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2 x MMC 8-9 weeks, pregnant again and terrified

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SR00 · 23/11/2018 23:10

I have had two missed miscarriages and I am now pregnant for 3rd time and really worried it will happen again!
My first MMC was at 12 weeks - stopped developing between 8-9 weeks (after seeing HB at 8 weeks)
Second one was MMC detected at 10 weeks, stopped developing at 9 weeks.
I am now 6 weeks pregnant but terrified of having the same outcome given the similarites of my previous losses. Only difference for this pregnancy is that I’ve been on progesterone since BFP but I’m not feeling very optimistic. Has anyone had a similar experience?

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thisismadness77 · 10/12/2018 20:56

Exactly the same, 3 mc in two years, the 2 and 3 were missed. Found out at scans. Awful.
Currently 32 weeks. Took progesterone and fragmin injections till 20 weeks and continuing low dose aspirin till 36 weeks.
We have a 6 year old daughter, had no problems either with her pregnancy or prior.
Only just starting to believe this might actually be happening. Health visitor came out today to introduce herself. :)

Niketan · 11/12/2018 08:15

Hi @moomin11 I'm sorry to hear this. You read so many stories on here about lots of people who have spotting and even big bleeds and everything is totally fine. But I know how stressful it is. How long till the next scan? This Friday right? Can you do things to take your mind off it? I know it always feels so corny when people say stuff like that and you think how can I possibly take my mind off this! I have days when I only manage to go hour to hour.

I just wanted to reply on your scan too. I had my first scan at about the same time, I think it was at about 5 weeks and they could only see the sac. But on the note I got afterwards they said they would date me 5 weeks plus or minus one week so 4-6 weeks. I asked about it and she just said that literally at that stage you are looking at poppy seed size thing, so a tiny difference here or there (even to the extent that a technician doing the measurements can easily be 1mm out) can be one week forward or one week back. Also she said that biologically things don't develop like absolute clockwork, I believe she used the phrase "its not a machine" so that's why they always give a range. I hope that helps. I'm overseas so its all private medical care and seeing as I'm paying I figure I can get my money's worth by asking loads of questions!

gimmeadoughnut123 · 11/12/2018 15:34

Didn't want to read the OP and run. I had a MC in July and fell pregnant in September (planned). Counselling really helped me talk about my experience and anxieties.
I'm now 12 weeks with my scan on Thursday.

Good luck x

moomin11 · 11/12/2018 22:20

Thanks SR00

Yes Niketan it's this Friday so not long now, and I'm busy at work until then which is helping. Thanks for the information about the scans that is reassuring, I wasn't too worried until the spotting. The midwife at the hospital said a similar thing about development, that it's not on a straight line and there are little leaps. No spotting today but then tonight had a bit of cramp on one side and small amount of brown discharge (sorry tmi). Now nothing. Not experienced this before in any previous pregnancies so don't know what to make of it, just taking each day as it comes. What will be will be I suppose. Thanks for your messages and sorry for kind of hijacking the thread Flowers

Niketan · 12/12/2018 09:07

Flowers let us know how you get on. Keeping everything crossed for all of us.

I go back next Thursday at 10 weeks. My calmness after last week has lets say evaporated since both my previous MMC were diagnosed at 10 weeks. Trying not to think about it and remember that every pregnancy is a fresh start.

moomin11 · 12/12/2018 21:30

That's understandable, it's hard not to worry when you've had bad experiences before. But as you say each pregnancy is a new pregnancy, keeping my fingers crossed for you too x

moomin11 · 16/12/2018 19:21

So I had my second scan yesterday and am still in limbo unfortunately. Sonographer thought she could see a 3mm fetal pole but wasn't 100%. Next scan not until 27th. Midwife said it was 50/50 but later said there's a good chance the pregnancy isn't viable and only an outside chance that it is. The next scan will confirm either way. Felt so sad, this would be my 4th loss. Just need to try and keep busy and have a good Christmas for my daughter's sake.

Niketan · 17/12/2018 10:18

So sorry to hear this. Being in limbo really is the pits, and having to deal with uncertainty over Christmas when everyone is celebrating is really tough. Keep going.

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SR00 · 17/12/2018 11:10

I’m really sorry that you’re having to go though this. I’ve never been in a limbo situation like that, I can’t imagine how difficult that must be and it’s the worst time of year for it too! Sending hugs

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Watermelonlover · 17/12/2018 18:07

Hi, Congratulations to all the good news regarding scans.

I had two miscarriages as well, one in 2017 and one in this July. I'm pregnant now around 6 weeks now, but I'm spotting over a week, I'm terrified as well. Had a scan at 5 weeks, can only see the sac, need to go back in 2 weeks time. I feel I might need progesterone, but GP refused to prescribe. Feel so helpless.

Watermelonlover · 17/12/2018 18:11

@moomin11 I'm really sorry to hear this. Hope good news on next scan. Sending hugs. X

moomin11 · 19/12/2018 07:10

Thank you xx

It is a rubbish time of year to be going through this, I feel like I'm standing on the outside watching everyone else get ready for Christmas. I have told one of my best friends now and our immediate family know so we have support which is good. No more spotting but no more symptoms either, think I've resigned myself to the pregnancy being over. Maybe it's a self protection thing but that's just how I feel.

Good luck for your scan tomorrow Niketan I've got everything crossed for you!

Sorry you are having a worrying time too Watermelonlover 2 weeks just feels like forever when you're waiting for reassurance doesn't it.

Niketan · 19/12/2018 10:52

The scan was moved to this morning. I was petrified and even fasted thinking that I might need to be admitted for a D&C as I had every time before.

But, it was good news, the baby was in there wriggling around, was measuring right and had a strong heartbeat. I cried when she told me. Got to go back in two weeks. I've never got this far before so hard to know what to think to be honest, doesn't feel real.

I'm sorry to hear of the worrying times people are having. Keeping everything crossed for all of us. x

moomin11 · 19/12/2018 14:53

Oh that is fantastic news!! No wonder you were emotional. So pleased for you xx

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SR00 · 20/12/2018 09:10

Had my scan this morning and it was good news. Saw it moving around and heard a nice strong heartbeat. It’s the furthest I’ve ever got too #Niketan, such a relief isn’t it. I’m going back in two weeks aswell.

I’m sorry everyone hasn’t had such positive news, fingers crossed for everyone.

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moomin11 · 20/12/2018 19:43

Congratulations SR00 that's wonderful news!

I hope your next scan is positive too Watermelonlover.

Have a lovely Christmas everyone x

Niketan · 21/12/2018 06:30

Wonderful news @SR00 so so pleased for you. Agree huge relief, getting to 12 weeks will be even more of a relief.

I am limping to the end of the year, finish work today and no motivation at all! Wishing you all a lovely and hopefully relaxing Christmas. x

Watermelonlover · 23/12/2018 22:54

@SR00 @Niketan congratulations on the wonderful scan news.

@moomin11 Thank you. Still a week to go... as you said it feels like forever. I try not to think about it too much, although my spotting just never stops. Sad

Have a great Christmas everyone.

moomin11 · 24/12/2018 09:36

@Watermelonlover I'll be keeping everything crossed for you and hope the next week goes quickly. Only a few days till mine now and I'm sure Christmas will be a good distraction. Am prepared for the worst on Thursday and just want closure now.

Niketan · 02/01/2019 08:19

Happy New Year. I hope you all had good Christmases.

I had my 12 week scan this morning and all is looking well. Baby was wriggling about like mad and is measuring slightly ahead of dates. So some good news to start the year.

Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone.

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SR00 · 02/01/2019 10:21

That’s fantastic news @Niketan I’m so pleased for you!
I’ve had some light brown spotting on NYE and a few very mild twinges since. I’ve got a scan tomorrow which is the earliest they could see me. I should be 11.5 weeks but I’m so anxious I’ve barley slept since. I’m praying it’s just the progesterone pessaries causing these symptoms as the same happened at about 6 weeks but can’t help but fear the worst given the timing and my history.

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Niketan · 02/01/2019 10:41

Keeping everything crossed for you @SR00.

I've had loads of weird twinges and pains throughout which I've worried about every single time. I'm sure its just because everything is growing and expanding? Sending you a hug.

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SR00 · 03/01/2019 15:02

Thanks @Niketan
My scan went well this afternoon. Measuring exactly correct for dates and was bouncing around all over. Such a relief!

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Niketan · 04/01/2019 06:28

@SR00 so pleased to hear this. Hopefully you can now relax for a bit!

moomin11 · 08/05/2019 19:34

I was thinking about this thread today and wondered how you're all doing? X