Am I miscarrying? (Photo, TMI)

[scared89]

Name changed for this

I've had a small amount of red spotting at 5 weeks. Had 2 scans since and all was fine, saw the heartbeat at 6 and 7 weeks.

I'm now 9 1/2 weeks and I've been having brown/red mixed spotting on and off since yesterday. It's fairly light but getting worse - pic is of the latest spotting. It's only on tissue paper, not on my knickers atm. No cramping but some back pain ( I was sick in the night as I caught a vomiting bug that's going around, which might be why my back hurts.)

I phoned the doctor on Friday and she's arranged a scan for me at the epu on Monday afternoon, and said only to take further steps over the weekend if I fill a pad or have bad cramping.

I can't concentrate on anything and want to burst out crying. Dh says just don't think about it as there's nothing we can do anyway, but it's easier said than done. I need to go into work on Monday for meetings (will be very hard to rearrange, and no one knows I'm pregnant) and pretend everything's okay.

I will be devastated if I miscarry 😥

The risks from d and c are quite low I believe, I would second the poster who said that the pain was horrendous, and I say this as a mother of 5. it really was. I was 12 weeks nearly and it took ages to pass ( days).

Honestly it's your choice, I really am so sorry this happened to you

So, so sorry for your loss OP. It feels shit, but I promise it will get better. Take time off work and try to have your DH home for a few days, it does help to have someone next to you that understands your pain.

I had a MC at 10.5 weeks almost 2 years ago and I ended up naturally miscarrying because they were no beds in my local hospital to book me in for a D&C. It lasted days and the pain was absolutely horrendous (they refused to give me pain meds), so I would never go down that route again as it was very traumatic.

We ended up telling a lot of people, pregnancy loss is not talked about enough. I'm very open about it and I think talking about the baby we lost like it was an actual baby and not just a foetus really helped.

Giving you both a big virtual hug, take good care of you

@scared89 it really is so shit and I’m sorry you’re having to make these decisions.

There are risks with every ‘method’ some women who opt for natural or medical management end up having to have a D&C anyway. Initially I wanted to opt for the natural route but I’m so pleased I had surgical. It was so quick and painless - done and dusted. By that point I felt I’d suffered enough and just wanted to draw a line and move on.

They have to inform you of all risks, no matter how small that chance is. Ultimately you have to do what you feel you want to!

Again, I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this xxx