Glass of wine...... yes or no?!

[babyhopeful2018]

I'm looking for advice?!

I'm heading away on a overnight business trip next week with 3 other work colleagues.

I'm only 8 weeks and I don't really want to tell people until my 12 week scan.

We are going out for a meal on the Tuesday night and I know they will expect to be ordering wine for the table.

Will 1 wine spritzer be ok or should I stick to none at all?!

Also does anyone have any good 'excuses' not to drink at events xx

You're on antibiotics. No alcohol please! At 8 weeks you're still a little high risk so I wouldn't. You have to think, if you did lose the baby would you always wonder what caused it... Not worth it IMHO.

Plenty of people don't know they're pregnant and have wine but why take the chance for the sake of 1?

I’d start saying mid afternoon what a terrible headache you have and then use that when the wine arrives.

I’ve had the odd glass here and there but not before 12 weeks

Yep go ahead but I’d keep it small and not have one regularly at all. When I’m pregnant and keeping it quiet I always accept most drinks and just don’t drink them. When someone is directly speaking to me I pick it up and sip and chat so it looks like I’m properly drinking but I’m not really. Sometimes I claim a stinking headache and even excuse myself to ‘grab a panadol from my bag’. Then I fake drink a bit and if I want to cut off the pouring, I say my head is still banging (after clearly showing myself accepting and drinking earlier).

It’s a fine art, I’ve had lots of practice. But usually at most only have to drink half a small glass to cover my ass.

I would defend anyone's right to have the odd glass of wine during pregnancy and had a few myself over the course of two (healthy) pregnancies, after about 18 weeks.

The likelihood is that no harm whatsoever will be caused if you do have a glass of wine.

However, at 8 weeks I would have struggled to drink wine anyway due to nausea, and having had a miscarriage at 11 weeks with my first pregnancy I know struggled enough wondering if I had done anything to cause it without adding wine into the guilt mix.

Let them pour you a small glass of wine, after everyone is eating and drinking no one will actually notice if you drink it or not. If anyone does just say you aren't really feeling it tonight/ have a headache etc.

Basically don't make a big deal out of it and no one else will notice any way.

A small white wine spritzer will do NO harm, AT ALL!

I would have a wine spritzer.

A small glass of wine will be fine.

I'd have a spritzer. I had the odd glass over my last two pregnancies and am doing the same with my third. Prosecco mixed with soda and ice is v nice!

I wouldn't but I'm over cautious. If you don't want one say your on antibiotics for a reoccurring UTI that way nobody would be able to tell. It's not as if you have a ear ache and are complaining about it x

Not sure OP why asking on mn when plenty of online guidelines from healthcare professionals who will advise you on what is best for baby and you.Is not the professional advice the best?☺

No you're pregnant. You don't need a glass of wine.

I wouldn’t, but it’s entitely your choice.

Don’t say you’re on antibiotics though - it’s a see through excuse!

No please don't, you've got a precious tiny baby inside you!

you'll get loads of people saying they drank and their baby is fine. they are either wrong or very very lucky.

do not even have one drink. it's not worth it at all. drinking alcohol in pregnancy is extremely selfish

A Spitzer will be fine. If you'd enjoy it, have the one.

If you don't feel like it then just drink soft drinks and say you have a headache/the heat is making you feel a little unwell IF anybody even comments. Don't say antibiotics. IME it's quite normal for some people in the group not to drink which could be because they are driving or just don't feel like it that night so probably nobody will even notice and you're more likely to draw attention to yourself by explaining.

Nah.

Its like giving someone a bag of sweets when they are on a diet and saying "you can only lick one"

Totally pointless and tempting.

Wait until baby is here.

Also since it's a Tuesday- you could say you never drink in the week, it's a weight loss plan. If your appetite is also affected this could be a great excuse to stick to more plain/light food too.

I had a few glasses once I was in second trimester and totally comfortable with that. I didn't early on though and wouldn't if I were you. I'd just pour a small one and not drink it. Just bring it up to your lips occasionally. The only excuse I ever believe for not drinking if it's someone who could well be and normally drinks is driving.

One small glass is unlikely to do any damage, especially if you nurse it over the course of the meal (gives your liver time to process it rather than having a huge whack of it in bloodstream for baby) or even better leave most of it. If it's easier to accept one, and you're able to avoid drinking it just out of habit, I reckon that's the most discreet way - moreso than asking for a spritzer if you don't usually drink them.

It's better not to drink in the first trimester, when it can do most damage, but remember that the advice in Europe (eg France) does allow women to drink a little throughout pregnancy, and they are OK. Bingeing is the real killer.

But honestly, do whatever is doable and that you feel comfortable with. Don't let anyone here make you feel like a monster for your choices. I fully intend to have a glass of wine or two when I've passed 12 weeks, and I did have less than a glass of champagne for toasting at a wedding recently. I'm fine with this.

I wouldn't. I wouldn't start making random excuses either - just order a coke or something. Your choice though

You'd risk your baby's health just for the sake of your colleagues? Medical advice is that NO amount of alcohol is safe during pregnancy.

Seriously? Why risk it?

You are in charge of your body. You get to choose what you consume. Just order something else. I don't understand the need to explain your choices to anyone else.

'Why have you ordered a lemonade?'
'Because I wanted one'.

Thanks for all your replies.....

I think I'll go down the 'headache' routes as it's an intense training session I will be on anyway!!

I've not had one drop of alcohol yet and the next 9 months won't bother me I know but as I am just married I know if I say I'm not drinking especially when staying away people will automatically assume!!

Was just wondering other people's thoughts - obviously I know your told by midwives not to drink but just wondered what other people in same situation had done!xx

I wouldn't at 8 weeks. I'm 21 weeks and did have a weak shandy last week. And I'm going to a wedding soon where I'll have a small glass of fizz for the speeches, but I would wait until you are past 12 weeks.