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Is her bump too big for the amount of weeks?

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CautionHormone · 07/09/2018 01:04

Hi all - not sure I’m posting in the right place, so I apologise if I’m not!

My cousin, who is also my best friend, found out she was pregnant a while back. She’s 14+3 today, but her bump looks too big!!
I know that may seem a bizarre thing to say because all women show at different times and in different ways with every pregnancy, but she seems to have been showing since she was about 8 weeks. Only slightly to begin with and it was more bloating than bump, but her bumps seems to have popped. I saw her on Tuesday (14+1) and her stomach was perfectly round and it’s hard. I didn’t think that it could be so big by this amount of weeks? I’ve always said to her she’s a month ahead because of how her period was in the cycle she fell pregnant and it just makes me think I’m right 😂

Also, her 12 week scan put her at 12+4, but the measurement on the top was 14cm. No idea what it actually means, but most women’s scans - actually, all of them - that I’ve seen from 12 weeks seems to be about 10cm. Wondered if anybody thought the same as I do?! She’s considering getting a second opinion with a private ultrasound!

Is her bump too big for the amount of weeks?

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Goostacean · 07/09/2018 01:15

That’s a lovely bump! But... it is quite big. This was me at 18 weeks.

Goostacean · 07/09/2018 01:16

BUT everyone is different! Is it her first pregnancy/baby? Apparently second babies show much faster than first.

LMDC · 07/09/2018 01:17

As you said, all women show differently. I was showing by 8 weeks, measuring four weeks ahead mid way through and 4 weeks behind by the end of my pregnancy.

The measurements trained sonographers take via ultrasound are much more reliable than the size of someones 'bump'. Trust the professionals and leave it to them - if necessary they can alter the due date at the next scan (and it would only be a matter of days out in normal circumstances).

ThirdChildFourthPile · 07/09/2018 07:59

I was that size at 14 weeks. It was 70% bump and 30% boating.

That and I make big babies.

Her bump is fine.

Sunshine275 · 07/09/2018 13:50

That’s not too big that’s similar to mine, I’ve always carried big. Was showing by 10 weeks with first and 7 weeks with this one. A lot with just be bloatedness for now xx

cheesefield · 07/09/2018 14:00

I think you should take that photo down if that's her. The tattoo could be very identifying.

Butterymuffin · 07/09/2018 14:06

Has she actually asked any of the midwives or other health professionals she's seen about this? If it's just you speculating, without wanting to be rude, that doesn't count for much.

mumofmunchkin · 07/09/2018 14:11

I would believe the measurements taken at the scan. Medical professionals rely on those measurements for dating for a reason - they are the most reliable way of dating a pregnancy.

Fatted · 07/09/2018 14:14

I was probably a similar size with both my pregnancies. I was short so my bump showed more. Plus I had big babies and I was fat.

MrsSnootyPants2018 · 07/09/2018 14:16

Her bump looks fine. I'm only 16 weeks but bigger than I was with DD.

honeysucklejasmine · 07/09/2018 14:16

Did she ask you to post this?

Girlwiththearabstrap · 07/09/2018 14:17

I think that's absolutely massive for 14 weeks tbh. But what's on the outside that early doesn't always correlate with what's inside. As long as her doctors and midwives are happy with the scan measurements that's all that matters. There's no such thing as having a big baby at the 12 week scan. Human foetuses grow at the same rate until around 14 weeks. It's why they can date a pregnancy reasonably accurately by a first trimester scan.

yetanothernane · 07/09/2018 14:31

I didn't show until about 30 weeks. Friend at work was 2 weeks behind me, but at 8 weeks you would be forgiven for thinking she was full term. The poor lass was huge (bump wise).
Some people don't even show at all and don't realise they are pregnant, everyone is different.

spugzbunny · 07/09/2018 14:36

In the nicest way possible ... it's really not your business and plead stop telling your cousin she's too big! I was massive all the way through my pregnancy and had a healthy 7lb 7oz baby. People show different and at that stage it's mostly bloat. Leave it to health professionals

dinosaurkisses · 07/09/2018 14:36

I’m 13 weeks with dc2 and my “bump” isn’t a kick in the ass off that!

I asked the midwife about it and she said it would be a mixture of bloat and the fact that it’s a second pregnancy so close to my first (only eight months between pregnancies), my stomach muscles have just given up.

I’m very very self conscious that it’s not a “real” bump, even though I had to dig out my maternity clothes three weeks ago.

mintich · 07/09/2018 14:52

Both my bumps have been massive! I have a small torso though so it goes straight out as there is not much room. Everyone's different and bump size doesn't equate to size of baby. My friend had a relatively small bump with a massive baby!

Notquiteagandt · 07/09/2018 14:56

You wouldnt tell someone they where too big / small or fat / thin. But why as soon as you are pregnant do people think this is fair game? It can be very damaging from the woman who is struggling to adapt to her bodies changes or worries about her baby if constsntly being told too big/small.

Does your cousin know you have put this up?

AromaticSpices · 07/09/2018 15:02

Whether the bump is "too big" or not I don't think you should be posting pictures of someone else on mumsnet.

And please stop telling her you think her bump is too whatever, I'm sure the health care professionals looking after her know what's what.

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CautionHormone · 07/09/2018 15:09

Wow... I didn’t realise a simple question could cause so much issues 😂

Yes she asked me to post this. Yes she asked me if she looked too big. Yes she’s wondering herself if she’s further gone. Hence why she’s happily standing for a photo to be taken, one I could put on here because she doesn’t come on Mumsnet herself.

I’ve said to her since the minute she found out that she’s further gone because of how her period in the cycle she fell as so far from her normal cycles. She had a miscarriage about 6 months before she fell and I was the one who was with her when she found out both times and the one who was with her when she miscarried last time due to her partner being at work and taking a while to get home.

Thank you to the people who actually answered my questions instead of assuming I’m calling her too big all the time and putting up photos without her knowing. We spoke about this together because she asked if it was normal to have a bump that big, because nobody she knows has shown so quick. I said I didn’t know and that all bodies and pregnancies were different (as I’d already said) but I think it’s quick to show for how many weeks. I don’t stand there and call her fat, I actually say she looks gorgeous. You can’t automatically assume and you don’t need to have such a complex about it!

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Meltedicicle · 07/09/2018 15:12

I was massive at 14 weeks with my first! She was only 7lb born though. I thought the scans were quite accurate in terms of dates.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 07/09/2018 15:13

It's one of those really variable things, isn't it? I remember visiting a friend on the way to a wedding. I can't remember how many weeks pregnant my friend was but she had a very noticeable bump. At the wedding two days later the bride wore a sheath-style wedding dress with a very flat tummy. It later turned out that friend and bride were due within three days of each other, both perfectly normal pregnancies, both normal births. So anecdotally at least there is a huge range of 'normal'.

Thesearmsofmine · 07/09/2018 15:18

There is a wide range of normal. I am short and grew outwards quickly.

CountessVonBoobs · 07/09/2018 15:27

There is absolutely no way, at all, that her scan dates were a month off and she is a month further on than the scan said. None. Scan dates have a margin of error, but it's measured in days. And the difference in development between a 12 and a 16 week foetus is significant and could only be missed by a sonographer too drunk to stand up.

Her scan dates are correct (within a window of a few days). She is just carrying larger than some women do. For now. So what?

howdyholdthedoody · 07/09/2018 15:37

What a lovely bump!
She might not get bigger for a while though, I had a spurt up to 20 weeks then bump size growth slowed down to the normal rate and I ended up measuring two weeks behind by the time I had baby (at 41w)! So baby might just fill the bump nicely!

twiglet · 07/09/2018 15:37

Her dating scan would be the most accurate thing if that gave her an edd then it's correct.
Everyone shows differently and it will depend on a number of factors such as fitness (how strong your core muscles are), the way that the baby is sitting, fluid retention etc.
If she is concerned then she will have her 16 wk appointment soon with her midwife and can discuss it I don't think she needs a private scan. I had one for finding out the sex and found that my baby likes sitting high up but it makes my bump look a bit strange!

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