow which is interesting Grin

Reastie hopefully you’ll get some good advice ahead of CS on the low BP. Unfortunately prolonged rest makes it worse. I was 90/60 at a previous appointment despite having eaten and being hydrated, the rest just contributes to it (but can’t be helped of course!). Although at least it isn’t high, which can bring other concerns.

Managed to wake up at a relatively decent hour today but couldn’t do much, baked a very simple filling for a dessert (very very simple) and that was sufficient. We have some visitors over the weekend (not staying over, but a visit tomorrow and another on Sunday). Relaxed people so I don’t need to worry about being lazy and such, but still takes some energy so trying to conserve as much as possible! Oh, and apparently I have low iron I’ve been holding out hope, I had low iron from early on in previous pregnancies and so far I’ve been fine, but had a full blood count last week and told today I need iron tablets Sad apart from being yet more tablets to take, which isn’t easy (I currently take 8 tablets a day, will now be 10), they upset my stomach a bit which I just sort of soldiered through the last two times but nervous about the impact now!

Teddyreddy · 17/05/2019 19:34

@HermioneKipper if none of the drugs work by themselves you can take several of the medications at the same time - I've had to take them in combination. I found the constant nausea harder than the vomiting (which for me the drugs got under control anyway) - it's just so unrelenting. Are you drinking enough - I found drinking made me so nauseous I was constantly battling dehydration which then made me feel even more rubbish.

@Reastie won't you be on a IV drip for your C section? I have low blood pressure (normal reading for me is 90/50). I had an epidural with DC1 and was worried about low blood pressure but actually the IV meant it was higher than normal.

Having had a rubbish week last week the last few days the nausea has been better. I wish I knew what was triggering the bad days as then I could avoid it!

Blii · 17/05/2019 19:35

I slept better last night, thank you Reastie. It’s crazy how much of a difference sleep can make.
I also have a list of things I can’t wait to be able to do again once baby is born. I’m looking forward to a lovely cup of tea and a piece of birthday cake to celebrate baby’s birthday. In a way I’m glad I can’t eat sugar, I wonder if my weight would go up super fast. I’ve put on over a stone now but I only made it up to my pre pregnancy weight a few weeks a go so if I go by my pre pregnancy weight then it’s 7lbs I’ve gained.

Im also looking forward to taking the kids out somewhere. I can only stand for around 10 minutes before I start to feel dizzy and my legs feel weak so I’m looking forwards to being able to actually do something.
Sorry to those in the first trimester, it feels never ending but it does get better, a lot of us are still sick later on, but the main thing is that we are able to function. Lots of rest is still needed but it does get better Flowers

composed · 17/05/2019 19:37

sorry reastie i missed your message! hope all goes well at the next meeting x Today hasn’t been very good at all, I have taken 3 ondensetron tablets in the end but haven’t managed to move out of bed at all.

I thought I was getting better as I am now 12 weeks but nope once again I am reminded I have no control over my body or mind tbh and still a prisoner. I am amazed that in all the years and all the medical advances nothing of any significance has been done about or researched into hyperemesis. I have struggled to eat today too and barely drinking as sick of irn bru now, I just want this to end. I would like to be me again

Glad to hear you had a good break LucindaE.

Reastie · 17/05/2019 19:51

Teddy yes but the IV won’t be started until the op itself, by which point I’ll already be dehydrated and I’ve read of surgeons refusing to start a section and administer a spinal if your bp is low because of risks from that. Some people have had to have a ga. It’s possible to have iv fluids before the op to help with this from what I understand.

Blii oh yes to tea, I miss enjoying tea!

Composed there was a great post on insta recently by Amy Schumer who had hg making such a true comment about how much people with hg have to go through and how little funding there has been into researching medication etc for it yet loads more has been put into things like erectile dysfunction and viagra are much much better funded as they’re more ‘sexy’ and involve men getting it up!

composed · 17/05/2019 20:13

hey reastie yea I came across an article re her experience with hg and she mentioned how it all ceased as soon as she gave birth! It is sadly true that hg research is underfunded and not given the importance it should. Can you imagine women in less developed countries going through it and what the mortality rate could be?

I thought it would get more awareness when kate middleton had it but then she seemed to bounce back exceptionally ‘quickly’ compared to us. The fact that hg sufferers are given ondansetron surely that in itself speaks volume? a drug used for cancer patients? instead some are vilified for using it, my husband isn’t happy at all I am
taking it and at times I have to lie and tell
him I haven’t and hide the pill packet.

Reastie · 17/05/2019 20:21

Composed exactly. It’s so unfair kate Middleton seemed to be fine after her first trimester, and even if she was still suffering she can’t have been as limited as many of us as I’ve seen pictures of her in gym gear when pg so must’ve been continuing to exercise Envy and she continued to work too, which is more than I’ve managed!. It gave it good publicity in one way but then after a few weeks she came out looking fine and working etc making it seem like it’s something that only lasts in the first trimester. We won’t know the truth and it could be that behind the scenes she was being sick all the time when not in public view, but we never saw that so if that was the case it further enforces that the media don’t see the full extent and duration of hg.

avacadooo · 17/05/2019 20:37

Hello newbies! Sorry there's so many of you going us!

I've been alright had to call in sick to work on Wednesday because I was a right state with a migraine and being sick, I struggle to get it up now because of this bump!

Had another really bad session tonight where I could see my life flash before my eyes, I was choking that hard I thought my eyeballs were going to pop out, my nose filled with blood and I couldn't get air in because I couldn't stop being sick it was really scary because I'm home alone too.

Every time I'm sick now I burst blood vessels in my face so I'm rocking the I look like I've got chicken pox look 😂 foundation does cover it when I can be arsed.

Finally got everything from work so I can apply for mat allowance!!!!🙌🙌

I think it's good Kate Middleton made everyone aware of hg but it pisses me off when Someone turns round and says oh so you're trying to be like Kate or something equally stupid.
I wish I had her hair and figure but not her hyperemisis.😒

Stupidly told a neighbor I was having a boy the other day when she asked and she actually said oh that's a shame you should have left it a surprise!!! I was fuming, I've never had someone random express disappointment at what he is before! If any of you watch still game she's like isa, constantly in everyone's business and does really weird shit all the time around the block.

HermioneKipper · 18/05/2019 00:32

Thanks all for the advice and support.

Fairly bad day here as haven’t been able to stomach much food (everything tastes and smells so disgusting) and had a vomiting episode in response to empty stomach. It burned so much - was all bile and acid.

I don’t understand why we have to go through this - it seems like such a huge design flaw. I just feel so miserable and only on week 8. You’re all right about taking it one day (one hour, one minute at a time) but I feel so hopeless. I miss my life - my friends, my husband and my daughter.

Have my midwife appointment on Tuesday and already panicking about how to get there. No way I can do the 10 minute walk. Cab I think

HermioneKipper · 18/05/2019 00:35

And sorry for TMI but I haven’t washed properly in days - the thought of a shower is way too much at the moment and can only just manage a flannel wash at the basin. And my teeth will likely fall out as everytime i try to brush them I vomit.

putputput · 18/05/2019 06:03

Hello All,
I'm back!
Had HG with my first pregnancy. I'm now 6 weeks and it's hit me smack in the face again.

Is anyone else doing this with a toddler? She's 18 months and so no understanding at what's going on.I feel so incredibly guilty. Currently surviving with the help of hey duggee, breastfeeding and cook kids ready meals.
DH works long hours 6 days a week. I've been on annual leave and not yet spoken to my work yet. That's not going to be a good conversation!

Have started ondansetron (from leftover stock) as can't get a GP appointment. Trying to take lactulose along side but can't keep it down.

Bentley111 · 18/05/2019 06:52

Hi everyone,

I'm so grateful to have found this thread. I'm 5+6 today with my PBF. Had 2 losses prior to this so the sickness and nausea that started a week ago has hit me like a smack in the face. No diagnosis of HG yet but have lost 3lbs in this past week, am struggling to keep down fluids and am nauseous from the minute I open my eyes until I finally get off to sleep. Have gone from being really active (have 3 horses!) to being amazed if I can finish and keep down a piece of toast.
I'm keeping everything crossed that it's a positive sign but right now, it feels debilitating and I've gone from feeling nervous but excited about my pregnancy to pure dread.

Have been off sick since Tuesday. I have a GP appointment booked on Monday but am going to call the midwife this morning to see if they can offer anything to help over the weekend - I'm feeling noticeably weaker and dehydrated.

Anything I should note down prior to the GPs or anything I should push for would be a real help - no experience of this whatsoever.

Sending Thanks to those feeling like shit too x

Reastie · 18/05/2019 11:39

Avacadoo that is weird of your neighbour. It’s a really personal thing to find out the six but I’ve never had a single person react like that!

Hermione I couldn’t manage a ten minute walk there either, definitely book a cab. When I have hospital apt’s I have to take my mum as the parking is a nightmare and I get stressed about not finding a space or having to park at the far end of the car park and not be able to walk to the hospital so she comes to drop me outside the entrance and park the car if needed. Yet pre preg I was Uber fit and worked out 5 times a week, now I can’t even walk a short distance without becoming exhausted and triggering of nausea.

Putput having a toddler must make it truly hellish. Dd is 8, I couldn’t have coped if she was younger!

Bentley if you need to see someone sooner call the nhs number (is it 111?) about gettinnan hour of hours gp apt or if you’re really dehydrated you might need to go to a&e for fluids. When you see your gp I’d take a copy of the guidelines with you. Give it a read and highlight bits you might feel relevant to show. There’s a old table near the end with different medication options and doses. These can often be taken simultaneously if one isn’t effective on its own. They will likely start you on one of the first line drugs and see how you go. If it isn’t working for you you’ll know quite quickly so should follow it up with another appointment for an alternative. I also really recommend the website pregnancy sickness support for info and also to give them a call for advice for what you are entitled to get from your gp. It shouldn’t be this way but many gps aren’t knowledgable about this and some people struggle to get medication or get the right medication.

Just managed to make dh a birthday cake this morning ready for his bday tomorrow. Huge achievement. Haven’t decorated it yet but it’s cooling in the kitchen. Just recovering on the sofa!

username34853 · 18/05/2019 12:00

Hi all
Haven't posted since my original post. Have been reading and you all have my sympathies . I am now 9 weeks and I vaguely remember being told in my last pregnancy that this is the most common time for the sickness to reach its peak. Not sure if others have found this true? I've been taking cyclizine since I was 6 weeks. For the first couple of weeks it made me extremely drowsy but this seems to be improving. I've also been signed for by my doctor until the end of the month. I genuinely don't know how people would be able to get to work in this state.
@putputput I have a just turn 2 DD it's so hard isn't it. She's in nursery Monday and Tuesdays other than that she is stuck at home with me. I feel terribly guilty that I'm a crap mum at the minute. She is watching lots of tv and just playing about on her own. I am trying to go out just for walks with her when I have the energy.

TwoShades1 · 18/05/2019 13:09

Just dropping in to say I’m still here! I’m 18 weeks now are really doing much better, so I don’t like to post as it seems a bit like insensitive bragging when so many of you are still in the hellish dark places of hg. Whilst I’m not back to normal I’m probably about 70% of the way there. I’m back at work and eating reasonably normally and able to cook proper meals. Very much hoping that the sickness stays away for the rest of the pregnancy. This place has been so comforting as in real life I only seem to know people who have lovely trouble free pregnancies!

DeadDoorpost · 18/05/2019 13:47

putputput yes! A familiar face!! waves frantically sorry you're back here.

Hermione I suggest going to the dentists asap and letting them know you have HG. Mine has been great and knows that any damage to my teeth is purely from the vomiting. I have to use a toothpaste with barely any mint flavour. Sometimes all I can manage is water when brushing but it's better than nothing at all.

I'm in a right state. I've got a cold, I'm fully of phlegm so I'm coughing my guts up which then threatens to make me sick, and I'm so tired because DS isn't sleeping well that I'm breaking down in tears at stupid things.

And to top.it off I don't think we'll be able to get that house because I don't think FiL wants to be our guarantor. I'm hoping I accidentally misheard what he was saying. I wasn't eavesdropping, I merely walked onto the landing while he was talking.

Oh gosh, I'm a wreck. But I emailed about taking part in the research so hoping to hear back soon.

Bentley111 · 18/05/2019 13:47

@Reastie thats really helpful, thank you very much. Have read through the guidelines and graded myself 13 on the PUQE score - I don't feel like I'm so much making a mountain out of a molehill so to speak. Will ask DH to print them out for me to go through and take in with me. Will give Pregnancy Sickness Support a call before I go in. I have asked to see a female GP so hoping she will be slightly more understanding.
Feeling very nauseous but have managed to keep fluid and a couple of dry crackers down for the past few hours. Midwife hasn't returned my call but will definitely call 111 if I start to feel any worse.

@TwoShades1 glad you're feeling much better!

beforeIhit30 · 18/05/2019 16:46

avacadooo sorry to hear you’ve had a rough time sickness-wise but glad to hear everything is finally sorted with your mat allowance, must be a relief. I’ve had weird responses about finding out the sex before too, I find a lot of people who are otherwise quite normal suddenly feel comfortable asking lots of personal things when you get pregnant, although it sounds like your neighbour might be generally odd! A number of people have said, “Wow that must have been a surprise / Bet that wasn’t planned” to all of my pregnancies, I have no idea why they think that! I didn’t find out the sex with DC1 and some people got annoyed Confused, I did find out with DC2 and some people ‘commiserated’ that I was having another boy and asked if I’d be trying for a third to have a girl! I hadn’t even given birth to the second, I certainly wasn’t thinking about a third pregnancy at that point and I especially wasn’t sad to have another boy!

Bentley I understand what you mean (not wanting to make a mountain out of a molehill), I also feel like we expect to feel a bit rough when pregnant so we overstretch our parameters of expectation - there’s no way a person would think of themselves as being well if constantly horribly nauseous, vomiting repeatedly, just about managing some liquid and food (if at all), struggling with basic daily tasks. But when that someone is pregnant, both they and people around them tend to go, “Ah, pregnancy, what can you do!”. I’m fortunate in a way that I got this in my 3rd pregnancy, as I had sickness in my first two until 14 weeks, I didn’t enjoy it and felt a bit rubbish in general, had all day nausea, and seemed to have it worse than friends who were pregnant, but this time is nothing like that, this is a whole different experience. Sadly doctors seem to take me a bit more seriously as a result (as in sad that they might not otherwise), the first question I was asked when I went to the doctor was whether this was my first pregnancy and whether I had tried sea bands, ginger etc. I was able to say, “This is my third, yes I’ve tried everything, and this isn’t normal whatsoever”. I was promptly prescribed cyclizine and whilst I’m not 100% perfect it has helped a lot with managing the vomiting, which has made a big difference to my physical (and emotional) wellbeing. I hope you get a good doctor who can help you out with medication to find something that works for you.

DeadDoor that’s a shame, did you have FIL or someone else as a guarantor previously? My mum has been a guarantor for us several times, I’ve found it’s quite hard to rent without one unless you have loads of money, and seeing most people who rent can’t buy, where exactly are they supposed to live then?! I hope you get everything sorted soon whatever happens.

Has anyone found a preparation/form of iron that doesn’t cause or at least worsen nausea? I have to get a prescription following recent bloods but trying to work out if I can request something in particular that might go down better. Bit nervous tbh Sad