waiting for amnio results

[cloud9]

dear all, i'm 17 weeks, my triple test results showed my baby had a 1:3 chance of having downs, had amnio on wednesday and waiting for his results. i just wondered if anyone else had been in this situation, and was willing to share with me what they did and how they coped with a positive result for downs. i've been in bits all week thinking about what to do. already have ds(4) and dd(2). thanks

dear all, sorry it's been so long since i last posted,i want to thank you all for your fantastic support and good wishes. went in on thursday,i was so touched that so many of you remembered, it was a painful but mercifully quick birth. the staff were shockingly thoughtless, i thought it was just my hormones but even dh said same amd he's usually oblivious to that kind of thing. they made us feel like we were doing something terrible. even the doctor was asking one of the nurses if she was ok when she saw me holding my baby. he was tiny but perfect and beautiful and we got to take him home that evening when we left-at least i knew he was safe with me. still feeling very numb, and also very empty. seems so unnatural to go through all that and come away with no-one to nurture. every time i look at him, i feel engulfed with guilt that i let him down. we've decided to call him baby blue, having him cremated on wednesday. you're all amazing to have shared so much with me- i can't quite believe that so much has changed since my first post. i just hope he's at peace wherever he is, and can forgive me. lots of love to all of you x

Cloud9- Sorry to hear what you've been through and how you were made to feel at the hospital. Whatever anyone says you did the right thing for you and that is all that matters.
Take care, you and your DH need each other.
My thoughts are with you through this sad and emotional time.
Love PPS XXX

cloud, so very sorry you've had to go through this- sending you all my love and strength xxxx

cloud, i'm so sorry please be kind to yourselves xx

Poor you, cloud9 and your DP

I hope the service on Wednesday goes as well as can be expected. xxxx

I'll be thinking of you on Wednesday, cloud9, and wishing that you find peace in the coming weeks. I'm so sorry that you were made to feel that way at the hospital, makes my blood boil. I'm sure that Baby Blue knows how much you love and wanted him and that no forgiveness is necessary - you're still his mum and he'll know that you've chosen to suffer so that he wouldn't have to. My love to you all, xx