No one to organise a baby shower for me

[CathyandHeathcliff]

I don't have many friends and especially not in this area as I've recently moved here in the past few years so I don't think I'll be having one sadly.

Going to a friend's in July as she's due in August but no one to organise one for me

I never had one, I think they're an American thing and didn't know they were that popular?

Do you really want one?? Do you have your parents or in-laws that would throw you one. Or your partner?

Personally I think going for afternoon tea with a few friends (work colleagues or family members) works much nicer. Xxx

I never had one but find them a bit off. But each pregnancy I focused on how isolated I felt (I wasn't actually but felt it).

Plus you can have a lovely pregnancy and healthy baby without one. I hope your pregnancy goes well and everything else is fine.

I've had four babies and zero baby showers, I find them a little crass to be honest. None of my friends have had a baby shower.

You could organise yourself a little lunch out with friends if you want a last hurrah before the birth - get a groupon voucher for afternoon tea at a nice place or something.

I’ve got friends but didn’t have a baby shower. I didn’t realise they were expected now? I’ve been to a few but also know plenty who didn’t have one.

You can organise your own. All of my friends except one did that.

I didn't have one for the same reason. And didn't have a hen night for the same reason. And have never had a birthday party for the same reason. It sucks when everyone else has friends and nobody cares about you.

3 kids and zero baby showers .....crass is an understatement!

I've 4 DCs and 11 neices and nephews. Also have 4 good friends with children (6 children in total so far) and out of all those pregnancies 1 has had a baby shower.
So I wouldn't worry that you are missing out.

However I would try and build up your support/friendship network if you are pregnant. I wish I had made more effort in recent years! I did with my first but then moved, did with my second, moved again, then with work and 2 children it got much harder. - by this I mean getting to know neighbours, trying to be helpful to them, going to antenatal classes if possible, helping family etc

They are very naff anyway.

Yep no hen night either...maybe I'm anti social...I did marry abroad but still had 36 turn up in Dominican republic!!!!

They are quite a recent innovation in the U.K. I had my D.C. ten years ago. No one had baby showers then.

I'm not bothering! I can't be dealing with loads of people buying me things I don't need or already have! Plus I've not wanted to do much in the lead up to my due date..

I'm going to just have a meet and greet afternoon once the baby is here

They're a bit naff anyway OP. Maybe have a third trimester spa day or something to spoil yourself instead?

They're a bit naff tbh - pretty much everyone I know has DC's and I've only been to one.

I much preferred seeing everyone after the birth. Was lovely when friends met the baby. End of pregnancy can be hard good g too, so you might not feel like it.

I wouldn't worry too much, I've not had one and I'm not upset by it. I won't be having one this time either. My friend had one and to be honest it was a bit of a pain because obviously you are expected to bring gifts, and then it is the norm to bring a gift once baby is here so feels really like they're getting 2 lots of stuff from everyone. (Usually duplicated guff not actual essentials)

I’m not keen on baby showers either, but I do understand the sadness of feeling lonely. I struggled to find a bridesmaid. It was rubbish.

Most of my friends and a lot of family have DCs, including myself and none have had showers.

If you want one can you not organise it yourself?? Or organise a lunch with those important to you in celebration?

I just had a small get together after the baby was born as a celebration/meet the baby and it was a lot nicer.

I agree with the PP above though, I would try and forge new friendships/join groups etc. as not having many friends around you can make motherhood very isolating.

Happy my eldest dd is 19 and I had a baby shower for her.

I didn't have one and I felt a bit sad about it. Was working in a temp job too so didn't get a send off from work. It's ok to feel sad about it, even if other people think they're naff.
You could arrange something small yourself, afternoon tea maybe with a couple of friends?
I recommend trying to find a network of other mums though for once your baby is around, the days can feel very long otherwise!

I hadn’t realised they had become so popular that people feel hard done to if they don’t have one

Personally I think they’re extremely naff and grabby, and I would certainly never have wanted one, as the superstitious part of me would be afraid of tempting fate by celebrating an impending arrival before being safely delivered. But everyone is different I suppose.

Thank God there was no Facebook when I had my babies, so I didn’t see photos of carefully edited, smug materialism ...

I've never had one,never been to one,never known anyone who has had one...you'd just end up with a load of random crap you didn't want.....but I don't think that's what your saying.i think your upset you don't know many people close enough to call a friend??? That will change with baby groups ,and pre school ,you will meet other mums x

I don’t like them, they panic me. I don’t like the idea of having lots of presents given to me for a baby that hasn’t safely arrived yet.
Nor do I like having a party just to be given presents. I agree they are grabby.
I’d rather have a get together with no baby shower aspect.

Ive got two kids (5 & 2), never had one, never even been to one! And pretty much all my friends have kids too.

Sorry you feel sad about it. I can understand. Plan something nice yourself whilst you still have some freedom!