Mother in law doesn’t want us to tell the family we are pregnant

[Julia124]

So we told our mother in law last week that we are expecting, I had my 12 week scan that day and we told her straight after. He reaction was to cry and cry and say that we wouldn’t be able to do it etc. Which I’m still pretty hurt by. A week on she’s asked us not to announce the pregnancy to the rest of his family until she’s had times to come to terms with it. I don’t know if it’s just pregnancy hormones but I’m so annoyed about it. It’s our first child and I’m excited and want to be able to discuss it but she wants us to stay silent. Am I overreacting? Should we be giving her more time to adjust until we tell other people?

Huge congratulations op.

I agree with some others that you might want to be a bit more assertive with her. It sounds to me as though she is bullying you. You’ll want to nip that in the bud.

Your dh/dp should be outraged also at his mothers behaviour surely ? He should also be having a word with her.

Odd that you called her ‘our mil’ and said ‘we are pregnant’ - feels a bit as though you may find it difficult/unusual to stand up for yourself ?

She sounds really unpleasant and your dp/dh should be sorting this out right now, firmly, and you should be sharing your great news with your own family and friends and getting love and support rather than stress and manipulative c**p.
Congrats.