Am I miscarrying? (Photo, TMI)

[scared89]

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I've had a small amount of red spotting at 5 weeks. Had 2 scans since and all was fine, saw the heartbeat at 6 and 7 weeks.

I'm now 9 1/2 weeks and I've been having brown/red mixed spotting on and off since yesterday. It's fairly light but getting worse - pic is of the latest spotting. It's only on tissue paper, not on my knickers atm. No cramping but some back pain ( I was sick in the night as I caught a vomiting bug that's going around, which might be why my back hurts.)

I phoned the doctor on Friday and she's arranged a scan for me at the epu on Monday afternoon, and said only to take further steps over the weekend if I fill a pad or have bad cramping.

I can't concentrate on anything and want to burst out crying. Dh says just don't think about it as there's nothing we can do anyway, but it's easier said than done. I need to go into work on Monday for meetings (will be very hard to rearrange, and no one knows I'm pregnant) and pretend everything's okay.

I will be devastated if I miscarry 😥

I found when my miscarriages started with brown blood that it had 'bits' in. (sorry) like tiny little tissue like flecks, and within a day or two I had severe cramping and it was all over.
What you've lost looks okay to me, obviously I'm no expert though. Fingers crossed for everything being okay and the rest of your pregnancy being worry free.

How are you feeling today?

I feel your pain OP, with my first pregnancy I had my 11 week scan on the Friday morning and started bleeding that afternoon just after we'd given the parents the go ahead to tell people. Had the horrible wait over the weekend for a scan on Monday morning, as well as having a house guest friend of DHs who was visiting us before emigrating to Canada, so couldn't really cancel and had to just carry on whilst obsessing about the bleeding. Anyway, my bleeding was a mixture of brown and bright red, and also at one point a fairly sizeable clot. I also had no pregnancy symptoms at all. However, the scan on the Monday showed DS, who has just started at uni this year.

With my second pregnancy, I had similar bleeding, although without the clotting, at about 9.5 weeks, but was less anxious after the first time, and waited until the 11 week scan. Again, everything was fine, and DS2 is currently in his GCSE year.

I really hope it is similar for you...the staff at the time said some women are just more prone to unexplained bleeding than others, and never did work out where it came from.

I've had brown blood very similar to your pictures in both of my pregnancies. In the first it unfortunately indicated a missed miscarriage (I was supposed to be 12 weeks but a scan revealed baby hadn't developed past six weeks).

In the second case a scan revealed a tiny blob with a heartbeat. That blob is now a healthy 20 week pregnancy

So it's hard to tell. It may be fine, or it may be a sign something is wrong. I understand the limbo and torture of waiting for a scan (in my MMC I also started bleeding on a weekend and had to wait over 24 hours for a scan). Good luck, I have everything crossed for you!

Im currently 12 weeks, went to the loo on Wednesday morning, wiped and the tissue was covered in bright red blood. It eventually tailed off into brown spotting, a bit like in your pic. Anyway I went to the EPU the next day for a scan, baby was safe and well, heart beating and moving around. I really thought the worst had happened especially as I've had little to no symptoms (saying that though I didn't have any symptoms whilst pregnant with DD)

Sonographer put the bleeding down to just my uterus stretching.

I googled everything when the bleeding started and I came across loads of threads like this, and I have to say I read lots more stories with a positive outcome as opposed to a negative one.

Not all bleeding necessarily means the worst has happened. I know how scary it can be and its so difficult not to think the worst, but try to think positively. If it gets heavy or bright red of course take immediate action!

Hope everything turns out okay

Fingers crossed that all will be well 🤞🏻

I haven't had any spotting so far today. Last night and this morning I had occasional shooting pains in my abdomen. If I hadn't had spotting I would have just put it down to growing pains.

Feeling a bit more relaxed and clear headed today. I had a bit of a cry about it yesterday, think I needed to get it out of my system. Braces for the worst but still hopeful everything's okay. Not looking forward to going to the scan on my own tomorrow, dh can't get out of work 😖

Think positive - it looks like old blood, baby was fine at seven weeks and if a heartbeat is detected then things are usually ok, also no cramping is a good sign. I have had bleeding with DD2, now ten months, at nine weeks, and current pregnancy, 9 weeks, a couple of weeks ago. Let us know how you get on tomorrow x

I had similar in this pregnancy. Started around 9 wks until 11/12 weeks. A brown discharge just like yours. Still pregnant and due nxt week. From reading up I think it might have been yolk sac disintegrating and placenta taking over at that stage. While it's brown no need to worry.
Had Mc at 7 weeks before which started as pink discharge then bright red then clots.

Good luck at scan tomorrow x

I really wish people would stop giving wrong advice. It’s heartbreaking. Any bleeding in pregnancy needs to be investigated. Brown blood could be old blood but, as in my case, brown blood was me losing my mucous plug at 10 weeks. I had no pain. No cramps. Saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks (medical professional told there is no correlation between seeing the heartbeat and less chance of miscarriage)
Came on mn for advice to be told ‘it will all be ok, it’s only bad if it’s red and you’re cramping’ well that’s a load of crap. Was diagnosed with a mmc.

OP I really hope everything is ok but I urge you to prepare yourself for the worst news whilst praying for the best.

Thanks everyone. I am bracing myself for the worst just in case. Just keeping in mind that I need to keep it together to drive myself home, so I need to make sure I've come to terms with the possibility of bad news. Just wish dh could come too

Had a tiny amount of pink/light red spotting this afternoon. Seems to always happen in the afternoon/evening. Wonder whether that's because it's triggered by activity during the day. If the baby is still there tomorrow I'm going to ask them what they think it is, though I doubt I'll be able to answer.

Good luck OP. Any close friend or family you can take with you for a hand hold? Let us know how you get on x

Oh OP, so sorry you're going through this, I know the worry and anxiety well. Good luck for today, my thoughts will be with you.

For what it's worth, your picture looked just like the early stages of my miscarriage. Had no pain or anything until bleeding had become red. In my next pregnancy I also had some brown spotting, felt exactly like you: crying, anxious, fearful for the worst etc. GP thoroughly unsympathetic & had to self-refer to epu (lucky to be able to do that). Anyway, baby was fine & is now a strapping 5 month old. So I suppose I'm trying to say it could go either way, you'll get an answer today anyway and at least you'll know. The not knowing is horrible.

It might be encouraging that you've had bleeding previously this pregnancy and everything was ok with the baby still? Really hoping for the best for you today. You poor love having to go on your own, like pp said I hope you can find a friend/family member to go with you for a bit of support. Not the same as real life support but we are all here for you.

@SausageBrain @Gobletoffire unfortunately not, we haven't told anyone and tbh most people will be in work and my mum has my sisters kids during the day.

In work this morning as I have meetings scheduled, hopefully will take my mind off it. Will let you know the outcome.

Hope you’re ok Op

Hope you're ok too. I'm going through something similar and have a scan at 10am tomorrow morning 😪 xx

Unfortunately it was bad news. There was no heart beat and they think the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks (I'm now almost 10). It was really horrible hearing the news on my own and driving home alone, just waiting for dh to get in from work at half 5.

Don't know how to feel really. I know it's just one of those things and it doesn't mean we won't have a successful pregnancy in the future but it's like our whole imagined future with our little family has just disappeared and we're back to the drawing board

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Miscarriages are always horrendous but I think missed miscarriages are somewhat more cruel.

I had two last year and my first one was pretty much exactly the same as yours. I only had brown spotting at 11 weeks which everyone reassured me was old blood therefore normal, it wasn’t obviously.

It is an extremely tough thing to go through and the important thing to remember is to be kind to yourself .

Thanks @OutPinked. I don't know what to do now. Whether to tell anyone about the miscarriage nor not, as no one even knew we were pregnant. Which option to pick, natural, pills, or surgical. I hate the fact that I could start to have a painful miscarriage at any time, including in work. And I'm terrified of what I'll see when it does happen

I'm so so sorry, op. How awful to hear such devastating news on your own and having to get yourself home. Not long now until your dh will be home and you can have a cuddle. So sorry for your loss.

All those things you said about being able to try again are true but don't make the pain feel any better right now. Of course you will be devastated, I felt the same about our imagined family when I had my loss too. It does eventually get better but be kind to yourself, take things an hour/eventually a day at a time.

What will happen now? Will you carry on with things naturally or is surgery an option? (You don't have to answer)

So, so sorry @scared. I was so hoping for a better outcome

Like I said, I've previously had a missed miscarriage and it was horrendous. I opted for the surgery and it was absolutely fine. Much easier, at least physically, than I anticipated.

So so sorry again. Take care of yourself

Hello, cost of all I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had 3 mc's and five live births so have a bit of experience.

With my last mc I opted to just do it naturally and it took lots of waiting for it to start, it was really painful and I wish I'd gone for the d & c tbh as there was no need to go through all of the when it could have been over in a day and recuperation would have been faster I feel.

I really hope whilst you decide what to do that you are taking care of yourself, I'm so sorry you were on your own and I hope that DH is with you soon so you can supper each other in this difficult time

So, so sorry for your loss

@Scared89 I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m devastated for you, it’s the worst feeling in the world when you are told that your baby passed some time ago.

As for management, when I had a MMC back in June I opted for a D&C (ERPC). The initial thought of being put under general anaesthetic scared me but I’ve heard some awful stories about waiting for the fetus to pass naturally and similarly with the medical management.

I’m so pleased I went for the surgical route. It was done and dusted that day, very quick procedure (15 minutes) and I was out later that day. I felt mentally better and as though I was now able to draw a line under it. I’d spent the days before absolutely beside myself and sobbing.