2 x MMC 8-9 weeks, pregnant again and terrified

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I have had two missed miscarriages and I am now pregnant for 3rd time and really worried it will happen again!
My first MMC was at 12 weeks - stopped developing between 8-9 weeks (after seeing HB at 8 weeks)
Second one was MMC detected at 10 weeks, stopped developing at 9 weeks.
I am now 6 weeks pregnant but terrified of having the same outcome given the similarites of my previous losses. Only difference for this pregnancy is that I’ve been on progesterone since BFP but I’m not feeling very optimistic. Has anyone had a similar experience?

I had a MMC and then a MC before my DD (she's 4 now) and it made for an anxious pregnancy. I had a scan at 7 weeks and cried when I saw a little blob with a heartbeat as I'd never got that far before, but I didn't stop worrying until after my 20 week scan. Now 6 weeks pregnant following an ectopic last year so I'm even more worried this time with the additional risks. It's hard but all you can do is take each day at a time

I was in exactly your position 7 years ago (almost to the day). Again 2 MMC, same timings (saw HB at about 9 weeks with the first, discovered at scan; second was discovered at 12 weeks again measuring as having stopped developing at 9/10 weeks). I had HCG with my 3rd pregnancy (though not until about 9 weeks due to a freak national shortage after some manufacturing disruption). I also took low-dosage aspirin. I felt miserable during the first 12 weeks and even fasted all day before my 12 week scan on the basis that I’d probably need another ERPC.
But I now have a 6yo from that 3rd pregnancy and a 2yo who was conceived on first attempt (and I didn’t take anything other than folic acid in her first trimester) and both pregnancies had no complications. I chose not to have an early scan as having seen a heartbeat once before I couldn’t see that it would be particularly reassuring- though I know that other people have done this and found it helpful.
It’s really hard to hold on to, but the truth is that even with two MMC in a row it most likely is still just random chance, and the probability is still that this pregnancy will
work out for you.
One thing that helped me a little was to think of all the other women throughout history who have gone through this. It helped me a bit to feel ‘connected’ somehow. I’ve since discovered that so many of my female friends and colleagues have had miscarriages- some several.
for you and all the luck in the world. It’s such a hard time - be kind to yourself.

Thank you for sharing your stories. It’s really helpful to hear of some positive outcomes in similar scenarios. The more I’ve confided in close friends the more common I realise miscarriage really is and how secretive we are about it. Trying to stay positive and keeping our fingers crossed for positive outcome this time (🤞third time lucky). I’ve got my first scan on Monday so hoping that more frequent monitoring will actually help me cope. Wishing you all the luck in the world for your pregnancy #moomin11 fingers crossed for our 2019 babies!

Thank you! Good luck for Monday

I couldn’t read this without commenting. I relate to your situation more than you would possibly imagine. I too have had two MMC in the last 12 months the babies died at 7+6 and 8+1. I saw a heartbeat at earlier scans both times. I am now 6 weeks with my third pregnancy and fluctuating wildly between hopelessly optimistic and devastatingly anxious.

I really wish you all the best for Monday and the rest of your pregnancy and just want you to know you’re not alone. I’m sorry I don’t have a positive story to share of my own, but at least two of my friends have have 3 or more miscarriages and gone on to have healthy babies.

Oh wow what similar experiences, mine too have both been within the last 12 months. It’s been a tough year! I feel exactly the same my feelings yo-yo from positive to negative on a daily (sometime hourly) basis. I can’t express how much comfort it gives me to know I’m not alone. Wishing you the best of luck too! 💐

Hope you had some positive news today x

Thank you, yes all looks fine today, heartbeat seen and measuring correct according to dates. Just keeping fingers crossed for the next few weeks!

That's great news, fingers crossed it continues to go well for you. I have my scan a week tomorrow, can't come quick enough!

So pleased to hear the good news. I was thinking about you today and wondering how you’d got on.

I’m meant to go for a scan this week but my husband is away. I know it sounds silly but I’m scared to go in case it’s bad news and I have to deal with it alone....

I had two MMC’s last year. First one detected at 11 weeks, HB stopped at 7 weeks and second one at 12 weeks, HB stopped at 9 weeks. During my last pregnancy I was convinced the same would happen again and wouldn’t allow myself to become attached in any way. I left booking with the midwife until the last possible moment and had a late dating scan at 13+6 as a result. I was absolutely astonished when I was shown a healthy baby! I’m holding him now, he’s 4 weeks old and perfect .

You have to remember that the odds are completely in your favour although I know it’s difficult to be positive. I hope all goes well this time for you .

What a lovely story (the ending I mean). Thanks so much for taking the time to share - it’s great to hear positive stories. And congratulations on your baby!

It's lovely to hear some positive stories, I had searched so many forums and hadn't really found stories I could truly relate to until now. It's really given me a little bit more hope. Congratulations on the safe arrival of your little boy @OutPinked

@NikeTan I don't think its silly not wanting to go to a scan alone. I was terrified yesterday and my husband couldn't come due to work but my recurrent miscarriage consultant wanted to do the scan that day. I've made him book time off for the next one!

Hope your scan goes well next week too I will be thinking about you @moomin11!

Thanks! Completely understandable to be worried about going to scans without your partner, especially if you've had bad news before. I remember my DDs first scan at 7 weeks so clearly, I was terrified and burst into tears as I'd lost two pregnancies before that and couldn't believe everything was ok. It was early days but the furthest I had got! Fingers crossed it's positive news for you too Niketan.

I had two MMCs last year with similar dates to you. I’m now 38 weeks pregnant and was convinced all through the first half of this one that it would follow the same pattern. It’s tough but do try just to take a day at a time. It helped me a bit to accept that each pregnancy is new, what happens now is very seldom determined by the last one. All the very best!

Little update. I had a scan today. So far so good. Nice strong heartbeat and measuring slightly ahead of my dates. They want me back in two weeks. So whilst we've been here before with the previous two pregnancies we have decided to count today as a win and try to allow ourselves a few days off from worrying. Hope you are all still doing ok. x

Fantastic news, just keep taking each day at a time that’s all you can do really.
How did you get on @moomin11? 🤞

Not sure really...I am not as far along as my LMP suggested but expected that. I think I'm 6 weeks but sonographer thought 5 which is a worry. Sac with yolk sac seen but nothing else, I have another scan a week tomorrow. Glad your scan went well Niketan.

That must be such a worry for you. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that your just a bit earlier on than expected ♥️ X

It is, and brings back memories of my first mc which is horrible. Am trying to be positive as they didn't seem too worried but my gut feeling isn't good and unfortunately it tends to be right. Thank you for thinking of me x

I had a MMC at 8, then a MMC at 8.5 after seeing HB at 6.5, I then had a baby and I'm pregnant again and 10.4 now so fingers crossed. I know how stressful it is

Moomin11 at 6 weeks it’s so difficult for them to be completely accurate with dates, when I had a scan at what I thought was 6 weeks based on LMP (was v sure on dates) they said I was more like 5 and it was so disheartening. At my 12 week scan I ended up being put forward by a week compared to my LMP date. Keeping my fingers crossed that everything will be fine for you x

I've read lots of posts about only the yolk sac being visible at 6 weeks so I think that on its own wouldn't have bothered me, it was the scan note saying 5 weeks as I don't think that's possible...only time will tell. They wanted me to wait 2 weeks for another scan but agreed to 10 days. Hopefully the next week will go quick.

Have had light spotting for a short time last night and this evening, such a stressful time.

Try not to worry too much, easier said than done I know. I had some spotting just before my scan and was so worried too so I know how you feel. Wishing you the best of luck and hope the next week till your scan goes fast 🤞