How do I get partner to understand how tired I am?

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It's my first pregnancy (that's made it past 5 weeks). I'm tired. Exhausted even. I don't sleep properly at night and when I'm at home I end up falling asleep during the day until 11/12 o'clock. I work full time mon-fri and have horrible morning sickness that I'm trying to cope with. DP stormed in today at 12 and demanded I get up, telling me I'm just going to make myself more tired. I explained that I was awake all night feeling sick and have finally managed to sleep and that I think I know when I need to sleep or not. He thinks I'm being lazy (I've never been a lazy person in my life).

This, along with pregnancy hormones, is making me feel incredibly unsupported and like he doesn't want to try and understand how rough it is feeling like you have a hangover all the time. His ex who he already has a child with didn't have morning sickness apparently, however that doesn't mean that my pregnancy is going to be just as hunky dory!

How do I make him understand? I feel like he doesn't care...

I didn't realise pregnancy was so awful either, I had a terrible time and that was with a very supportive partner.
I really hope things get better for you.

I have a terrible time in pregnancy, I’m 7 months now with no 2 and it’s still easier than the first 4.5 months. I didn’t cook (or eat) , clean, I slept half the weekend, no visitors. If my dh wasn’t supportive he wouldn’t be here, this is what I go through so we can have children.

Having an awful pregnancy here too OP you're not alone. I hope you've found a place to sleep for the night, a long, undisturbed sleep, and a lovely lie in.
I haven't left the house in two weeks - other to go to hospital because of hyperemesis - so I totally sympathise with the tiredness. I was meant to be visiting DPs family on Sunday to have dinner and share the good news and I don't think I can face it! If your DH wants to think someone's lazy, just tell him I've had to be signed off sick 3 out of 8 weeks because when I'm asleep it's the only time I'm not sick!

@colditz I do really appreciate your advice but if I looked for a new job in my home town I would have to choose a whole new career path. It's not doable to just forget about my education and masters and decide I want to do something else. Even if I did decide to move, baby wouldn't have their dad around which isn't fair in the child. He may not treat me well but he is a wonderful father.

We own a house together, a car, have holidays booked and a perfectly supportive relationship before I became pregnant. I think it would be premature of me to just up and leave...

I think you just need to be really honest. Sit him down, explain how rubbish you feel and how normal that is and it's making you see him in a very different light. In fact you are now questioning your relationship. It either changes, or you will do this alone as right now, you are anyway.

Give him a chance to pull his socks up. If he doesn't, then you have your answer. Hope you feel more human soon, the 1st 12 weeks are horrendous especially as few people know you're even pregnant. Your body is doing an amazing thing, go with what it's telling you to do .

I'm coming up for my 14th week and the tiredness is JUST starting to ease up. My sciatica is decidedly worse though and my BF is the exact same as your partner.

Compares me to his friends who have had kids. Actually SHOUTS at me for not keeping on top of the house work (I work 40 hrs pw nightshift). He complains he has to pick me up from work in the morning.

Worst of it is, he is the one that wanted a baby in the first place!