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Can I take baby and partner to scan?

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 20:22

8 month old baby, don't want to tell anyone I am pregnant yet so don't want to leave baby as will look suspect. Will he be okay to come to scan?

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JLG19 · 18/09/2018 20:32

Yes, I'll be doing exactly the same in a few weeks. If baby gets restless, your partner may need to take them out.

rebelrosie12 · 18/09/2018 20:37

Yep, I think most people take their other children. We certainly did.

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 20:38

Cool- thanks.
He should be okay as new environment will keep him distracted. fingers crossed as I'm nervous and want partner to be there- just in case!

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sirmione16 · 18/09/2018 20:39

Ours advised children weren't recommended to come in - but probably in case they were distributive, a baby should be absolutely fine. I would take them in.

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 20:42

Thanks all

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bandbsmummy · 18/09/2018 20:45

Ours say you can't bring children into the room so best to check with your hospital.

Namechangemum100 · 18/09/2018 20:46

Yes, my DD was 8 months old when I had a scan for Ds , they will be fine about it.

lambdroid · 18/09/2018 20:49

My letter said no children, but took my partner and 15 month intending for them to wait outside and just pop in at the end if it was ok or if there was anything abnormal etc.

Lovely sonographer said it was totally fine and they both came in for the whole thing.

SharedLife · 18/09/2018 20:52

How will baby cope if, God forbid, you get bad news and become very upset?
When I was told my baby had a terminal condition at 12 weeks I was overcome. I couldn't imagine having another child with me to see that. Obviously fingers crossed it will be a very happy occasion with good news, but I do think its a risky choice.

sirmione16 · 18/09/2018 20:57

@SharedLife he's 8 months old. He won't understand anything apart from the fact his parents might feel sad, and even then they'd do their best to hide it from him probably.

rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:20

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Daisy2990 · 18/09/2018 21:21

Our hospital has a sign on the door saying no children until after the medical checks are done -- I think you would be best to ring them and ask (unless your partner is happy sitting outside with your baby)

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:22

Yes, although I'm hoping no children doesn't include babies.

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TangelasVine · 18/09/2018 21:23

Depends on the hospital. Mine was no children but it said so on the scan letter so that was quite clear.

SharedLife · 18/09/2018 21:24

rubyroot so pleased me sharing about my devastation at learning my baby was going to die could amuse you.

SweetheartNeckline · 18/09/2018 21:25

Our hospital policy is one person to accompany for the scan, no children, staff will not keep an eye on kids.

I would strongly consider going alone and leaving your baby at home with your partner.

If there are delays it could be tricky with a little one in tow. If you get bad news it will be tough having him there. If other people in the waiting room are getting bad news, it might be unbearable for them to see your 8 month old baby. Plus, why expose little one to all the germs etc in the hospital unnecessarily?

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:27

Not that part obviously @SharedLife- so sorry if I upset you, rather the idea that my baby would somehow be harmed in some way if there was bad news!

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:29

If other people in the waiting room are getting bad news, it might be unbearable for them to see your 8 month old baby.

What is this for real?

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:31

@SweetheartNeckline- because seeing dozens of happy pregnant women waiting for scan and going into scan will have no impact.

I might ring hopspital to check, but the other concerns flagged up don't really hinder me.

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Scatteredthoughtss · 18/09/2018 21:32

I think you should just stop now, rubyroot, you are coming across as rather callous.

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:32

@Scatteredthoughtts- please see post above. Was not intended that way.

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rubyroot · 18/09/2018 21:34

@Scatteredthoughtts- oh please, why callous? Because I don't think I should leave my baby at home in case it upsets someone in the hospital is an adequate justification?

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SweetheartNeckline · 18/09/2018 21:36

You've clearly made your mind up. I would not entertain taking an 8 month old to a medical appointment (much less an antenatal scan) if there was any other option, which is why I suggested leaving with your partner. Yes, my post was "for real" and in good faith, but glad myself and SharedLives sharing our personal experiences has caused you such hilarity. All the very best for your pregnancy.

eurochick · 18/09/2018 21:37

Ruby I actually did a sharp intake of breath at your post. Where is your empathy? You laughed at a post in which a poster mentioned receiving awful news.