Unfriendly users!

[sunandfire]

Don't get me wrong, there are a bunch of helpful, polite women on here, but why are so many of them the opposite? The moment you express a view that's a little out of the ordinary or unconventional (in a completely innocent, polite way, mind you), they can become really blunt and quite horrible. I don't have this problem with other groups/online forums I'm on - only Mumsnet. Any little thing I mention about nutrition, lifestyle, medicine etc (in a completely harmless and respectful manner), they'll interpret as malicious in some way and respond with all this rudeness and sarcasm, which I really don't understand. Sarcasm seems to be a particular favourite amongst users. It's not a very welcoming community, I don't find - not unless you fit a very specific box of thinking. I didn't realise women had it in them to be so blunt and unfriendly. Never before, either online or in real life, have I come across such a bitter, 'chip on their shoulder' community of women. If this isn't your experience, I'm glad, but unfortunately it's been mine. I dunno, maybe I'm just a millennial 'snowflake'...

Anyway, I think I'll get off this and stick to my other groups/forums. I always click off the app feeling confused, frustrated and misunderstood... :/

OP, I'm sorry you feel this way. I do think that posters on here sometimes seem to be being mean for the sake of it, as is evidenced by some of the completely unnecessary attacks on you on this thread.

On the other hand, I think the majority of posters are well meaning and supportive so maybe you have been unlucky in your threads. Why not lurk for a while and see how you feel? I do find MN on the whole has refreshingly sparky and interesting posts.

Careful OP. Singling out individual posters for your ire is really not cool.

It's funny, I love the sarky responses I get on MN, they don't bother me at all. I'd rather people had a range of opinions and were prepared to argue about them. I also don't keep a 'shitlist' of people who've offended me. Then again, I do work with teenagers, who are renowned for their strident opinions

@sunandfire
Personal attacks/singling out individual posters for unpleasant comments is frowned upon, and is an example of the unkind behaviour you feel so strongly about.

There you go again - bleating people are horrid to you but making a personal attack. Not ok.

Well, I just lost it, but I also have my closure, so I can leave now. I feel pleasantly refreshed. I don’t care if that was immature - it did wonders for my mental well-being!

You know nobody was stopping you leaving before, right?

And I think you just nearly demonstrated why people struggled to be pleasant to you.

I don’t care if that was immature - it did wonders for my mental well-being!

Are you five?

I thought you were flouncing. Why don’t you just go if this site is so awful?

Seriously OP, how childish could you possibly sound? And singling people out really does not make you the good guy here.

So long now, don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out

Ok. Ive reported your post. Not because I'm particularly bothered if some random person thinks I've been rude in an online forum. But if you're genuine I don't think this level of fixation on people/things is healthy and I don't want to prolong it

You need therapy.

Don't take this the wrong way OP, this isn't meant to offend but if you are pregnant please talk to your midwife or health care professional about your mental wellbeing. There is a lot of additional support that can be offered.

OP, having done a quick AS on your current username I say this with nothing but kindness - I think you need to step away from this thread and possibly from MN. It is not doing your MH issues any favours.

Going against the grain OP, I agree. I came onto MN about 7 years ago and was really helped on the sleep forum when my DD would not sleep. Since then, slowly but surely, but particularly I would say in the last three or four years it’s become horrble. Rude people desperate to sound edgy and intelligent by making others feel small. I come on and read occasionally but as others have suggested on here I think I actually might try netmums or....gasp...not bothering with any forum. I wish you all the best for a continued healthy pregnancy.

OP I too just did an AS of your posts and was wondering if you should maybe speak to someone about your anxiety? When your baby arrives, they will bring with them a whole heap of new worries, and it's always useful to be able to canvass opinion and get support.

I found your Group strep b thread and didn't think the responses were rude or sarcastic at all.

As mentioned, if you are suffering with anxiety and depression at the moment then that will affect your perspective. Coupled with a pregnancy and the associated worries I think your view may be slightly skewed and of course you'll be sensitive to criticism.

I agree with others, step back for a while or join one of the very welcoming support threads on here for anxiety.

I really think you need to get some help. Not in a nasty way may I add. We all need a bit sometimes. I don't think I have ever come across anyone on here who takes random comments from random strangers so seriously and so personally. How do you ever receive criticism from people in real life. I think you need to seek advice from a professional and leave these forums as you'll end up unwell.