Pregnant after miscarriage.. how to stop worrying?!

[CobaltRose]

Hi everyone.

My first pregnancy sadly ended in a missed miscarriage and subsequent ERPC back in April. I was 12 weeks and it was utterly heartbreaking.

On Tuesday I discovered that I was pregnant again. It's very early days (I was only 9DPO when I found out) but we are both ecstatic.

However, I must admit that having a previous loss has taken some of the joy out of this pregnancy and I'm constantly worrying about having another miscarriage. Every ache or twinge I'm worrying, every time I go to the loo I'm checking for blood. AF is due on Saturday and for some reason I panic that she will turn up, even though she obviously won't!

I am so so happy that I'm pregnant again, but also so scared

Has anyone else had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage? Really needing a hand hold right now

Firstly, sorry for your miscarriage

Secondly - for a positive story - Me! My rainbow baby, following infertility and then a miscarriage at 10 weeks and then one at 17 weeks, is now 4 and currently napping next to me :0)

It wasn’t easy and I don’t think I “enjoyed” that pregnancy for more than a day or so without the worry coming back. I also remember the constant toilet trips to check. It’s hard but it’s worth it. Try breaking it down into chunks, that’s how I got through in the end. First I aimed for 6/7 weeks for an early scan. Then 12 weeks for the proper scan. Then 17 weeks to get past the previous loss. Then 20 weeks for another scan. Then 25 for viability etc. It seemed to go so slowly but it really helped to have short “goals”.

Congratulations

Thanks Haribo, I'm so happy you got your rainbow ❤ I'm just trying to take each day as it comes. I've also booked an early scan for eight weeks. Now I've just gotta survive the next four weeks without driving myself mad with worry!