Are you finding out the gender and why?

[Holiday16]

Hi, I have always wanted to keep gender a surprise until the day I give birth. I suppose I think it would be an extra surprise after all the hard work.

My partner already has a child and he kept the gender a surprise with his ex. Now it might just be my hormones but that really upset me - I suppose I just wanted it to be a first for us both I dunno, but now I'm in two minds what to do.

Did you find out the gender and what made you decide? Thanks x

Well gendered crap is a self perpetuating circle, isn’t it? It’s actually hard to buy stuff for older babies that isn’t polarised, then the kids grow and see other kids in it so they want it... the manufacturer is the winner! It really wasn’t like this when I was a kid. (Old!)

Anyway, not necessarily related to the OP’s question . Which seems to be as much about the comparison with the birth of her DSC as with her own.

OP: do it your way, for whatever your reasons are. What happened when your DH had his first is irrelevant!

Good luck!

Actually our midwife didn’t announce it either. They put the baby on my stomach and left us to get to know him.

I didn't and never would. I think it's much nicer to find out when your baby is born and in the room with you, rather than at a scan.

You mean sex.

And as for having to be prepared...words fail me.

And feeling sorry for babies in white babygros..

No wonder we are in the mess we are in.

I didn’t find out either time
It was a lovely surprise
I had a a boybthen a girl and used the same stuff
No pink or blue nonsense for me

@edgeofheaven. I completely agree.

Didn't find out with any of mine. Would have hated knowing ! When I was expecting my twins I told the older kids that we didn't know whether they would be boy babies or girl babies (we DID know they were identical). When people asked my dd whether she wanted baby brothers or baby sisters she would solemnly say "You can't CHOOSE you know, we'll just get whatever babies they give to Mummy when she gets to the hospital"
Obviously people have the choice to find out, but personally I felt quite disappointed that with two of my nieces we were told the sex and name months in advance. I've already told my kids I'd rather not know what sex my future grandchildren are until they are born ! (although I do realise that is probably a bit unreasonable! )
Our unisex nursery lasted us for 4 kids of assorted sex. Oh, and I love a baby in a baby-gro too !

I didn’t find out the sex of mine.

Still don’t know the gender (both in their 20s now).

I wanted to know. It was lovely to make plans for her from while she was still in the womb.

I found out the sex because in my heart of hearts I really wanted girls. I would have needed time to get my head around a boy. I was lucky both times.

I found out with a scan at 16 weeks because I'd had awful Hyperemesis since week 5 and was really struggling to make the link it was a lovely wee baby in there and I wasn't just sick. It's definitely all felt more real since we found out, we've picked a name and I feel much more bonded with him, my husband feels the same and it's been lovely picking wee bits out for him.

We decided to find out because I would just keep guessing. I'm convinced using nub theory it's a girl but either way we will be happy. people said it would be a lovely surprise but it will be a lovely surprise seeing what they look like and their personality so I don't think we will miss out finding out early