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My partner wants me to abort our baby

22 replies

Letmebe1 · 26/05/2018 11:34

I'm roughly 5 weeks pregnant with my 4th child this will be my 3rd baby to my partner ex or whatever he is! We have been on and off for 12 years and as I said already have children together He's told me or more like demanded I have an abortion and if I dont he will kick it out of me and threatened to hurt my family I have no proof of this to go to the police I really want to keep my baby but feel like I have no choice is there anyway at all the clinic will say I can't go through with it?

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Teateaandmoretea · 26/05/2018 11:38

Proof is irrelevant you need to go to the police and stay away from this dreadful man whether you terminate or not.

Only you decide, it is your body simple as that.

yasmin0147 · 26/05/2018 11:41

You need to tell the police, he has threatened you and your unborn child, that need to be logged. It’s your decision if you keep it not his. Take your time, know your options and weigh the pros and cons. But definitely contact police, he sounds dangerous.

Pengggwn · 26/05/2018 11:42

Police. He has threatened to kick you until you miscarry. Doesn't matter if you have proof - it happened and they will have to take it seriously and protect you.

BettyBaggins · 26/05/2018 11:43

He's not allowed to threaten you like this. Have you talked to supportive family?

colditz · 26/05/2018 11:43

You cannot have an abortion, you don't want one. Ring the clinic while your partner isn't there and tell them everything you've just told us.

neonyellowshoes · 26/05/2018 11:46

Please, please talk to the police.

Do you have a friend or relative that you and the kids can go to? Please get out of this situation and away from this psychopath.

Your children need their mother alive. What he's threatened to do could kill you as well as your unborn baby.

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Letmebe1 · 26/05/2018 12:51

I have no where to go as he will find me I just feel backed into a corner I have a telephone consultation in a few days so il tell them everything and hope for the best thank you

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coffeecoffeemorecoffee · 26/05/2018 12:57

Just to let you know that if you do end up going to the abortion clinic they insist on seeing you alone for the initial chat etc so if you are somehow forced into going to the clinic you will still have a way out.

Get away from him though, sounds like a vile man.

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Letmebe1 · 26/05/2018 13:11

Thank you but I'm trying to get away but it's hard with the other children

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BettyBaggins · 26/05/2018 13:26

Have you tried speaking to Womens Aid?

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Letmebe1 · 26/05/2018 17:43

No I haven't iv only known a few days so just trying to get my head round things and see what I can do

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Raspberryjamming · 26/05/2018 22:18

I'm in the same situation as you and I literally posted what you have last night. He's even got his mother calling me trying to get me to terminate cos he's not ready for another, well they should have thought about that before they started sticking themselves in places shouldn't they! Abortion is not a form of contraception like they seem to believe.
I'm not going to be bullied into anything i don't want to do and neither should you.
Could you go to your parents or any other family? It's half term just act like you're going out for the day with the kids somewhere you can stay for a while.
And you don't need evidence if someone has said something like that just call and report it cos if anything more ever does happen (heavens forbid) you'll already have something recorded.
Whatever you decide feel free to pm me, we seem to both have the excellent choice in men Confused

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Letmebe1 · 26/05/2018 23:40

I have pm'd you and just read your post iv have pretty much brought all 3 of mine up with no help at all from anyone so trust me when I say you will be able to do it just get yourself in to a routine from the start and things will work out and if you need to move so be it will be a nice fresh start for you and your little family things will work out and yes we have the best taste in men 😑

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MoseShrute · 26/05/2018 23:46

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Letmebe1 · 26/05/2018 23:59

Because I don't agree with abortions and I was on the pill so not like it was planned

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Dinoraw · 27/05/2018 00:04

Please go to the police and get away from him

Raspberryjamming · 27/05/2018 00:04

Don't we just Envy
I'd personally have rung the police as soon as he said it but even if you just want him out and he won't go you can call to get them to remove him from your house, I doubt a coward like that would do anything with people watching.
You've got more restraint than I have because if anyone threatened me and my child like that I'd castrate them! Solves his problem of not wanting anymore kids for him too Grin

QforCucumber · 27/05/2018 00:05

Has he said why he wants you to have an abortion? Money worries? House or jjst because he doesn't want another? Have you discussed it? I do not agree with his methods of saying so, for that hes an absoloute arse and agree you need to speal to someone, but his reasoning may be reasonable.

Raspberryjamming · 27/05/2018 00:07

Oh gosh reading that last bit I look like a bit of a psycho :/ I'm not usually this bitter, I've had a tough week, don't judge me Internet Blush

rcat · 27/05/2018 00:11

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Letmebe1 · 27/05/2018 00:12

Hahaha castrating him seems like a good idea he's going tomorrow if I have to stay out all night or park the car somewhere else then so be it!!
He doesn't want another and we can't afford it but money isn't an issue if he's out of the equation but it's more because he can't handle been a dad

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ferntwist · 27/05/2018 07:10

That’s such a terrible thing to say to you. So glad you are kicking him out. Please tell everyone including the police what he has said.

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