Unreasonable?

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DH and I are expecting our first baby we are 25 weeks but have been super organised and the nursery is ready complete with cot, Moses basket etc. His step sister had a baby in December, all very exciting. Anyway his step mum has bought said child over today whilst his dad is helping him with some projects. I’ve been out all day. DH has said that whilst he and his dad popped out she put the baby to sleep in our baby’s cot... he wasn’t overly impressed but I’m fuming. It’s our baby’s room, we have worked hard to make it special for our first child and wanted it to have the first sleep in there. I don’t think it’s helped by the fact that DH’s step sister hasn’t bothered to make a nice nursery for her own baby, so it feels a little like step mum is trying to steal our thunder. I really want to say something. But I’m not sure if I’m just being hyper sensitive

Goodness I wouldn’t be bothered in the slightest. Take a few deep breaths and let it go. I’m sure no offence was intended and you would come across as petty or even unkind if you complained. It’s not a big deal. Choose your battles- this one shouldn’t be it.

I do think you feel these things with your first born. If that had of happened to me I would have been so upset!!! But now, not so much. I think once you have baby you might see it in a different light. But there is no point in saying that now because what you feel now is valid. But it is different once you have had your baby.

I'm at almost exactly the same stage in pregnancy as you with my first child and despite all the people saying this is a 'first pregnancy' thing I can't understand at all why this bothered you! I feel like I'm missing something.

I do think you feel these things with your first born

I didn’t

You must burn the cot and anything else that baby touched. It's all ruined now. RUINED!

I genuinely cannot fathom why this would be a problem. It really isn't an issue and I really can't understand why you would be "fuming".

Sorry, I've just had a day of a 5, 3 and 2 yr old fighting over who got their croissant first, who got down the stairs first, who touched my hair first (I said it was soft so they had to fight about that), who got out of car first, who got their bagel first, who sat on which cusion (but it's MINE) etc. Sigh. These things don't matter even though you of course feel the room was HERS and SHE should be the first to use everything. Understandable but objectively unreasonable.

First world problems as usual

You sound nice

I get it, it's your first.

They really won't have meant anything by it though. I think you're reading too much into it. The baby was just tired and needed a nap.

My nephew slept in my sons brand new cot before he was born. I didn’t care it was the safest place to put him to sleep and his safety was more important to me than keeping the cot for my son. I appreciate you might be slightly upset but the baby needed somewhere to sleep that was safe for them.

I personally would be upset by this too!
Did you buy the cot second hand? If not then it's second hand now!
I would never think it was ok to go to an unborn child's bedroom and put a born baby in the cot! Without asking as well! Disgusting!
That's just my thoughts!

It's not second hand now! Goodness what an over reaction.

Wow, you're such a kind person.

My beautiful nursery was all set up really for my first baby, and she was still born. Trust me after you've gone through that I would happily have every baby in the village sleeping in "her" cot and her first nights sleep there would still be just as special. It's the baby that matters, not the "things"

Disgusting!

What’s wrong with you? have we seriously become so spoiled in the uk that a baby sleeping in a cot is disgusting??

iam

You need to calm down. God there are so many women who would cut thier arm off to be in your position. Have a bit of perspective

@iamloading sorry for your loss 💐

@iamloading so sorry for your loss I lost my first baby and never really believed that my second would actually come home to her nursery until she was there.

Christ my baby had a second hand crib and cot. At least three other children had slept in them before DS. It doesn't matter, honestly, and like pp says, once your baby is here and needs a nap, you'll understand!

A baby, sleeping in a cot, made for babies to sleep in, is disgusting?? Seriously?

Having the nursery perfectly set up so early is frankly a bit odd. We set DD's up when she was about 5 months old. DS is 3 months and it'll be a while yet. Wouldn't it be nicer for it to be all new and fresh when they use it rather than gathering dust for months?

I'd feel annoyed about it aswell .. but it's probably overeating- pregnancy hormones don't help.

You’ll have to wash the bedding before the baby sleeps in it anyway as it will have gathered so much dust by the time the baby is actually here.