Early pregnancy tiredness - anything I can eat/do to help??

[Janus]

I've just discovered I'm pregnant with number 2, am literally just 6-7 weeks pregnant.
With my first I was so lucky, not sick at all, but I did have terrible bouts of tiredness for about the first couple of months and it seems like I'm having the same this time around. It really hits me like a wave and I feel so groggy I can hardly function. Does anyone know if there are foods to eat which give you more energy (I'm sure there are) or anything else I can do? Perhaps running after a toddler is wearing me out a little too but there's not alot I can do about that!!
Thanks.

percy, I've only got dd but I felt really emotional, and v. nauseous although not actually sick. Once I reached 12 week's I felt perfectly normal again!

I think I am more emotional second time round, still cry at the slightest thing, but it might be because I am more tired.

I'm not sure if I can even blame what happened yesterday on early pregnancy - it is really no exuse, but I just feel so tired and fed up and hormonal and sick and it is still such early days. I have become the most horrible, pessamistic misery guts, always crying and being irritable and that is really not like me, which is why it is un-nerving me so much.

Yesterday I was the most awful awful person and I am so ashamed of myself. Ds was really really playing me up and I just completely lost it and snapped and shouted in his face really aggressively "I hate you" numerous times. I am crying as I post this - I cannot believe I said this in such a spiteful way to a 2 and a half year old little boy. To make matters worse, that didn't even snap me out of it, I continued shouting at him for the whole rest of the day.

Not really sure what anyone can say to this, but just needed to get it off my chest - sorry.

hi percy

meant to reply to your message yesterday, but just had too much on.

i hated being pregnant - so much so i didn't actually realise till afterwards, denial? - and i had a perfectly normal pregnancy. normal emotional rollercoater, normal tears, normal desperate fatigue, normal excruciating heartburn...

anyway, i really sympathise with anyone who has to deal with all that, plus a toddler as well...

you obviously have regrets about your state of mind yesterday. chin up! it was not the best - but tomorrow is another day, and my guess is there is not a woman on this site who has not lost it with their toddler at some point.

on a practical note, are you looking after yourself ok? some things to consider:

*take an iron supplement if you think you may be deficient
*make sure your partner does his share (which under the circumstances may be more than 50%) - easier said than done, i know
*any chance you could get additional family or paid help to ease the burden?
*frequent trips to mumnsnet for advice or just a laugh?

it's counterproductive to get weighed down with guilt. think of it like they say on those airline security briefings before you take off - make sure you have your own oxygen mask fitted before attempting to help those travelling with you....

hope the above makes sense! take care

sorry forgot to mention this last night. if you really feel like you're going to lose it, put ds somewhere safe and go and have your rant away from him in another room.

hth.

Thanks for your reply bossykate. I am feeling much better today - I think you are absolutely right, I just needed a bit of time to myself which thankfully I got yesterday.

I also think that there is an element of denial with me, interestingly, but in a different way. I remember this last time too - I dread telling people I am pregnant. I guess this is because they will be filled with unadulterated joy for me and will expect me to be brimming with excitement. Instead I feel both good and bad about it. This makes me feel dreadful and really very ungrateful as this second pregnancy was planned. It feels so selfish as there are so many people out there desperate to be pregnant.

I'm sure this is also due to the fact that I had PND last time, and I am feeling quite anxious about it all.

Anyway, rant over - as you can see I am feeling far more philosophical about things currently. Who knows what tomorrow will bring?

hello again, percy. glad to hear you're feeling a bit better.

there's a thread going on atm called "Second Pregnancy Blues" - maybe you'll find it helpful.

it's here >> www.mumsnet.com/s/Talk?topicid=49&threadid=3719&stamp=020912155351#77804

best of luck!

Dear Percy

I have just vented off on the 'pregnancy blues' thread as I had a very similar irrational moment to yours yesterday. It upsets me to think about it now. I am embarrassed to remember it and this is the only place I can confess to my madness.

I also suffered PND (and refused treatment) last time round and am worried that it could be similar or worse this time. Especially as my pessimism and emotions are worse.

I wish I could be cheery and reassuring. For now, I offer lots of sympathy and assure you that I am madder...

Percy

I think we should be best friends. I have just read your response to my 'blues' message. I also took strength from it.

good good clucks - a new BF. Lets get through this pregnancy together then - when is your DD? Mine is 25 April (seems like a million years away yet also just round the corner).

Oh, and I promise you I am mad as a hatter - I've been known to cry at Heat magazine so that beats your animal hospital hands down. (whilst had PND I hasten to add!)

Dear Percy

I'll post my DD here, I think its 18th April. Ithink they'll make me have a caesarian again and I'm better this week so more rational and reasonable person to correspond with.

I have posted on the blues thread too.