Can I take baby and partner to scan?

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8 month old baby, don't want to tell anyone I am pregnant yet so don't want to leave baby as will look suspect. Will he be okay to come to scan?

OP there's no point starting a thread if you are going to do what you like anyway. I also think it's best to stop now.

Please consider others like a PP said

OP I took my baby with me to my scans. Never a problem whatsoever. I just took food and books to keep her entertained. There's 15 months between my two.
Congratulations by the way.

Blimey OP

Empathy bypass on every level

Also your comments to @SharedLife, whilst I accept the fact you aren't laughing at her situ it just shows how wrapped up in yourself you are that you read that post and the only bit that you seemed to take in was the one about you

The q was can I, rather than should I?

@SweetheartNeckline- my response was not to that part of your post and I responded without thinking- so sorry about that. I am sleep deprived, pregnant and was not thinking clearly- but I should have been more sensitive- you're right! I have experienced loss myself and know others that have also experienced devastating loss- so really wasn't intended.

I should have identified the part of your post which I found a little silly, rather than saying the post made me laugh- as clearly it didn't

Meant @SharedLife

@iMatter I am prepared to accept empathy bypass regarding SharedLife, but not in regards to other women getting upset at 8 month baby in scan room- given that there will be lots of pregnant women there.

@Lauren83- yes currently I am wrapped up in myself, I won't deny that.

Ok - you can't in our area, no. Phone to check by all means.

@TangelasVine I have apologised for my stupid mistake, I don't need to apologise for anything else

Obviously its your choice but I'm with people daily though my job who have pregnancy scans that bring bad news (IVF clinic) and I have had pregnancy loss through IVF myself. It's never bothered me through 8 years of infertility seeing people with babies but I know it can be heartbreaking for others so if you have another option please please consider others

@Lauren83 the scan area is connected to the maternity ward, there are babies walking in and out everywhere- I think people are getting very picky for no reason and jumping on the bandwagon.

Like I said I am sorry for my original insensitivity.

My post was can I, rather than should I. As posters have pointed out- sometimes children are not allowed

In our area you are not allowed, they are strict on it, I sat and witnessed a very irate dad to be kicking off about it in the waiting room on one occasion. I would check with your hospital beforehand.

I'm always bemused when people ask these types of question on MN, as if you are going to get a guaranteed correct answer on here.

Just ring the hospital, don't ask a bunch if strangers who have no idea what your hospitals policy is

I left my 10 month old with my dad while DH and I went to the appointment- the letter stated no children should attend and right enough when we got there, the very busy waiting room was all adults so everyone else seemed to have taken the request on board.

I've been on Mumsnet long enough to realise that not everyone gets good news at these scans, and didn't want to cause anyone any additional upset by bringing my loud and chatty baby when it wasn't necessary.

At our unit there's always a few babies or toddlers around and over the summer holidays there were quite a few older kids too. The families all seemed to go into the scan rooms together.

Our hospital doesn't allow it.

No children or babies allowed in sonography rooms at our hospital.

As a sonographer we ask all patients not to bring children with them to scans and only one other accompanying adult- antenatal or normal radiology.
Children can be very disruptive and distracting while we are trying to concentrate on the scan/measurements and also distracting to the mother i.e fidgeting, ignoring questions, messing with equipment etc.
And yes not everyone is getting happy news so it's not always an appropriate environment.

An 8months baby is not old enough to be causing major disruption (guessing they can't walk yet?) . But older children or even todlers might.

Monday55 - you seriously think an 8 month old baby isnt old enough to be disruptive when they are screaming for the whole 20 minute scan because they can't sit cuddling their mummy? While the sonog is trying to get specific measurements and needs to concentrate? Or while the midwife is asking mum important questions about the pregnancy?

8 month old may disrupt the concentration of the sonographer.
I took my 4 year old and sadly was given devastating news at 20 week scan.
I wish she hadn't been there. she still remember 10 years later

I had to take my DS with me to both scans as I don't drive and couldn't get him to his nans in time before going to the hospital. But she met me there and watched him in the waiting room whilst I went in as he wasn't allowed in the scan room.

They can't stop you from bringing children into certain common areas of the hospital so if you have no alternative, having someone go with you and watch your little one is an option.

I'm baffled by the notion that a baby isn't classed as a child.

So there's a rule for one and a rule for another

Check with your hospital on their trusts policy although it's usually clearly outlined on your letter.

I went to both 12 and 20 week (and every appointment so far) alone as we have young children and our trust clearly says no children.

If your husband / partner is around nearby with baby then should you need the support they are still there.

The guidelines are there for a reasons and are there for all to adhere to.

No children at all allowed in during the scanning. I have witnessed people kicking off in the past.
I had to have an early scan on Monday for bleeding. I also had to take DS as I couldn't get anyone other than DH to watch him at short notice as DH already had to leave work early and drive us.
It did mean I had to be scanned, vaginally, alone, and if it was bad news I would have found out alone.
Obviously the EPU is different to the normal maternity unit, I apologised for DS being there because I knew it was sensitive. One woman asked to be moved to a private room when we arrived. While we were waiting to be seen someone was crying and was escorted out the back door so she didn't have to see the other pregnant women in the next room.
If I had any other options at the time DS would have been left at home with someone (a decision I do not take lightly as he has never been left with anyone else, ever), but it was an emergency and short notice.
As soon as I found out I was pregnant I made arrangements for childcare for the 12 and 20 week scans as I know all children are definitely not allowed.
I've saw a single mom turn up with one child on a pushchair and they sent her home as staff were too busy to babysit and they are not allowed in the room, no exceptions.
I didn't know any accepted children in the room, so I would just phone the hospital as different hospitals clearly have different rules.
DH might miss out on the scan of you don't have alternative child care, it's definitely best to ask and get a back up plan.

I think as long as the scan can be carried out properly without distraction it should be fine. I think the main reason they don't like children in scans is because of distraction and in case it's not good news. An 8 month old baby will be unaware of what's happening so won't be aware if something is wrong but they could cause a distraction if they are restless / crying so I think if they allow it, your partner should be prepared to pop out with the baby if that should happen so the person doing the scan can concentrate. Scans are a medical procedure to check on the health of the baby so it's important they can do that properly. I would ring ahead an confirm though.