mum and dad have buggered off on holiday when im 37-39weeks pregnant am i being unreasonable thinking they are out of order?

[pregnantbabyelephant]

Hi this is my first baby, and ive had quite a difficult pregnancy so far. my mum and dad went off on holiday abroad for two weeks on saturday so they will be away during my 37-39 weeks this is my first pregnancy but there 5th grandchild .
do you think they are selfish going on holiday at my stage?
i had a midwife appointment yesterday and ended up in hospital having a scan because the mw thought my baby may of been breech,luckily baby is the right way round but i did find this a very stressful day,my mum and dad didnt even bother to call or txt to see how my appointment went even though i told them i was seeing mwife on monday am so they have no idea whats happened to me.
they didnt book this holiday until after i told them i was expecting and when the due date was so its not like they had to go now!
also neither of them work both retired so really can go anytime.they are not old though only early 60s and fit and well
i feel like there not there for me but dont know if im being unreasonable due to my hormones or something !!
im lucky because i have a fantastic dh who has been great the whole time
thank god for him xx
what do you guys think ?

personally if it were my daughter id want to be home around then to offer support to her especially being her first child.I think its a consideration thing and perhaps they could of booked it a few wks earliar or later to ensure they were around during the crucial weeks. Its not being selfisf but its not being considerate.

i dont think anyones noticed this threads from middle of june lol

i know iliketosleep thats why i posted that she had here baby 6 weeks ago at around the time she posted this thread thus she had her baby whilst her mum and dad where on holiday

meandmyflyingmachine you should really read threads properly before posting!

Gosh my spelling her baby were on holiday!

My hand is duly slapped.

Hang on...

"in the end had the baby 6 weeks early "

Actually... probably time to stop this one eh?

yer that is quite confusing isnt it

If she had her baby 6 weeks early then her parents were there as they were not going until she was 37 weeks.

No beetroot. I said that and was told to read the thread.

She couldn't have had it 6 weeks early as she must have been 37 weeks when posting OP.

I wanted to come on in support of baby elephant (and yes I know it's irrelevant now but still...) I would have been a bit miffed too because I thought my parents would be as excited about the impending arrival of my first baby as I was but that's just being pg for you, your world gets smaller and smaller until the last weeks it's hard to think about anyone else and if all those people who shouted baby elephant down didn't find that then lucky them! I know I did and I think it's quite normal. HOWEVER...baby elephant - perhaps a slightly more elegant turn or phrase when responding might have done you more favours

No you are not being unreasonable - I am in a similar situation. I am 38 weeks pregnant with number 2 and my entire family are leaving tonight to go to South Africa for 10 days for my sisters wedding - the wedding was arranged about 6 weeks ago. There are mitigating circumstances in the sense that my sister's fiance has visa issues but I was still pissed off that a) I had no chance of being there and b) if I had the baby a bit early they would not be here, especially if he was ill. To be fair they are back a week before my due date but I still thought it was a bit unecessary - not like the wedding had been arranged for a year or anything. Don't see whay it couldn't have been a few weeks later. To makes things worse, my mother is having her 60th birthday party a week after my due date and I was exactly a week late with number one. Again, this is a last minute thing that has been planned for a few weeks (you see the pattern with my family) and not only am I being pressurised to attend, it also means yet another night we don't have any family available to look after ds1 if I go into labour! I think they are just disorganised as it has just occured to them that they might miss it and they keep saying oh please don't have him while we are away but I just think they could have thought it through a bit more - childbirth is the one thing you cannot change the date of!!! And it's not like I haven't given them 8 months notice! I Sympathise!

"Hi this is my first baby, and ive had quite a difficult pregnancy so far. my mum and dad went off on holiday abroad for two weeks on saturday so they will be away during my 37-39 weeks this is my first pregnancy but there 5th grandchild"

She can't of had this baby 6 weeks early because she said her parents were going away "this saturday which was between weeks 37-39 of pregnancy....

Is someone lieing?

BTW I haven't read all of the thread so not sure what went on but if your family claim they want to help, as mine did, then bugger off, I can see why OP was annoyed.

not me im still confused as hell

Ooooh Barbamama, don't you think that was a bit unreasonable of you conceiving at a time when your due date would fall a week before your mother's 60th birthday (a significant birthday, you know)especially when you know there's a chance you could go a week overdue.

I know - my own fault really. Sorry for whinge, weeks of pent up frustration!

Barbamama. Whinge all you like. It gets tough at times and hormones are merciless.
Not long now and you'll have your lovely little bundle.

I reckon I might be a little upset if my parents did the same but not in an angry way, just a disappointed way. I'd only be like that because they are going to be important people in this babies life and I'd want them to be amongst the first people to meet her and vice versa.

As it is, my mum is going to be my main birthing partner and my dh will be in the wings (very anxious and doesn't want to be there!). I'm already worried as my mum is self employed which means she isn't going to be taking any bookings the week I'm due just incase (she travels quite far afield). Sods law (and logic tbh!) says I most probably won't have the baby within that week which means she will lose out on work. Also, when I do go into labour (went over by 8 days with both DC's), she'll have to drop everything and come running! I'll feel awful if/when that happens!

Sometimes nobody wins...

Just realised I have completely digressed from the op and not really made a valid point - sorry!

Right LOOK AT THE DATE OF HER FIRST MESSAGE 19 june 2007 which was 6 weeks ago ! ! !

I have read another thread stating she had her baby 6 weeks early - a NEW thread dated 3rd Aug 07 thus she must have had her baby when her parents where away!

How hard is that

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I suppose I'm a bit about the outrage as dh and I did the pregnancy/birth thing by ourselves pretty much from the start - no family near us at all. We survived . Having family nearby wouldn't have made the backache less or the waiting less tedious. TBH I don't think it would have made much difference if my Mum was next door, in the next county or on holiday in the run up to dd's birth.

I do realise now that the OP was yonks ago, but the debate is still valid, imho

Very good point soldiersmummy!