My husbands a knob!

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I'm pregnant after having 6 mc!
My daughter and husband is evil!
My daughter is 5 and is a complete daddy's girl!
This morning I told my daughter to go back into the living room to eat her breakfast before shes late for school! She starts screaming! Husband ran in and daughters holding her neck! (bear in mind that I didn't touch her!! ) she's told him I pushed her in the neck!!
So me and hubby just had a argument over it because what ever she says it true! Even my 6 year old told him I didn't touch her! But he still believes her 😔 so we rowed and he turns around and says to me you best go to the docs and get rid, cuz if this is your attitude!! I can't stop crying! After so many heart breaks he says that! This isn't the first time she has said stuff like that to her dad and also the school. Even at school she fell over and said my mum pushed me! I wasn't even there! 😔
I've just been offered a house for the family for a fresh start. He says Im not into him anymore! Even tho I don't want sex as it might cause me to lose again!
I relly can't stand my daughter anymore! Nd my husband is being a dick! How the fuck can I prove to him that she keeps making stuff up!
If I sat next to him on the sofa she will cry and hit the other kids or give me dirty looks. Husband keeps saying it because I jealous!..... Of what!......... I'm so fef up!

Have you spoke to the school about her behaviour?
Is she well behaved at school ?
It might be worth mentioning it as they can give you extra support to help ,( we had a early help family support worker who was great , she used to come into the home and even told my husband he needs to parent more , as he was very lax and left everything up to me ) it might be worth mentioning it .
The husband front I can not help you with I am afraid. But I hope you managed to get the help you need.

Told the school told a doctor but they just said she will grow oflut of it and the even if she didn't she wasn't eligible for a support worker or theripst ect ! All the school said was that they will watch her! She's fine at school it's only when her dad is around she's a little sod! X

And every day I cook clean ect for 3 kids and a man! I don't no thanks for anything! And eventually it's 9pm I'm sitting down to watch TV! And run up and down the stairs fmto screaming kids! He'll say fancy giving me a bj! Err no I haven't stopped I'm knackered... His response will be ur going off me! Or you should of gone bed when the kids go. Hahah who the hell will clean up. Do the dishes! wash there school clothes!? Cuz he doesn't do a tap!! He sits on his arse all day saying I need sex! ! If I don't get any I might end up having to find someone who will.... Go then!!!

Kick him out. Seriously. Not forever, just long enough to give him a shock and hopefully he'll realise he can't carry on the way he is. His behaviour is TOTALLY unacceptable and I'm sure you'd find life easier without him around.

Get rid of him you can do miles better! Also last chance resort if he doesn't believe you about the kids behaviour, put secret cameras around so when she does that behaviour you can show the footage back to him

Woah your daughter is not evil and hate is a strong word.

Your husband is the problem and if you get rid of him your daughters behaviour will improve. Stop seeing her as the enemy!

Why are you with him?

When our daughter isn't around and it's just me and him and the other 2 kids. It's perfect! It really is! But as son As our daughter is there it's a nightmare! Seriously none of her siblings are allowed near him or even talk to him cuz she will lash out or have a tantrum or chuck things! Until she gets what she wants. If her dad isn't there she's fine!
My boys daint go to their dad if there hurt cuz she will hit them and shout get away from my daddy he's not your he's only mine. And when her dad has said like no I'm all of ur dads and stop being naughty she will head but him! So no its not just him what is the problem! On mother's day the school got all the children to make cards. She made one and told the teacher I don't have a mum so I'll give my card to my daddy! Even though I was the one taking her and picking her up? The teacher gave me the card and she snatched it out of my hand and ripped it up saying your not having it. If I can't give it to dad then no one has it! Her behaviour towards other kids at school is fine! He behaviour to her 2 brothers is horrendous she hits bites slaps ect. She even broke their bday presents cuz she didn't have one! Her dad is useless tbh he can't cope lookin after the kids. I don't even have a night out. Tbh I have been out 2 times in 2 years and then I had to put the kids in bed before I went. ! If she does a poo only dad can change her other wise she will scream and cry saying ow you u hurt me before I've even done a thing! She has to wear nappy because she apparently doesn't get the feeling yet!?!? Xmas is a disaster every year cuz she doesn't want her toys she wants her bros. So then they get pissed off and cry. She is a nightmare and anyone can say that she isn't but I different!!

Jesus. You can't stand your five year old?!

Get rid of your husband. He sounds worse than awful. Then maybe you can start rebuilding your relationship with your little girl.

Ok, cross posted there. She's five and not toilet trained? Perhaps you should take her back to the gp? Sounds like there's more going on?

Like what! She has a consultant and everything like that and they say she Will start getting the feel for a poo soon enough. But don't rush her into using the toilet. Focus more on her schooling! I don't hate her at all I'm just getting a bit fed up with it. It's everyday! None stop!

You need to step up and be a mother to your child. She is not the enemy and she will sense your dislike of her. The things you're saying about your 5 yr old are out of order. Knock off the self pity and find help for her problems.

I Have even rang social services to ask them about everything and they went bothered they said they can't help. The only thing I could do was get in touch my my gp and get them to refer her to an occupational therapist.. So I did that! But guess what... She's not entitled to an occupation theripst! She doesn't meet the criteria!!! I've told a hv but again nothing they can do I just have to persevere! All I get told is she will grow out of it. She's been like this since she was 2 and a half! But she's getting worse every day!

Gamer chick! Watch ur mouth OK! I get 10 steps forward and then knocked 20 steps back.! Unless you've been in my situation but out!! I no I should be doing more and chill out more! But I never act any different towards her than I do the others! OK!! That's why I'm having a rant on here!!!! I keep it locked up in my head!

The problem is to change her behaviour you have to be on the same page as her dad. He isn't doing her any favours by undermining you. Your problem with her lies with him.

Gamer chick. I haven't said anything out of order about my daughter I'm telling u all what she's like! I haven't said anything wrong! I either moan and rant on here and get out or I have a bad grumpy day and then THEN the kids would no something up! I don't tell her off or punish her! I don't shout at her or treat her any differently then anyone else!

He is to soft with her! That's why she's like she is. I no! But have you ever tried telling a man how to teat his kid! Have u ever had to try to educated a grown man... I have and it doesn't end pretty!

And I won't watch anything thankyou. You are the parent who is ratifying a 5 yr old and she will notice that you look at her with growls in your eyes whether you treat her the same or not.

What one one time does she get with you? Time away with just her mother. She needs you.

I have a kid with significant SN, I know more than you think. She isn't doing it to you on purpose.

He's soft with her and you don't discipline her. How is she supposed to know how to behave then?

I forgot to say even a hv has told him to firm up and stop letting her do what she wants cuz it will get harder! But even then he doesn't want to no its goes over his head. And if I had it out with him all he says is yes but she's my little girl! I can't be hard on her!! So yes I have tried several times to tell him! But he doesn't realise that it me it's affecting. I have to explain to people why she's like that! So what I might do is let him do everything for her until he has enough! He can cook for her clean for her change her bum take her school buy her clothes take her to all the appointment!! Yes I might just do that

Gamer chick. If I was to take her shopping or mc donalds just me and her she will cry and cry and cry until she gets home!!! FYI she is a send kid herself! That's why she has so many consultants ect! And I have told them all what I have told you today and they said they ain't bothered!! There's nothing they can do until she 7!

And if it makes me a bad person for having a rant and a moan then God strike me down! !!!

Everyone saying that you're out of order and that it's not the child's fault doesn't have to live with her like you do.

I do agree that you need to take more control. This might be a bad example but it's like training a dog. You can't give into everything they want. If she want's daddy then you need to step in and say no, I'm here. Get your husband to leave the room and you deal with her. You have to be consistent, take control, put your foot down. She will definitely be able to sense your disapproval of her which is why you need to try even harder.

You have to remind her that you are also her parent....whether she likes it or not!

When kids do something wrong, you tell them off, take a toy away, give them a time out etc.

My 6 year old gets grounded if he's naughty. No technology, limited play and no pudding even if he eats all his dinner. For us, this works and he learns his lesson. It sounds like your daughter needs more structure from you when your husband is around but at the same time your husband needs to be on the same level and supporting you.

Definitely set up some hidden cameras as it's clear your husband needs to see for himself what she is like. Maybe then he will start to realise what she is like and you can both work together to sort these issues out. Good luck OP

Ok you can tell you're at the end of your rope. She's little enough to undo her learned behaviour but you and your husband need to be on the same page. Or split up for her sake. This can't be nice for the rest of the household all these what sound like daily battles.

I wonder if something like an assertiveness course for you might give you the tools you need to get some control back and a parenting course for both of you so he can learn the tools he needs to parent? I know what it's like trying to get outside help for a kid with extra needs you have my sympathies. You have to learn how to deal with the system to be able to fight.

I'm more worried about your husband issues. He sounds horrible. Are you sure you want to be with this guy. If my DH EVER spoke to me like that he would regret it. X

Your posts are making me angry and sad in equal measure.

Your daughter is five years old and obviously dealing with some issues but the way you talk about her is absolutely disgusting. She is still a little child and whilst I accept that her behaviour is extremely challenging, she is not the enemy and more importantly you must not become her enemy. You are her mother, an important source of comfort, support and love for her and you absolutely cannot withdraw this just because you're finding her difficult.

The worst thing about your posts are that you are so obviously directing a lot of the anger and frustration you feel towards your DH to your poor daughter instead. He sounds like a lazy, manipulative man who as an adult is absolutely responsible for his actions. How can you describe your relationship with such a man as 'perfect' when your daughter isn't around when he is a lazy, sex pest by your own admission?

I think you need to get your priorities sorted and really have a think about how treating a 5 year old as a scapegoat for all the problems in your troubled relationship might be contributing to the issue. Your poor daughter deserves better!